Fear no more Weekender Dec 4
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Originally Posted by abraxas69 
I'm not very good at articulating my thoughts at times! I'm referring to the whole AV thing... I am only 12 days sober but seem to be obessing more and more that at some point in the future my AV will get the better of me. That if I don't do that I will become complacent...
Your OP says to me to stop obsessing, stop fearing it, and just get on with (a sober) life.... ???
A bit RR vs AA if that makes sense?
No, probably not!? Had an attack of insomnia last night, got an hour's sleep at best...
Your OP says to me to stop obsessing, stop fearing it, and just get on with (a sober) life.... ???
A bit RR vs AA if that makes sense?
No, probably not!? Had an attack of insomnia last night, got an hour's sleep at best...
That is what I mean. I try not to fear my thoughts. My AV cannot go drink on its own. I dont have to give it my power. Yes very RR.
The weekender thread and the people that post show that we can live without the constant fear that our thoughts will come get us. Thats a lie that we are told. We dont have to believe it.
Hope you will stick around this weekend. Have some sober camaraderie!!
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Originally Posted by abraxas69
I am only 12 days sober but seem to be obessing more and more that at some point in the future my AV will get the better of me. That if I don't do that I will become complacent...
The cornerstone of my sobriety is that I can separate myself from my addiction. My addiction lives in my head and there is nothing I can do about that. However, it can only control me if I let it.
I no longer let it.
RR is all about disempowering The Beast. That is absolutely essential. No doubt about it. However, it never addresses the Beast Tamer - me.
I don't obsess about my AV. If anything I obsess about me. How can I make myself stronger? How can I widen the gap between myself and my AV?
Congrats on 12 days.
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Originally Posted by melki
Weasel, now serious and important question - does shotgun count on part 2 (or 3) of the weekender thread?
Hmmmm... The real question for today.... Does shotgun count on the second post??? Hahahaha!!!!
yes it does... It's who calls it!!!!!
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Originally Posted by Nonsensical
I could write a book here...
The cornerstone of my sobriety is that I can separate myself from my addiction. My addiction lives in my head and there is nothing I can do about that. However, it can only control me if I let it.
I no longer let it.
RR is all about disempowering The Beast. That is absolutely essential. No doubt about it. However, it never addresses the Beast Tamer - me.
I don't obsess about my AV. If anything I obsess about me. How can I make myself stronger? How can I widen the gap between myself and my AV?
Congrats on 12 days.
The cornerstone of my sobriety is that I can separate myself from my addiction. My addiction lives in my head and there is nothing I can do about that. However, it can only control me if I let it.
I no longer let it.
RR is all about disempowering The Beast. That is absolutely essential. No doubt about it. However, it never addresses the Beast Tamer - me.
I don't obsess about my AV. If anything I obsess about me. How can I make myself stronger? How can I widen the gap between myself and my AV?
Congrats on 12 days.
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Originally Posted by Weasel1966
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Weasel, I am just clarifying for my friend Lorax here - when we go over 500 posts and a new weekender thread is created, the shotgun on the new thread also counts, correct?
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Originally Posted by melki
Ta da! Okay, Highwind, you could've totally had it but I had an old-timer advantage.
Weasel, I am just clarifying for my friend Lorax here - when we go over 500 posts and a new weekender thread is created, the shotgun on the new thread also counts, correct?
Weasel, I am just clarifying for my friend Lorax here - when we go over 500 posts and a new weekender thread is created, the shotgun on the new thread also counts, correct?
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Good morning all!
I'm on, with a skip in my step!!
Great OP Ken. This message really resonates with me. In my early days of recovery I was crippled with fear, of the present and the future. Now at 333 days ( yikes!) I try not to allow fear to rule my mind. Neurotoxins trigger and maintain these fears. All I can do on a moment-to-moment basis is decide not to imbibe and be resolute in that constant decision.
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Great OP Ken. This message really resonates with me. In my early days of recovery I was crippled with fear, of the present and the future. Now at 333 days ( yikes!) I try not to allow fear to rule my mind. Neurotoxins trigger and maintain these fears. All I can do on a moment-to-moment basis is decide not to imbibe and be resolute in that constant decision.
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Big Weekender WELCOME to Highwind and Abraxis! You are among true friends here. Read, think, post...hang with us for a "glorious" sober weekend!
Love the topic, Ken. Indeed food for thought. If we can get past fearing our thoughts, we can examine them with the detachment needed to choose wisely for sobriety. If I can't examine my thoughts coolly, for me they become obsession...which is not thinking at all, often only repeating an unexamined fear or an AV message.
I'm in. Glad to be here. Got some pet health issues going on. SoberP, why do pet problems seem to come in pairs!? My oldest dog struggling with worsened cardiac insufficiency. And last night my little young athlete dog started trembling and crying with pain and wouldn't walk or stand. Has to be her back. The vet is going to love seeing me again this morning. I think I am paying his mortgage this month.
Love the topic, Ken. Indeed food for thought. If we can get past fearing our thoughts, we can examine them with the detachment needed to choose wisely for sobriety. If I can't examine my thoughts coolly, for me they become obsession...which is not thinking at all, often only repeating an unexamined fear or an AV message.
I'm in. Glad to be here. Got some pet health issues going on. SoberP, why do pet problems seem to come in pairs!? My oldest dog struggling with worsened cardiac insufficiency. And last night my little young athlete dog started trembling and crying with pain and wouldn't walk or stand. Has to be her back. The vet is going to love seeing me again this morning. I think I am paying his mortgage this month.
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Count me in Weekenders!! 
Some of my personal favourite "fear" myths:
-You can't have fun without alcohol
-You can't celebrate anything without alcohol
-My life will be boring without alcohol
-I won't have any friends without alcohol
-I can't deal with stress without alcohol
Time to ditch the "can't dos", for what we "can do" and have a new Sober life!!
Some of my personal favourite "fear" myths:
-You can't have fun without alcohol
-You can't celebrate anything without alcohol
-My life will be boring without alcohol
-I won't have any friends without alcohol
-I can't deal with stress without alcohol
Time to ditch the "can't dos", for what we "can do" and have a new Sober life!!
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