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Old 09-18-2015, 12:38 AM
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You'll come to enjoy sober Friday nights SD - believe me

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Old 09-18-2015, 04:47 AM
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Old 09-18-2015, 04:50 AM
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I do. I'm good. Just off to bed 5 days sober, done.

Day 6 tomorrow!
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Old 09-18-2015, 04:52 AM
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Old 09-18-2015, 04:53 AM
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:06 PM
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How's your weekend going SD ? We have here for the start of out holidays ... enjoy your weekend
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:14 PM
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Raining here too! Trying to keep the kids occupied but urgh, they are pushing my buttons like crazy today!

I'm doing okay thanks LSC, had a couple of close calls but I'm fighting through it. I just have to remember everything I have been through in my life, I'm strong, I am stronger than this and I WILL beat it.
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:16 PM
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Tomorrow will be day 7!
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:21 PM
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I'm really impressed SD. From a few hours to nearly a week. You're amazing.
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:27 PM
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Couldn't have gotten this far without the love and support of all the people in here, so thank you! I know it's only been a week, but I feel like I can really do this, I have never felt like that before.

Reading other people's stories in here, how they have overcome such struggles, such heartache, have beaten this addiction and have gone on to have such fulfilling and happier lives, it's truly inspiring.
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Day 7 you're doing fantastic .... I'm using you for inspiration!!
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:31 PM
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Old 09-18-2015, 11:31 PM
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Originally Posted by adelina123 View Post
Day 7 you're doing fantastic .... I'm using you for inspiration!!
Awww (got me teary eyed AND blushing haha)

Stoopid hormones.
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Old 09-19-2015, 02:56 AM
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Old 09-19-2015, 03:14 AM
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Hi SD - Keep it up! When I got through the first week, deep down inside I really began to think that I could finally break the cycle. 9 months later, and I'm still going strong. Trust me, if I can do it, so can you.
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Old 09-19-2015, 03:24 AM
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Fantastic job SD! You're doing great. When you feel an urge coming on, always remind yourself why you decided to get sober in the first place. I still play it forward in my mind when my cravings get bad. As soon as I realize what one drink will bring me back to, it helps me to get back on track.

Awesome job!
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Old 09-19-2015, 05:35 AM
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How about going to the public library if it's raining today?
Get the kiddos some books an DVDs if they've got them.

Lots of them also have programming like story hour, etc.

I think you're doing a fantastic job Secret.
One week and counting. Very well done indeed.
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Old 09-19-2015, 07:42 AM
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I logged onto SR to see how your first sober weekend is going. You're doing so well, keep it up!

I like the library idea! We practically lived in public libraries when my kids were little. Kids do push buttons, but it's up to us how to react. And no matter what, drinking won't make anything better, ever.
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Old 09-21-2015, 01:47 AM
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End of day 9 and I'm so dog tired. All the time. I yawn constantly even though I'm getting quite good nights sleeps.

It seems to be getting harder to distract myself from the cravings as time goes on, I thought it would get easier. My stress levels are through the roof with the kids (first day of the school holidays). I'm already tearing my hair out.
I have things planned, library, playdates, parks etc, I have tried relaxing in the bath or listening to music to calm myself down but it lasts until the next fight kicks off with the kids.

Usually I'd reach for the bottle, pour myself a glass and the fights wouldn't bother me, I'd almost zone out from all the noise and bickering.
I can feel myself wanting to give in, just for one night (lie I know). I want to get blinding drunk and not deal with anyone or anything.

Ofcourse, I can't do that when the kids are around,I refuse to anymore, they'll never see me drink again, so it doesn't really help me during the middle of the fighting and stress, so why do I want to? That's stupid. It's not going to help me at all.
The only thing it would do is give me something to look forward to at the end of the night when they're in bed, but I seem to be able to manage those times okay. I can still sit down with my cup of tea and watch netflix and take a couple of deep breaths.



So, drinking would NOT help me cope with the kids fighting, if anything it would make it WORSE trying to deal with it having a hangover from the night before.

S'okay, ignore me, I'm just battling through this in my own head lol


I need to remember that. I will NEVER drink infront of my children again, especially after promising my eldest, so I HAVE to find a better solution, because reaching for the bottle is NOT it anymore.

I think I might need to ask their dad to watch the eldest a for a few days so they're separated, just until I decide on a plan of action.

Other than all that, I'm doing okay, my stomach isnt bloated at all anymore! I breathe in and can almost see abs lol!! So that's a plus
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Old 09-21-2015, 01:53 AM
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This link is worth its weight in gold SD:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html

it might be worth looking at this link about making a recovery plan too - it's helped a lot of people....

https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf

The early days are rough...but they do absolutely get better.

I guarantee it

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