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Old 02-07-2017, 05:40 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi everyone,

I'm not sure what to say. I just know I need support and I'm grateful to find this site. I'm newly sober and don't have anyone to talk to about it. This detox is rough. Today I feel like I have the flu. Am home from work. The headache is non-stop since I stopped drinking. I'm angry, weepy, cranky, and because I don't have anyone to talk to about my situation, I can tell I'm slipping into self-pity. I can tell that the suppressed emotions of a lifetime are about to hit me. So I'm here.

On the up side, even though I drank my entire adult (and teen) life, and I'm 50 years old now, I am not currently craving a drink. A helpful thought that I repeat to myself is, "I am not going to drink ever again, under ANY circumstance."

It's nice to read your posts and know I'm not alone. Thanks
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Old 02-07-2017, 05:49 PM   #2 (permalink)
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A helpful thought that I repeat to myself is, "I am not going to drink ever again, under ANY circumstance."
That should help. Just remember that when you are feeling better and the memory of how you feel now fades. The misery can fade. Don't let your commitment to sobriety fade.
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Welcome to SR DeeDahDay - you'll find lot of support here
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Welcome to the family. Having the support of this site has helped me stay sober over seven years now. I hope we can do the same for you.
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Old 02-07-2017, 06:01 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Welcome, DeeDahDay. What a great user name. Hope to see you around the forums!
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Hi DeeDah! I was older too when I came to SR and finally got sober. I still need my daily dose of inspiration and courage. I hope you'll find being here a helpful part of your recovery - we're so glad to meet you.
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Hi Deedah, I'm in my early 50's, recently sober, drank since my late teens. SR has been really helpful. I start my day here every morning and back again every evening before bed.
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Old 02-07-2017, 08:00 PM   #12 (permalink)
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hello, DeeDahDay,
check out the AVRT threads in the 'secular connections' forum farther down, as much there relates to and expands on your helpful statement of never drinking again no matter what.

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Old 02-07-2017, 10:38 PM   #13 (permalink)
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thanks SO much, everyone, for being so warm and welcoming. i'm glad i'm not the only one starting life anew at age 50! i can tell i'll be visiting often to keep myself on track. fini, i'll check out the AVRT threads now.
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Hi & Welcome to the SR family DeeDahDay! You'll find lots of support and helpful resources here to help you on your journey! Maybe check out the February class.....lots of folks right where you are...http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-1-a.html just post to join
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Welcome lots and lots of support here!

Detox is a rough one for sure, maybe a dr visit in order just to be safe

Well done for coming here!
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Welcome! Glad to have you with us. Adding a voice to the choir, you will find lots of support here. Getting sober is the best thing I ever did in my life.

Have a snack, read the many inspiring threads, and post as much as you like. We are here for you.
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Old 02-08-2017, 05:33 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Welcome from me too. You are on your way!

You say you don't have anyone to talk to. Have you considered an AA meeting or if you are in an urban area (where they are more common) a SMART meeting?
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Welcome D-Day.

I am glad you found this site.

All the suppressed emotion can really eat us up inside. It's can make us feel big time frustrated. Chronic frustration is not healthy.

Bottling up our feelings is not healthy.

I hear you....I've felt 'bottled up' a lot. It's good to vent however you can.

Writing is a good way to vent.

You can lay it all out in a private message to someone you trust on this site and since you've never met them in person and will likely never do so it's basically safe....to let it all out....everything you are ashamed of...things in your life that hurt you...it needs to come out or it will fester and cause bigger problems...

You can do this...you have more power than you realize....[smile] We're here for you...again, welcome, D-Day.
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Thanks for the post DeeDahDay (and great name, btw). It's never too late. Hoping you will stay strong! Just take it one day at a time.
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