Dee74

Next time you want to say F it, try realising that what you're actually saying is F me, F my future and, essentially F my family.

If that doesn't pull you up, then I'd reckon you have some deep seated issue, and counselling can help with that - it may even be cheaper than your alcohol bill?

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Jillian2563

So right now I'm so tempted to say F it again, but came here instead. I'm frustrated. Tomorrow is my oldest son's birthday and I planned a dinner for him with my family (mom, stepdad, sister and niece/nephew) but my husband is telling me his mom and nephew are coming. I feel like he takes over everything. I just wanted it to be my family since we never get together. He does this in other aspects of our lives too. Last week he financed a new trailer because he "needs" it for work (we've been doing just fine with the one we have for over 2 years). But the problem is, he doesn't discuss it with me first. I know these are stupid little things but I'm just so frustrated. I'm sitting in the car right now at the park crying over stupid stuff. I'm going to go for a walk now, hopefully that will ease some of this....

Mountainmanbob

We don't drink like normal people do. Once I truly understood that I made a firm decision to never drink again.
M-Bob

Jillian2563

So this is a problem I have. I stress about little things and then it turns out fine. My husband called me back to tell me he told his mom I just wanted to spend time with my family tomorrow and she understood.

Berrybean

Yep. Sounds like early recovery. Restless, irritable and discontent. Stressing over all sorts. Just what I was like when my crutch (or even the hope of it) had been removed. Kind of trapped with problems and everything seemed so BIG, even when in reality they were tiny issues really. This is why we need to work on new and better ways of dealing with life on life's terms. So we don't send ourselves bonkers. It will get better. X

SteveAlex

Working the steps will help you get to the underlying issues that cause you to drink.

ScottFromWI

It is definitely a word, and the results you are getting are not surprising either when you think about it then, right? You aren't the first person to do this and you won't be the last - most of us are guilty of it at some point in our struggles with alcohol.

So what do you think about going to AA and actuallly getting a sponsor and working the steps? Or exploring something like AVRT in earnest? Or finding a therapist/counselor that you can afford?

The consequences will gradually become worse and worse if you don't change, that's a guarantee. But consequences themself are not the best motivator either - you've got to do some soul searching and decide what it is you really want to achieve for yourself.