A very messy weekend
Start again.
Why did you drink again? Start sorting that out. The key is to not pick up that first drink, no matter what.
That may mean not putting yourself in situations where alcohol is available for a while, until you feel stronger.
Why did you drink again? Start sorting that out. The key is to not pick up that first drink, no matter what.
That may mean not putting yourself in situations where alcohol is available for a while, until you feel stronger.
This is always a great thread to read when looking for new activities.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
Having said that, for most of us the activity itself isn't the problem...it's the alcohol. And most of us seek alcohol no matter what we are doing...until we figure out a plan to not drink.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
Having said that, for most of us the activity itself isn't the problem...it's the alcohol. And most of us seek alcohol no matter what we are doing...until we figure out a plan to not drink.
WORK THE STEPS
ME BEFORE ... but YOUR god never did anything for me ... how can there be a god if he allows ... I don't like AA, they are full of $#!+ ... I can do this on my own ... I can handle just a drink or two ... onward to repeated episodes of Pitiful & Incomprehensible Demoralization ...
ME NOW ... Happy, Joyous and Free
ME BEFORE ... but YOUR god never did anything for me ... how can there be a god if he allows ... I don't like AA, they are full of $#!+ ... I can do this on my own ... I can handle just a drink or two ... onward to repeated episodes of Pitiful & Incomprehensible Demoralization ...
ME NOW ... Happy, Joyous and Free
So if activities with wine are "fun" then activities without wine are not fun. That mindset tends to look at sobriety as a process of deprivation. When deprived of something, we long for it. If that "something" is alcohol, we drink.
Work on changing your mindset. Alcohol is depriving you of a rich, fulfilled life. Embrace it.
Failing that, you can go a couple weeks without having "fun" until you settle into sobriety. No one died from not having fun. Then you can start finding activities to replace drinking.
Work on changing your mindset. Alcohol is depriving you of a rich, fulfilled life. Embrace it.
Failing that, you can go a couple weeks without having "fun" until you settle into sobriety. No one died from not having fun. Then you can start finding activities to replace drinking.
So if activities with wine are "fun" then activities without wine are not fun. That mindset tends to look at sobriety as a process of deprivation. When deprived of something, we long for it. If that "something" is alcohol, we drink.
Work on changing your mindset. Alcohol is depriving you of a rich, fulfilled life. Embrace it.
Failing that, you can go a couple weeks without having "fun" until you settle into sobriety. No one died from not having fun. Then you can start finding activities to replace drinking.
Work on changing your mindset. Alcohol is depriving you of a rich, fulfilled life. Embrace it.
Failing that, you can go a couple weeks without having "fun" until you settle into sobriety. No one died from not having fun. Then you can start finding activities to replace drinking.
Since I sobered up nearly 5 years ago, I've traveled (a lot of) the world, seen my kids graduate from college. I worked on improved my finances and investments to the point that I now work because I love to work, and not because I have to, and re-kindled my love affair with my wife, Etc. Etc. So yeah, I'm having lots of fun now, and its all because of the optimistic mindset I sculpted for myself. All without a drop of booze.
I'm with ya mesober35. I've been to two AA meetings in the past and it just wasn't my thing. The holding hands and praying wasn't really up my alley. I wish there was something out there that was just as accessible but for people that aren't religious
That - for over a year and a half now - has worked.
Keep at it... today is Day 1 and you can do it.
So I am on board with AA not being on the top ten list for people. I attend very sporadically. However, with that being said, IF it isn't working for people to get sober on their own with their current plan, attending meetings would be better than drinking, IMHO. For me, SR works. I check in daily reading posts and responding to posts. I did a stint in counseling. I have complete acceptance that I cannot drink. The wine activity for me always ended in a complete disaster. I got sick of the same old. I also have been doing A LOT of work on the reasons why I drank. Being sober is not drinking. I want to be more than just sober; I want sobriety.
Where do I go from here?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...at-we-did.html
If you don't want to drink again, you don't have to
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Hi mesober, It appears you are relatively new to this site. My first thought was that you may need to revisit your definition of "fun" as you put it. You asked "where do I go from here". IMO you've already started, you are here, people here will help you every step of the way. Wish you the best, and good job on the 4 days. Every sober person here started with a day 1, then 2, etc....
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