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Originally Posted by Delilah1 
I hope you have stopped drinking Sweeti, I'm still not clear on exactly what was going on, but I do know you will handle any situation better with a clear head.
Have you spoken to your daughter, or did you hear from others she's been drinking. If you are back in contact that's an excellent reason to stay sober, and if you aren't yet, still an excellent reason to stay sober.
Have you spoken to your daughter, or did you hear from others she's been drinking. If you are back in contact that's an excellent reason to stay sober, and if you aren't yet, still an excellent reason to stay sober.
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Hey sweet you sound very confused at the moment
like everyone said I agree you definitely should not be drinking
it isn't going to help you one bit ...
it's going to make you a million times worse pet
I really really feel for you
hugs xxxx
like everyone said I agree you definitely should not be drinking
it isn't going to help you one bit ...
it's going to make you a million times worse pet
I really really feel for you
hugs xxxx
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Tomorrow is my new day 1. I have asked for prayer from a tele evangelist. I plan on waking up and putting up with withdrawal till I get my meds from the pharmacy. Tomorrow is meant to be cooler. Wish me luck everyone.
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Really nervous about day 1. I know what to expect intense anxiety and cravings. Feeling like absolute shift .But it has to be done. No more excuses or this is too hard. I am fighting for my life literally.
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You can do this sweeti--you've done it before, and this can be the last time you ever have to go through it.
My thoughts and good wishes are with you today.
Eat some good food, take plenty of hot showers, drink lots of water,
and cuddle up in bed with a book or old movie when you feel crappy
My thoughts and good wishes are with you today.
Eat some good food, take plenty of hot showers, drink lots of water,
and cuddle up in bed with a book or old movie when you feel crappy
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Sweetie, if you are expecting severe anxiety it is more likely to happen. Try and think positive and about the good that will come out of it rather than the negative. Don’t make the day a self fulfilling prophecy. Do nice calming things for yourself for the first day, meditation, run a hot bubble bath and have a pamper day, have some nice cakes and sweet treats to nibble on, watch an uplifting movie, join an online SMART or A.A. meeting so you are not isolated for the day. If you want to be sober you can be if you put in the work x
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Sigh. I wish you the best SC.
Once you are through detox I hope you will think about your relationship with reality.
Addiction not only causes profound neurological changes that hijack our brains, but pretty significant cognitive ones as well. In order to continue to feed my addiction I had to create a massive wall of denial, rationalization and justification in order to keep doing what I was doing. My addiction literally distorted my ability to view the world around me in any logical way. And that was necessary to allow myself to continue to engage in dangerous, disturbing and unhealthy behaviors.
I had to smash the idea that my drinking was ever 'because' of anything. That there was ever a reason to drink. I drank because I chose to drink rather than choosing a different course of action.
I'm sure you've heard in AA that addiction is a 'disease of perception'. And while I don't necessarily agree with the wording, the idea is spot on. And its tough because I have to fix my broke brain with my broke brain.
It starts with total honesty. I suppose if nothing else, try to strip away that your addiction has a rational...because it doesn't. If nothing else, face that you drink because you don't know how to change your actions and responses to things you can't control. I'm the same way. I'm learning slowly for sure. But it absolutely requires abstinence. And total. complete. honesty.
Again, I wish you the best.
Once you are through detox I hope you will think about your relationship with reality.
Addiction not only causes profound neurological changes that hijack our brains, but pretty significant cognitive ones as well. In order to continue to feed my addiction I had to create a massive wall of denial, rationalization and justification in order to keep doing what I was doing. My addiction literally distorted my ability to view the world around me in any logical way. And that was necessary to allow myself to continue to engage in dangerous, disturbing and unhealthy behaviors.
I had to smash the idea that my drinking was ever 'because' of anything. That there was ever a reason to drink. I drank because I chose to drink rather than choosing a different course of action.
I'm sure you've heard in AA that addiction is a 'disease of perception'. And while I don't necessarily agree with the wording, the idea is spot on. And its tough because I have to fix my broke brain with my broke brain.
It starts with total honesty. I suppose if nothing else, try to strip away that your addiction has a rational...because it doesn't. If nothing else, face that you drink because you don't know how to change your actions and responses to things you can't control. I'm the same way. I'm learning slowly for sure. But it absolutely requires abstinence. And total. complete. honesty.
Again, I wish you the best.
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Thanks for all the messages of support and advice. It is 4 pm and has been bearable. No real bad cravings. Just feeling pretty sick. About to throw away all the empty bottles. Frick you were spot on that I rationalise drinking all the time. I do Aa online meetings which have been changing my perspective a lot. Thanks again everyone. Your support is tremendous.
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I don’t know your story as only recently back to the site, but from what I have read you kind of sound like me. We can beat this, I know I have a habit of overthinking everything and then feel overwhelmed and the only solution to stop the insanity, I feel is to drink, the numbness helps, but dosnt solve the problems. I’ve been wanting to quit for weeks now, but told not to go cold, but I really struggle with the tapering they advise, it’s damm near impossible for me to do. I’m not defeated yet, but am feeling like this is my last chance, just wish I had a little more help since I am trying x
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