sugarbear1

I am so saddened by this. Gilmer was so very sweet and kind

Calmerwaters

MythOfSisyphus

Her passing a great loss to the community. She had such kindness and empathy about her, and such grace. And she had such strength; even after the diagnosis her focus was always on helping others. I had not realized that she had passed, although of course I knew the outlook was grim. She was such a wonderful soul and will be greatly missed. Anything I say is far too faint a praise for someone who did so much for so many.

Words really fail me here I'm afraid. Let me just say that she'll never be forgotten here where her kindness touched so many. Farewell, Gilmer.

kenton

I kept thinking that she wouldn't die. I guess when someone has such a strong, calm, reliable presence .... you think somehow that they'll always be there. I kept thinking that she'd post and say that they'd got it wrong .... that she wasn't dying after all. Her strength and humour and compassion for others. .. right up until the end... that blew me away. She inspires me to be a better person and to make the most of every day I have in this world. I want to make her proud. Rest in peace Kathy and thank you xxx

saoutchik

I loved Gilmer/Kathy. I especially loved the way that until very recently and still even then, her posts were always about the wellbeing of others or interest in what other people were doing.

She was taken from us far too quickly, when she first wrote of her terminal diagnosis I think I harboured the hope that somehow this wasn't the case and that we would at least be graced with a few more years of knowing her but I will always treasure the time we did know each other even though we never met.

Jules714

Oh no...what terrible news!
What a sweet soul. I hope she rests in peace.
What a loss..
Jules

uncle holmes

A very wonderful person!!!

Kathy taught us how to live and how to die with grace when it's our time to go!!!

Mags1

I knew Gilmer (Kathy) from the ‘overs’ and ‘July ‘ threads and was always in awe of her intelligence, patience and humour.

I felt very humbled to share her thread, a different path, with the rest of the Gilmerites and learnt so much from her and all the Gilmerites. We came together as a group with open arms and love and friendship.❤️

Kathy was very special indeed and I will miss her.

aasharon90

The news of her passing has saddened me
as tears well up in my eyes and fall down
my cheek. However, I am pretty sure she
is way above us in the most amazing place
with our Lord.

You touch so many of us Gilmer, including
me and I will treasure your time spent with
with us here in SR. and I say Thank You,
Sweet Kind Lady.

FBL

I never got to speak to her in person, but like so many of us, I got to know Kathy and grew to love her through these forums. I loved her sense of humor and, although I'm hardly a religious person, I respected her strong faith in her lord and savior. Kathy marched to the beat of her own drum and I'm so glad that she brought us along for the ride. There are some people that enter your life that you will never forget. Kathy is one of those for me.

venuscat

These posts are so beautiful..... ♥

Like PJ, I speak to her all of the time....I know she is right here with me.....and I will be a better person.....am a better person for having known this wonderful woman.

Love to all of the Gilmerites and good morning. ♥

Della1968

I remember kindness, dignity and grace.

MLD51

I will always remember and be impressed with her calm acceptance and grace during her illness. I know her faith helped her in this regard. She made the most of the time she had left, and never forgot to offer support and kindness to everyone here, even though she knew her days were numbered. Many people would have made it all about them, but she did not.

I'm not much of a believer, but I'd like to think she is now bathed in the divine light, and can picture her as a part of that light, beaming through the universe forever.

Delilah1

I was always so impressed with Kathy/Gilmer's faith, and the kindness she offered to everyone on this site.

I still always saw/see Glimmer when I look at her name. I like to think she is a beautiful glimmer of light in the heavens looking down on all of us.❤️

Stubbs16

So saddened to hear about her passing. Heaven gained an angel.

stargazer016

Thanks for doing this thread Dee.

Gilmer helped me so many times when I was doubting myself and my commitment to sobriety at times over the years. She always know how to say the right thing to help turn my thinking around. Her icon of the dog looking in the mirror will be etched in my mind forever!

Highercall

DarklingSong

I associate Gilmer with the Weekender thread, where she was kind and welcoming and so supportive to the struggling newcomers. I followed the last part of her earthly journey with sadness but also was so inspired by her wisdom, kindness and profound empathy for others.
She was an extraordinary example of living well in recovery.

courage2

In May 2018, Gilmer opened up the Weekender thread with this post. It's about mourning and loss of an old self in recovery.

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post6890816 (Weekender Thread, 10-14 May—Tame It and Rein It In!)

Purplrks3647

Thanks Courage2 for sharing that link!