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Old 05-07-2018, 01:24 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Why can't I just stop.


I am so very tired, on day one again😞.
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Old 05-07-2018, 01:39 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Hi Shilla. If we could all just stop, there would be no need for forums like this one. It does take a little work, but I promise you, it's very, very worth it
Do you know what went wrong this time?
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Old 05-07-2018, 01:57 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Why ? Well there's a question. A great question to distract you from focussing on what will really help you to get sober and recover. Acceptance can be as simple as "I understand that I can't just stop. I need to get some help, change my thinking and my reactions, and I need to work on my recovery if I'm going to stay sober and learn to be happy that way."

Is there anything stopping you getting to that Monday AA meeting you mentioned trying?

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A great question to distract you from focusing on what will really help you to get sober and recover.
X 1,000

Which gets me out of a locked cage faster?
1. Why am I locked in this cage?
or
2. Help me find the key.
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Old 05-07-2018, 10:31 AM   #5 (permalink)
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it's not the stopping that's the hard part.....
it's the STAYING stopped.

and that requires a two pronged approach.
1. Resolve and commitment to not drink again, under any circumstances, no matter what.
2. A recovery support plan, something solid, well defined, providing the best assurance for success.

both of these require effort and dedication. but the payback is priceless.
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Old 05-07-2018, 10:40 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I am so very tired, on day one again😞.
glad ya made it back,shilla.
i was one who couldnt "just stop," too. no matter how much i didnt want to drink, i couldnt not drink.
beyond human aid.
the program of AA helped me with that- it helped me find a power greater than myself that would help me get and stay sober.
not only that, it cleared away all the jumbled up crap that was rattling around in my melon. YEARS worth of trying to stuff all that stuff, trying to forget it, or trying to act like it all never happened, i was able to face it all and be rid of it.
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Old 05-07-2018, 12:02 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I'll just go with what all these wise souls have said.

No one is doing this to you. It's within you to do the right thing.
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Old 05-07-2018, 12:44 PM   #8 (permalink)
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A better question might be: what can I do right now to stop? Or: what steps can I take to stop me drinking? Maybe even: what can I do positively and proactively to give myself the great gift of sobriety? I’m pretty early into my own recovery, but I can tell you from both my own experience and listening to the very valuable experience of others (get good at listening and internalizing, too) that you have to be 100% committed to getting and staying sober. In addition, you have to have some support and strategies in place to use when the going gets tough. Which it will, but then, easy doesn’t mean desirable or worthwhile and alcohol is getting you nowhere.

All my very best to you; I really hope you can do this.
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We can't stop until we choose to.

It takes a hell of a lot more to figure out, like others said, what will help keep you stopped.

So, knowing it's your choice to get unstuck, pick a day to stop and get whatever help you need to get. Know what? Today is a great day to stop
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Old 05-07-2018, 01:09 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I am sorry that you are on Day 1 again, Shilla. But you are here and that speaks volumes.

Do you have a Plan for sobriety. A solid plan can be so very beneficial. I will post a link to an excellent SR thread on that subject.
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Old 05-07-2018, 01:11 PM   #11 (permalink)
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As promised:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...highlight=Psst (Psst...wanna know why I'm always recommending recovery plans?)
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The truth is you can just stop anyone can, but it takes a level of honesty and commitment few are prepared to accept. Only when we are truly beaten and want to stop more than we want to drink the miracles happen.
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Old 05-08-2018, 10:22 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I let my emotions dictate my actions. But now day two is almost over, and looking at going to bed to meditate and remind myself to keep going.
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Will start working on a stay sober book that was recommended. Action is key, I know if I do not take charge and take action, it will not stop. Going to google developing action plans now.
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So far day two has gone well. Going to meditate now.
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If meditation is difficult right now (no way I could meditate on Day Two, ) don't beat yourself up over it. Gentle walks outdoors were something I could do, and the walking served as a type of meditation. No way I could sit still with my own thoughts for a while.

Keep it going. It's worth it.
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Just completed a 1 hour guided meditation by Michael Sealy on overcoming alcoholism. Found very calming, and mindful. Good night, and will post tomorrow again. Thank you all for the advice and push to help me through this.
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Terrific work. Enjoy sober sleep.
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