Boredom in early sobriety
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Boredom in early sobriety
Hi guys,
I've only been sober for 8 days but my AV keeps chirping in my ear saying "being sober is sooooo boring! What do you have to look forward to now? Life is short KiKi!"
It's driving me nuts & I don't want to drink over it so I was hoping you guys could give me some tips on how you fill your time now that your not drinking/hungover etc?
Are your lives boring? Does it make you miss drinking?
Just trying to tell on my disease...thx in advance!
Kiki
I've only been sober for 8 days but my AV keeps chirping in my ear saying "being sober is sooooo boring! What do you have to look forward to now? Life is short KiKi!"
It's driving me nuts & I don't want to drink over it so I was hoping you guys could give me some tips on how you fill your time now that your not drinking/hungover etc?
Are your lives boring? Does it make you miss drinking?
Just trying to tell on my disease...thx in advance!
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Hi Kiki,
I am struggling with that too. I think, honestly, that I drank to help make the mundane more fun so I totally understand. I am trying to spice up the evening routine a little-I have an activity for each evening of the week that we are home planned (like date nights on Thursday nights, music on Tuesday nights- we have a lot of guitars handing around ...games on Saturday nights- have you tried "apples to apples"?). I've tried planning easy things that don't take a lot of thought for each day of the week that I and/or my family can enjoy together ... And if I have a better idea or just need to zone out with a little tv, I'm good with that too
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(Also made a bucket list of things I want to do with my family and trips I'd like to take ... things I didn't take the time to plan when I was doing a lot of drinking and that make my life seem a lot less boring and help me know that I'm enjoying my sobriety with my kiddos ...)
I am struggling with that too. I think, honestly, that I drank to help make the mundane more fun so I totally understand. I am trying to spice up the evening routine a little-I have an activity for each evening of the week that we are home planned (like date nights on Thursday nights, music on Tuesday nights- we have a lot of guitars handing around ...games on Saturday nights- have you tried "apples to apples"?). I've tried planning easy things that don't take a lot of thought for each day of the week that I and/or my family can enjoy together ... And if I have a better idea or just need to zone out with a little tv, I'm good with that too
. (Also made a bucket list of things I want to do with my family and trips I'd like to take ... things I didn't take the time to plan when I was doing a lot of drinking and that make my life seem a lot less boring and help me know that I'm enjoying my sobriety with my kiddos ...)
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Hi Kiki,
Well you are doing something here and you have the lists from Anna above. I had a lot of the same thoughts in my early sobriety and her are few of the thoughts I wrote here in my posts as I discovered my sobriety unfolding before me. Here is how I felt.
Boredom is wanting to do something, anything, as long as you don’t have to actually do something to do it.
From about six months sober I realized that we indeed need to start with a clean slate, and here it is before us, and many times we look at the blank canvas we asked for, and we see the paints we can use and choose, and that the brushes are all cleaned and ready, but for some reason we say we can't, when won't is really the truth we need to face. I was afraid I would bung it up again.
I liked drinking when it was voluntary, not when it became mandatory.
It was the start of my second chance to live my life differently. No one could give it to me, I could only take it for myself. That was only the first step. Now I have to actually live that life I knew was possible.
Alcohol provides us an avenue to run away from all of our problems . . . except the results of using alcohol. <sigh>
I haven't lost drinking, I have gained sobriety.
Life doesn't get any easier with time, sobriety does.
I am grateful for you!
If you are reading this you are part of the reason I am sober and getting my life back. Newcomer trying, or ten years sober, the power of worldwide support saying that they "got my back," well just contemplate that for a moments meditation.
We CAN do this thing right called life, we have given ourselves that second chance that many wish for, and don't recognize it when it arrives. In our case, we made that second chance happen. Now all we have to do is use it. For me easier said than done, but I am working on it too.
Last Itchy thought for the day:
Stop getting ready and start getting to it.
Not the tomorrow that never comes. Not when everything is right and there is no stress, and not with conditions like as long as I don't have to whatever, and not waiting for it to fall from the sky or be instantly available through a drink or pill.
Stop getting ready and start getting to it.
Happy sobriety in life!
Well you are doing something here and you have the lists from Anna above. I had a lot of the same thoughts in my early sobriety and her are few of the thoughts I wrote here in my posts as I discovered my sobriety unfolding before me. Here is how I felt.
Boredom is wanting to do something, anything, as long as you don’t have to actually do something to do it.
From about six months sober I realized that we indeed need to start with a clean slate, and here it is before us, and many times we look at the blank canvas we asked for, and we see the paints we can use and choose, and that the brushes are all cleaned and ready, but for some reason we say we can't, when won't is really the truth we need to face. I was afraid I would bung it up again.
I liked drinking when it was voluntary, not when it became mandatory.
It was the start of my second chance to live my life differently. No one could give it to me, I could only take it for myself. That was only the first step. Now I have to actually live that life I knew was possible.
Alcohol provides us an avenue to run away from all of our problems . . . except the results of using alcohol. <sigh>
I haven't lost drinking, I have gained sobriety.
Life doesn't get any easier with time, sobriety does.
I am grateful for you!
If you are reading this you are part of the reason I am sober and getting my life back. Newcomer trying, or ten years sober, the power of worldwide support saying that they "got my back," well just contemplate that for a moments meditation.
We CAN do this thing right called life, we have given ourselves that second chance that many wish for, and don't recognize it when it arrives. In our case, we made that second chance happen. Now all we have to do is use it. For me easier said than done, but I am working on it too.
Last Itchy thought for the day:
Stop getting ready and start getting to it.
Not the tomorrow that never comes. Not when everything is right and there is no stress, and not with conditions like as long as I don't have to whatever, and not waiting for it to fall from the sky or be instantly available through a drink or pill.
Stop getting ready and start getting to it.
Happy sobriety in life!
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I remember feeling that way in the beginning. Like the song, "is that all there is?"
I was bored, so I found things to do. I kept busy in the beginning. Now I'm never bored, as a matter of fact, I love my down time.
I was bored, so I found things to do. I kept busy in the beginning. Now I'm never bored, as a matter of fact, I love my down time.
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This is our Sticky of Things to Do: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
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Sometimes I am bored, and that's ok. I can always find something to do, and if I had my choice, I'd prefer being 'bored' to being deathly ill.
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Originally Posted by izzy8
Hi Kiki, I am struggling with that too. I think, honestly, that I drank to help make the mundane more fun so I totally understand. I am trying to spice up the evening routine a little-I have an activity for each evening of the week that we are home planned (like date nights on Thursday nights, music on Tuesday nights- we have a lot of guitars handing around ...games on Saturday nights- have you tried "apples to apples"?). I've tried planning easy things that don't take a lot of thought for each day of the week that I and/or my family can enjoy together ... And if I have a better idea or just need to zone out with a little tv, I'm good with that too . (Also made a bucket list of things I want to do with my family and trips I'd like to take ... things I didn't take the time to plan when I was doing a lot of drinking and that make my life seem a lot less boring and help me know that I'm enjoying my sobriety with my kiddos ...)
. (Also made a bucket list of things I want to do with my family and trips I'd like to take ... things I didn't take the time to plan when I was doing a lot of drinking and that make my life seem a lot less boring and help me know that I'm enjoying my sobriety with my kiddos ...)Member
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Originally Posted by Itchy
Hi Kiki, Well you are doing something here and you have the lists from Anna above. I had a lot of the same thoughts in my early sobriety and her are few of the thoughts I wrote here in my posts as I discovered my sobriety unfolding before me. Here is how I felt. Boredom is wanting to do something, anything, as long as you don’t have to actually do something to do it. From about six months sober I realized that we indeed need to start with a clean slate, and here it is before us, and many times we look at the blank canvas we asked for, and we see the paints we can use and choose, and that the brushes are all cleaned and ready, but for some reason we say we can't, when won't is really the truth we need to face. I was afraid I would bung it up again. I liked drinking when it was voluntary, not when it became mandatory. It was the start of my second chance to live my life differently. No one could give it to me, I could only take it for myself. That was only the first step. Now I have to actually live that life I knew was possible. Alcohol provides us an avenue to run away from all of our problems . . . except the results of using alcohol. <sigh> I haven't lost drinking, I have gained sobriety. Life doesn't get any easier with time, sobriety does. I am grateful for you! If you are reading this you are part of the reason I am sober and getting my life back. Newcomer trying, or ten years sober, the power of worldwide support saying that they "got my back," well just contemplate that for a moments meditation. We CAN do this thing right called life, we have given ourselves that second chance that many wish for, and don't recognize it when it arrives. In our case, we made that second chance happen. Now all we have to do is use it. For me easier said than done, but I am working on it too. Last Itchy thought for the day: Stop getting ready and start getting to it. Not the tomorrow that never comes. Not when everything is right and there is no stress, and not with conditions like as long as I don't have to whatever, and not waiting for it to fall from the sky or be instantly available through a drink or pill. Stop getting ready and start getting to it. Happy sobriety in life!
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