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Old 09-18-2018, 03:04 PM
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Sweeti, sounds like you really want to quit, but need more support and structure to accompolish that. You might benefit from a more intensive program than AA right now. Your situation sounds like somebody that would really benefit from in-patient treatment. Frankly, I can understand why your psychiatrist cut you off from valium. That's an alcoholic's dream cause it gives a person a reason to continue to drink knowing they have valium to reduce the withdrawals. It helps in the short-term but after that it just feeds the alcoholism. I've been there. Has your psychiatrist ever brought up in-patient treatment? John
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Old 09-18-2018, 03:23 PM
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I can only imagine the amount of newcomers, this will have triggered.
Lets be fair.

We always tell people to be honest and to ask for help if they need it and we promise to give help support and understanding and to try and give them a fair hearing.

There will always be people drinking here - that's the thing that brings people to the forum. That's basically why we exist.

People know what to do if a particular thread or poster triggers them.

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Old 09-18-2018, 05:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
Lets be fair.

We always tell people to be honest and to ask for help if they need it and we promise to give help support and understanding and to try and give them a fair hearing.

There will always be people drinking here - that's the thing that brings people to the forum. That's basically why we exist.

People know what to do if a particular thread or poster triggers them.

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Thanks Dee. Just read some of the replies. I am tapering down from 40 drinks a day.
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Old 09-18-2018, 10:44 PM
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I hate to be rude and ask, but are you saying 40 ounces of something a day or 40 drinks a day down to 8 ounces or 8 drinks? Of what? Because I'm kind of amazed you could consume that and live. I think you must be stronger than you know. I'm rooting for you and your upcoming sobriety.
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Old 09-18-2018, 11:49 PM
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I hate to be rude and ask, but are you saying 40 ounces of something a day or 40 drinks a day down to 8 ounces or 8 drinks? Of what? Because I'm kind of amazed you could consume that and live. I think you must be stronger than you know. I'm rooting for you and your upcoming sobriety.
I'm by no means bragging, but I could/would drink 40 drinks a day(strong drinks at that). It happens and is by no means safe/healthy.

Sweetchick, I'm seriously worried for your safety/sanity at this point. Why no rehab tomorrow? You say you're alone,so you wouldn't be leaving anything/anyone..why not go?
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Old 09-19-2018, 01:13 AM
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I was on 40 standard drinks a day. I have cut back to 16. I couldn't do 8 today. I can't go to rehab because they take too much of my income and I have loans to pay. I saw my psychiatrist today and if I don't stop this time he will put me in crisis care who will force me to rehab anyway. So plenty of motivation to keep tapering. Thanks for your concern guys.
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Old 09-19-2018, 01:19 AM
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sweetichick, it might be time to consider an additional loan to pay for rehab. It is possible and you can pay it back as you can.
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Old 09-19-2018, 01:26 AM
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Thanks Mera. Even I am starting to think of a way. I know I need it. Tapering is hard work.
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Old 09-19-2018, 01:41 AM
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Hi Sweetiechick, glad to hear you are giving it another shot. Most of us have made many many attempts to get on the right path before we could stay on it. From reading your posts over the past year I really do think rehab would be a great option for you. I really didn't want to go myself but I realised that being in my home environment was too triggering and I needed to get away from my standard life to give myself some breathing space to succeed. This does not constitute financial advice of any kind but is there any way you can do a financial plan and maybe consolidate some of the loans. Alternatively you could speak to Financial Counselling Australia (Telephone 1800 007 007) who can help for free and advise how you might be able to work out finances to give you a 2 or 3 month break which would allow you to go to rehab and not have to worry about the money side so much?

Best of luck xx
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Old 09-19-2018, 01:41 AM
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I can imagine. And pardon me for being so frank, but not only is it hard work, it is not likely to work without some other plan in place.
In addition, just thinking about a way is not enough, action must be taken. The good thing about rehab is that the action is taken for you if you are so overwhelmed and beat down by the battle. You get there and they take care of you and then show you the way.
Why don't you call a few places today? Some basic questions to ask:
1. When can you admit me?
2. Do you provide transportation or do I need to get there on my own?
3. What are the options for a payment plan?
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Old 09-19-2018, 01:58 AM
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Thanks guys. It's 7pm here but can't call anyone. If I get ahead in my car payments I could afford to go. I have given up smoking so I have heaps more money to drink with. It would take time though. My car payments are the main loan I have. If it goes to the car can't drink it away as well.
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Old 09-19-2018, 02:11 AM
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Good job on quitting smoking!
Well if it is 7pm there it is a good time to wind down your day in a healthy way. Why not start with making a list for tomorrow. Call rehabs, get to an aa meeting, maybe call about refinancing your car loan if you think there are better offers out there. You could end your day with a warm shower or bath and then get into bed early.
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Old 09-19-2018, 03:35 AM
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Sounds good. I am exhausted to be honest. Early night. Thanks Mera.It means a lot.
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Old 09-19-2018, 06:06 AM
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Still awake. Insomnia. Another bad night ugh.
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Old 09-19-2018, 11:26 AM
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I hate the insomnia almost the most of anything drinking causes.

You deserve a happy life sweeti--please do anything necessary to give yourself the best chance of having one. You are so worth it.
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Old 09-19-2018, 12:14 PM
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Your sober story is going to be so helpful to many who have struggled like you. I can't wait to read about it!
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Old 09-19-2018, 12:23 PM
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Sweetichick, have you considered selling the car? It could be a way for you to afford rehab very soon, and you could always buy another car at some point when you're stable.
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Old 09-19-2018, 06:17 PM
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Sweetichick, have you considered selling the car? It could be a way for you to afford rehab very soon, and you could always buy another car at some point when you're stable.
Hey Anna. Unfortunately I bought the car brand new and it has depreciated a lot in one year. They will want the money from my house. It was a good idea though.
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Old 09-19-2018, 06:38 PM
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You may be able to get free rehab under Queensland Health - it won't be the Hilton but it won't cost you your house or your car either.

https://www.health.qld.gov.au/public.../atod/services
Alcohol and Drug Information Service
The Alcohol and Drug Information Service (ADIS) offers confidential and anonymous telephone counselling and information for individuals, parents, and concerned others.

ADIS can undertake telephone assessments, provide information about the effects of specific drugs and provide advice on various treatment options. They can also help clients contact the best service for their needs.

ADIS also manages 2 specialist services:

Clean Needle Helpline: information about safe disposal of injecting equipment and location of needle and syringe programs.
Community Services Information Line: contact details and advice about specific services to meet your needs.
ADIS is available 24 hours, 7 days a week by calling 1800 177 833 (freecall).

You can also search the health service directory to find the closest alcohol and drugs treatment service.

Department services

The Mental Health Alcohol and Other Drugs Branch (MHAODB) leads policy for alcohol and other drugs treatment in the Queensland Department of Health (DoH). MHAODB works with other state and federal government agencies as well as public and non-government organisations, to provide programs and services for people affected by alcohol and other drugs use.

Services funded by DoH include:

residential treatment services including withdrawal management and support, and rehabilitation
outclient treatment services
specialist alcohol and other drug services including opioid treatment and police and court diversion programs.
In addition, the MHAODB works closely with other Queensland Health stakeholders to ensure a coherent and collaborative approach is taken when addressing statewide alcohol and other drugs issues.
what have to got to lose by finding out?

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Old 09-19-2018, 06:41 PM
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For years my stop drinking plans always involved drinking. That is the insanity of alcohol.
Hope you can find your path.
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