ICanDoBetter

And AV is making a pretty strong case for moderating being a possibility. It's gorgeous out. I've worked hard in the flowerbeds. We are sitting by the pool. And relaxing with one or two seems like it would be pretty darned refreshing.

firstymer

You came to SR for a reason. You have a problem with alcohol, just like the rest of us.

The problem hasn't gone away. And I think you know that.

Play the tape forward.

You can do this.

LadyBlue0527

These days are harder aren't they? We associate a drink as a reward for a job well done. Refreshing and relaxing.

I'll set the scene for you.

Tomorrow morning you get up and come to SR. You stare your accountability thread in the face. Was it worth it?

Trying to help <3 Validating how you feel but pointing out what's coming.

I'm glad you came here.

Soberwolf

It is gorgeous weather but romanticising alcohol is a slippery slope back to what brought you here in the first place

Moderation isn't possible for anyone with a drink problem of any kind that's what I know nearly 3 years in to my own recovery

To quote Least 'Ive never woken up sober wishing I drank the night before'

I think your an amazing person coming here to talk about it

Nonsensical

In 25 years my AV has not told me one true thing. Not one. It is a liar and a thief. It's broken every promise, reneged on every deal, and made me look like an ass every time I believed it.

Best of Luck on Your Journey.

FindingCake

Don't listen to it. It will only get louder after the first sip.

I did yesterday and it was so not worth it. Feeling awful, ruined my day, having to enter a new date on my sobriety clock sucked. I just want to feel like I did before I gave in. I hate this.

Nowsthetime

THIS is when the work starts.

You are working your plan by posting here.

Work those sober muscles. It will get easier with time.

Rar

Don't do it! I listened to my AV last year and thought I could moderate by keeping track of how much I drank. Although I planned to have only 1 or 2 beers, I ended up having 5. A couple of days later, I had 4 - but it was a struggle to limit. I managed to drink under 5 for a couple of weeks, but before long, it was back to every day with the same (or more) amount as I was drinking before. Don't do it!

hpdw

Posting here is the real you and the real you knows you don't want to and cant moderate so please don't listen to that AV , you know its taking rubbish .

AnvilheadII

And relaxing with one or two seems like.....

and exactly WHEN was the last time you did that. had one, maybe two, found it relaxing??

you won't regret NOT drinking........

Delilah1

I'm glad you came here and posted instead of drinking. That thought will pass and you will feel great about adding another stone to your jar.

lovetolisten

Don't do it!!!! Yesterday was day 109 for you... do you really want to start over? I have been following your journey and you've inspired me, and probably many other people.

I'll make a deal with you - you get to day 110 and I will get to day 6.

If you are like me, there is a chance you could have 2-3 "nice" drinks today. Then maybe next week 3-4 more. And once you're off, it's "on" - way too easy to fall down the rabbit hole. You'll wish you would have never picked up that drink on the nice Saturday

Easy2slip

I'm sure there are plenty of refreshing drinks that don't contain alcohol... That would make you feel just as good.

ICanDoBetter

Can't lie - it's a few hours later. Haven't had a drink but I still really want one.

Delilah1

I'm glad you didn't drink:-)

LadyBlue0527

There's no harm in voicing that, you're being honest. That and you're coming here for support. You're doing the work!


This is me to your AV

Bailey3

A couple of weeks ago I went through the same feelings that you are right now. Do whatever it takes not to drink. You'll be a stronger person for it. Go to your plan and toolbox. Scream if you have too. You can do this!!

Anna

This is an opportunity for you to change your memories of lovely summer afternoons and working in the garden. So, it no longer involves alcohol at the end of the day, but instead, maybe you could go out for ice-cream or have dinner out. It takes some time, but you can change those kinds of connections in your mind. You're doing great!

firstymer

Urges are normal. Ride it out. Eat something.

You are SUPPOSED to have urges.

It's not the challenges we face that define us. It is how we RESPOND to those challenges.

You know what you need to do. You really do.

Stay close. We are here for you.

blueberry2015

Normally I find the urge to drink is usually because of something, could be boredom, anxiety, restlessness, anger, guilt blah blah. Can you identify with anything like that? It helps me to look at WHY I feel an urge, and do something about whatever the underlying cause is, x