The Gilmerites....in memory of Gilmer
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The 16th November 2013 . . . it was a Saturday . . .
Kathy and I had something in common when we first posted in our Class thread that year, this wasn't our first time trying to get Sober, we had both rode that merry-go-round a few times, and so we didn't post on that Saturday, I waited until Sunday, at 6.24pm (GMT) and the name Gilmer popped up on the Monday at 6.16pm . . . a whole 8 mins short of exactly 24hrs apart, both of us needing something to change.
The goal was simple for Gilmer, like many of us alcohol had stripped us bare of all self respect, and before November 2013 had ended, Kathy commented on her resolve:
Gilmer went on to fulfil what became her prophecy:
Finally we made it to 5 Years . . . Kathy was soo excited in her post, and it truly was a special experience to share it with her:
I read once the definition of hell was . . . "on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became."
. . . well when Kathy crossed from this life . . . she had truly became over the last 5 years who she was meant to become . . .
She was determined, she was inspirational and, she thought and considered others in so many ways, so much so here on SR, that she will always be remembered.
16th November 2019 . . . 6 Years will come and go . . . as we descend upon our Class thread one more time, there will be a very special someone missing . . . but an angel will truly be part of that celebration!!
You will never ever be forgotten Gilmer . . . you will always be in my heart Kathy!!
Kathy and I had something in common when we first posted in our Class thread that year, this wasn't our first time trying to get Sober, we had both rode that merry-go-round a few times, and so we didn't post on that Saturday, I waited until Sunday, at 6.24pm (GMT) and the name Gilmer popped up on the Monday at 6.16pm . . . a whole 8 mins short of exactly 24hrs apart, both of us needing something to change.
Hi, everybody. I've been quitting off and on since January. I've had many, many more days sober than not--but I just had a relapse last Thursday and Friday, so I'm on my new third day sober. I hang out in the One Year and Under ("Undies") thread and the January 2013 and May 2013 group, but the other monthly groups have had members be successful and "graduate" from the board, so I'm here in the November group because I'm weak and I need handholding from others in the same boat.
I have always been likable--but just once I would like to be "respectable" before I die!
Gilmer went on to fulfil what became her prophecy:
Congratulations, Do and Br00ksie! Today I've got 4 weeks--one month tomorrow!
Hey, today is my two month sobriety date!
I just saw over on the 24 hour thread that I've got 4 months today! Yippee!
I've got five months, too. Looking forward to six months on May 16.
Today is my 8 months!
Ta-da! Today is nine months for me!
I have 10 months today. I'm getting up there! 
Today is my 11 months' soberversary! 
Nov. 16--today it's my turn!
I got my 2 year milestone yesterday.
Life is certainly much more stable now than it was 1000 days ago!
Today is three years for me.
Looking forward to catching up with you all as we celebrate 4 years’ sobriety.
4 years sober for me today.
Finally we made it to 5 Years . . . Kathy was soo excited in her post, and it truly was a special experience to share it with her:
The other anniversaries have been great, and I've been pleased, grateful, and proud to have achieved them; but the big 5 is the one I've been waiting for.
I'm thrilled that I made it! I knew I wasn't likely to drink in the days leading up to it--I just thought that the big day would never get here! The last few months have seemed to drag in anticipation!
But now--voila!
I'm thrilled that I made it! I knew I wasn't likely to drink in the days leading up to it--I just thought that the big day would never get here! The last few months have seemed to drag in anticipation!
But now--voila!
I read once the definition of hell was . . . "on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became."
. . . well when Kathy crossed from this life . . . she had truly became over the last 5 years who she was meant to become . . .
She was determined, she was inspirational and, she thought and considered others in so many ways, so much so here on SR, that she will always be remembered.
16th November 2019 . . . 6 Years will come and go . . . as we descend upon our Class thread one more time, there will be a very special someone missing . . . but an angel will truly be part of that celebration!!
You will never ever be forgotten Gilmer . . . you will always be in my heart Kathy!!
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Originally Posted by courage2 
In May 2018, Gilmer opened up the Weekender thread with this post. It's about mourning and loss of an old self in recovery.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post6890816 (Weekender Thread, 10-14 May—Tame It and Rein It In!)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post6890816 (Weekender Thread, 10-14 May—Tame It and Rein It In!)
She referred to reading Tuesdays with Morrie in this link. I read that too. You can tell she received inspiration from that book, living to the end with grace and gratitude, just like Morrie. She will forever be an example to me of how to live with dignity, compassion, and positivity even in the end. No matter what our circumstances are, we can all choose our attitude.
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Wonderful, PK. Thanks very much for taking the trouble to share that. I may not have posted actively on Kathy’s thread, but I did share some posts with her and feel I knew her.
In my opinion, this is exactly what leaving a legacy means, even if it is being helped along by others if we are no longer there.
In my opinion, this is exactly what leaving a legacy means, even if it is being helped along by others if we are no longer there.
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I always remember her talking to Cow in Cow's threads, how her and Cow would joke around and Cow would always call her Glimmer. I always thought of her as Glimmer after that. She was always extra-supernice to anybody would needed help here, really made an impression on me, her kindness and humor too.
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I knew Kathy from other forums here, I am mother of an addicted son and tend to post on that side most of the time. But Kathy's light shone wherever she posted and she posted there too.
It touches my heart to read the stories here, I can hardly imagine Kathy (or any of you) in darker days, and yet I know it's true.
Please know what an inspiration you all are to me, beacons of hope each of you. I read stories here and hold hope that one day my own son may see the light shining from people like you and surrender to the process of finding a better path.
What a legacy of hope, Kathy left us all. And joy, and spiritual growth.
Thank you Kathy, thank you to each of you for sharing your light.
It touches my heart to read the stories here, I can hardly imagine Kathy (or any of you) in darker days, and yet I know it's true.
Please know what an inspiration you all are to me, beacons of hope each of you. I read stories here and hold hope that one day my own son may see the light shining from people like you and surrender to the process of finding a better path.
What a legacy of hope, Kathy left us all. And joy, and spiritual growth.
Thank you Kathy, thank you to each of you for sharing your light.
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