Please help me not to drink at a funeral
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Originally Posted by ReadyAtLast 
Hello. Just an update the fuberal was today. It's 5.30 pm here now. It was a beautiful service . Then we went for the funeral breakfast. I had water coffee and food. I drove my elderly aunt and mother home. A couple of fleeting moments of wanting a glass of wine but they went quickly. I don't drink. It's all over now. Thank you for all your support.
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Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. Sat in bed now on SR eating chocolate and drinking sparkling water. Many people had a lot to drink, 1 younger family member was really drunk talking nonsense and slurring. I am not judgmental as thought oh no that used to be me 
I am just so relieved it was not me today.
thank you for all your support. This is truly a wonderful place.
RAL.x
I am just so relieved it was not me today.thank you for all your support. This is truly a wonderful place.
RAL.x
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I thought of you today and sent up prayers.
One huge eye opener (amongst many) about being sober, during awful times like this, is the absolute horror of seeing other people drunk. They are of zero help or comfort to anybody. They ADD to the sadness.
How wonderfully awesome that you were fully present for your family. Continued good thoughts for the difficult times ahead.
One huge eye opener (amongst many) about being sober, during awful times like this, is the absolute horror of seeing other people drunk. They are of zero help or comfort to anybody. They ADD to the sadness.
How wonderfully awesome that you were fully present for your family. Continued good thoughts for the difficult times ahead.
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RAL, I know saying goodbye to your sister for the final time today was very difficult, and I'm so glad you did it sober. You also got to help support your family by driving them home.
Just know the next few days will still be filled with emotion. It took me a full month to feel like I snapped out of a trance, and still have thoughts of my mom each day.
Sending lots of love your way. Your sister is looking down and very proud of your sobriety.
❤️Delilah
Just know the next few days will still be filled with emotion. It took me a full month to feel like I snapped out of a trance, and still have thoughts of my mom each day.
Sending lots of love your way. Your sister is looking down and very proud of your sobriety.
❤️Delilah
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RAL,
I am so sorry for your loss, and proud of you that you honored yourself and your sister at her service.
Maybe you can dedicate your sobriety to her -- I know we need to do it for ourselves, but for me thinking that some angel may be watching and cheering me on helps (as does thinking how dissappointed they would be if I drank). My youngest sister was killed 25 years ago and I still think she is keeping an eye out for me (and I am not even religous...)
Lots of love in these diffficult times -- it does get better.
XX
I am so sorry for your loss, and proud of you that you honored yourself and your sister at her service.
Maybe you can dedicate your sobriety to her -- I know we need to do it for ourselves, but for me thinking that some angel may be watching and cheering me on helps (as does thinking how dissappointed they would be if I drank). My youngest sister was killed 25 years ago and I still think she is keeping an eye out for me (and I am not even religous...)
Lots of love in these diffficult times -- it does get better.
XX
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Originally Posted by Zevin
I thought of you today and sent up prayers.
One huge eye opener (amongst many) about being sober, during awful times like this, is the absolute horror of seeing other people drunk. They are of zero help or comfort to anybody. They ADD to the sadness.
How wonderfully awesome that you were fully present for your family. Continued good thoughts for the difficult times ahead.
One huge eye opener (amongst many) about being sober, during awful times like this, is the absolute horror of seeing other people drunk. They are of zero help or comfort to anybody. They ADD to the sadness.
How wonderfully awesome that you were fully present for your family. Continued good thoughts for the difficult times ahead.
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Originally Posted by courage2
I'm sorry I'm just seeing this thread, RAL. But very happy for you that you made it well through such a challenging day. And sorry for your loss 
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
RAL, I know saying goodbye to your sister for the final time today was very difficult, and I'm so glad you did it sober. You also got to help support your family by driving them home.
Just know the next few days will still be filled with emotion. It took me a full month to feel like I snapped out of a trance, and still have thoughts of my mom each day.
Sending lots of love your way. Your sister is looking down and very proud of your sobriety.
❤️Delilah
Just know the next few days will still be filled with emotion. It took me a full month to feel like I snapped out of a trance, and still have thoughts of my mom each day.
Sending lots of love your way. Your sister is looking down and very proud of your sobriety.
❤️Delilah
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Originally Posted by Dropsie
RAL,
I am so sorry for your loss, and proud of you that you honored yourself and your sister at her service.
Maybe you can dedicate your sobriety to her -- I know we need to do it for ourselves, but for me thinking that some angel may be watching and cheering me on helps (as does thinking how dissappointed they would be if I drank). My youngest sister was killed 25 years ago and I still think she is keeping an eye out for me (and I am not even religous...)
Lots of love in these diffficult times -- it does get better.
XX
I am so sorry for your loss, and proud of you that you honored yourself and your sister at her service.
Maybe you can dedicate your sobriety to her -- I know we need to do it for ourselves, but for me thinking that some angel may be watching and cheering me on helps (as does thinking how dissappointed they would be if I drank). My youngest sister was killed 25 years ago and I still think she is keeping an eye out for me (and I am not even religous...)
Lots of love in these diffficult times -- it does get better.
XX
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Just returned home which took 6 hours. It's nice to be home. Feel ok and full of sheer relief that I did not drink yesterday. Thank you all for your support. I can now catch up on SR and things around the house. Life is so much better sober.
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