Why can't I just stop.
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You are doing great.
It's very hard when you are actively addictive to something to step outside the situation and gain some perspective. When I first got sober and made a finally made a real, real commitment to it, I suddenly couldn't believe that I had been living that way.
In the early days, I find it useful to count days (some don't) and take a sense of achievement from racking up some time. If you can do a week, there's no reason you can't do two. If you can do a month, there's no reason you can't do two and so on... Just make sure you are counting up, not counting down to drinking again.
From my own experience (far more limited than others), time is the key factor. (Though there are lots of other things you can be doing, to keep moving forwards in recovery and more generally.) The more distance you can get from drinking, the more "normal" not drinking becomes, and the obsession really does recede with time.
It's very hard when you are actively addictive to something to step outside the situation and gain some perspective. When I first got sober and made a finally made a real, real commitment to it, I suddenly couldn't believe that I had been living that way.
In the early days, I find it useful to count days (some don't) and take a sense of achievement from racking up some time. If you can do a week, there's no reason you can't do two. If you can do a month, there's no reason you can't do two and so on... Just make sure you are counting up, not counting down to drinking again.
From my own experience (far more limited than others), time is the key factor. (Though there are lots of other things you can be doing, to keep moving forwards in recovery and more generally.) The more distance you can get from drinking, the more "normal" not drinking becomes, and the obsession really does recede with time.
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