Dealing with boredom (at 3 years)
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Until I read the OP I didn't really think of it but in retrospect I can see that being drunk is the laziest possible way to live. All I needed was booze to be entertained. It literally didn't matter what else I had- I could watch paint dry and it was entertaining so long as I was drunk. No work is involved, no growth was required and I never had to challenge myself. Unlike some kinds of recreation where you always have to top the last one (a higher mountain, a faster bike, etc) booze was always there and the "thrill" never wore off. I took "the journey" every single night and it always went basically the same way.
So the short answer I guess is that you need to actively expand yourself and look for challenges. At least that's the way it has been for me. Sobriety makes laziness a lot more punitive.
So the short answer I guess is that you need to actively expand yourself and look for challenges. At least that's the way it has been for me. Sobriety makes laziness a lot more punitive.
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James, if possible join a local running group. It's more social than a gym and you will get to be around people who are mostly trying to look after themselves. Also, I would concentrate on 10k or less races, 5k is a fab way to start as you can get involved in Park run on Sat mornings, free and fun. You can even take the kids along. Focus on your result and just get better and better. Good luck with everything. Z
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Originally Posted by Jamesdwyer 
As I wrote that and read your reply I know what the problem actually is, it's that I haven't got any mates. I got rid of ALL my friends when I quit drinking and so socially I actually only interact with people associated with my son (friends parents) or wife (friends partners). I've got zero interest in spending time in bars after work drinking Coke and watching my colleagues make fools of themselves and the thought of going on some kind of pathetic man date with some vague associate of my wife's where he awkwardly wonders if it is appropriate to drink and we have a stilted conversation about football fills me with abject horror.
Team Sports? Music? Drama Groups? volunteer community groups?
There must be something
Great way to meet new people and you get to be James the non drinking guy right off the bat.
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
Until I read the OP I didn't really think of it but in retrospect I can see that being drunk is the laziest possible way to live. All I needed was booze to be entertained. It literally didn't matter what else I had- I could watch paint dry and it was entertaining so long as I was drunk. No work is involved, no growth was required and I never had to challenge myself. Unlike some kinds of recreation where you always have to top the last one (a higher mountain, a faster bike, etc) booze was always there and the "thrill" never wore off. I took "the journey" every single night and it always went basically the same way.
So the short answer I guess is that you need to actively expand yourself and look for challenges. At least that's the way it has been for me. Sobriety makes laziness a lot more punitive.
So the short answer I guess is that you need to actively expand yourself and look for challenges. At least that's the way it has been for me. Sobriety makes laziness a lot more punitive.
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