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Old 03-21-2019, 11:13 AM   #1 (permalink)
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New tricks for old dogs......


I didn't wave a permanent goodbye to alcohol until I was in my 50's, following an "illustrious" 35-odd year drinking career.
I just wanted to provide some reassurance & hope to others of somewhat "mature age" (he says delicately!) by saying that old dogs certainly can be taught new tricks, as long as those old dogs are open-minded & willing to learn.
Change is hard, & often harder as you get older & perhaps a little more set in your ways. Established patterns of behaviour can be hard to identify & break.
But it can be done!
I wish everyone here success & good fortune. Take care & stay strong
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Thank you! Just what I needed to read today.
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Old 03-21-2019, 01:28 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Thank you,Purpleman. I agree. I was 50 and itís been just over two years. It may be more difficult older, Iím not sure. But it is certainly possible and so rewarding. I donít think I could have done it without the therapy I received because there are a lot of deep layers to get through to change old habits and behaviors.
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In my 50's also. 2 1/2 years just around the corner. It was hard getting to the quit point but I feel I've 'out-grown' it. Building a new sober life and lov'n it. SR is what kept me moving forward.....
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Old 03-21-2019, 06:39 PM   #5 (permalink)
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In my 50ís also. Been drinking for the majority of my life. Itís over now. Itís been 21 days since my last drink, bottle, hangover and Iím just done. Every once in a while a small voice tries to unhinge me but itís not that strong. Itís weird. I know thereís still a chance of relapse (I have a wedding this weekend) but I feel oddly strong. F u wine. Youíre not the boss of me. Thank you for posting and thank you for listening ❤️
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Well done on 21 days Chrissy1104 & thanks for posting....awesome!
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This old dog is now 66 and quit when I was 50. As to new tricks... I am younger today than I was at 49!!! More along those lines, in my 60's (and in recovery) I went back to school and changed careers (after 40+ years). Woot!!!
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Began my sobriety journey in my late 40ís and honestly think itís easier to stay sober the older I get. First of all, the body doesnít bounce back the way it used to; the older we get, so are the after effects of drinking. Second - we have much more to lose: families, careers, people depending on us. And perhaps the biggest motivator of all is that we are starting to ponder our mortality and do not wish to excelerate it by drinking. 🤔
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Thank you,Purpleman. I agree. I was 50 and itís been just over two years. It may be more difficult older, Iím not sure. But it is certainly possible and so rewarding. I donít think I could have done it without the therapy I received because there are a lot of deep layers to get through to change old habits and behaviors.
Couldnít agree more Purpleman. Iím 58 & 7+ months - my personal best was 14 years ago. Feeling good. The AV is the new trick for this dog.
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My AV is saying.... "35 years? It has only been 9 years for me. I could continue this for a couple more decades!"

But I get your point. Thanks. I am, well, about 2/3rds to 50, and when I get there, I'm going to be happy and sober. And not.... gone.
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Thank you, Purpleman. I was older too when I finally saw what needed to happen. Trying to moderate for decades cost me dearly. I'm so glad we got free.
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This old dog is now 66 and quit when I was 50. As to new tricks... I am younger today than I was at 49!!! More along those lines, in my 60's (and in recovery) I went back to school and changed careers (after 40+ years). Woot!!!
Wow Nez, that's great!
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I quit at 56 after drinking for 44 years. Am on the final stretch to 3 years sober. Couldn't be happier, feel younger then ever, and feel like my life has just begun!
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