noneever

I am an alcoholic.

I cannot moderate.

I need to just take one day a time.

So it's back to Day 1.

Delizadee

Hey noneever

I was reading your other thread. Let me tell you it resonated with me.
Did you get a chance to work on a recovery plan?
Do join the April class I will be there with you.
Together we can do this!

Dee74

Good to see you back on the right road noneever

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ALinNS

Great you are on the right road and have taken a critical step, I always encourage a plan to avoid relapse and keep posting.

Andrew

Hevyn

Nonever - you can do this. Sometimes we need further convincing. I was determined to use willpower to control myself - wasted so much time insisting I could. You are back with more determination - congrats on Day 1.

noneever

I'm abandoning will power- it just doesn't work for me.

IvanMike

"The inability to stop using, even with the greatest willpower and the most sincere desire, is what we mean when we say 'we have absolutely no choice'. However we do have a choice after we stop trying to justify our using"

- Narcotics Anonymous Basic Text

Welcome to recovery.

courage2

Good man, none-ever.

noneever

I'm a female

yinzer

4/13 is an awesome date to start a new life! Make it your last day 1!

OneIsTooMuch

Welcome to the club. It is a club no one wants to belong to. And it is not very exclusive, we have millions of members 😜

Sounds like you have a very good starting point there. This is a journey that is not easy but it is doable and is so worth it!

I don't look at it as "I have to stop drinking" instead I think "I never have to drink again".

Listen to the advice on here from those who know about developing and sticking to a plan. Reach out for help when you need it -- you don't have to do this alone. There is help everywhere you just have to ask!

noneever

I never have to drink again. I love that.

least

Don't look at it as depriving yourself of alcohol, but rather, giving yourself a much better sober life.

TheRealSean

I also found will power alone was not enough to get through such a drastic change. That being said, there are so many outlets in life you can choose based on your own desires to find purpose in.

These forums are one, talking about anything and getting it off your chest. I used to think I couldn't be social without alcohol, but here we are. If you can look up, you can get up, and if you fall, fall forward my friend.

thomas11

As you know by being a member of this forum, there are many ways other than sheer willpower to get your sober. Pick the ones that resonate with you and work them into the dirt. It is pretty clear to me that you really want to be sober.

I contend that even if you need to take a "life" timeout (treatment, rehab, leave of absence...) its worth it to you save your life.

Delilah1

I tried the moderating as well, it never worked, and I spent way too much time and energy thinking about how much wine I could allow myself, and oh how easily I would convince myself a little more wine is fine.

I am on Day 104 today, and I will say I am enjoying being sober much more than I was enjoying my attempts at moderation, and waking up feeling crummy.

You can do this!!!

❤️ Delilah

Soberwolf

Having a plan really helps