Lance40

Thanks so much for the encouragement. I was actually able to have a free telephone counseling session a short bit ago through our Employee Assistance Program. I told my partner I would contact him at 5, so I did that and let him know I'm doing better and that I was able to get some counseling. I'm feeling so much better now, and I must say it's really something else to deal with stuff sober for perhaps the first time in my adult life.

brynn

Wow! That's great! Feeling a bit better I hope

matilda123

Lance40, that is wonderful, and I'm so glad that you're feeling better. It is hard dealing with hard feelings and situations sans alcohol, but it gets easier each time and feels very empowering. Keep us posted.

fini

Lance,
phone the crisis line:
604-872-3311

you can just chat with whatever volunteer answers, and/or they have tons of info about places to go for help, shelters, meetings, people to talk to.
they're non-judgmental and excellent listeners.
if for some bizarre reason you speak with someone who is NOT those things, phone back in a couple of hours and you'll reach someone else.
and also, if you "just" want a meeting, there are tons of Aa meetings all weekend long.
http://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&rct=j&...81828268,d.cGU


edit: oh1 i just read your later posts about EAP and the counseling call. great! and there is an AA meeting at the Qmunnity Centre tomorrow at noon. yes, on Sunday. no, i'm not pushing AA, but it IS a place to go and get connected.

glad to hear you're feeling much better.

fini

hey Lance,

you okay today?

Lance40

Hi fini - thanks so much for checking in - it's been a good day. I had my weekly meeting with my sponsor today and we spent the entire time talking about the situation. Boy howdy did I get schooled and did it ever get laid out on the line but in a good way. I was informed we are meeting again tomorrow and that it's a good thing we are starting Step 4 because I need to take accountability and responsibility for my part in the resentment I've been feeling and the situation that I've let develop in my own home. We are friends whose relationship pre-dates the sponsorship, so it was actually really refreshing and a great meeting.

Thanks for passing along the tip about the meeting at Qmunity. I live only two blocks from there. I already knew about the Sat evening meeting at St. Paul's and have been there. My Sundays are generally full with church activities, but it's great to know that Qmunity is a close option for meetings.

Jsbodhi

The house guest needs to go, it's your house! Easier said than done though I get it.
I had a family member I don't know well move into my house, I did it as a favour because he was getting divorced and had nowhere else to go. What a mistake that was!!! Fast forward 8 months, he didn't pay a dime in rent or bills, took over the house, started making rules, created problems with my boyfriend and I, also he created problems with other family members and I. The situation had my drinking really out of control. It's horrible, I was going to move out of my own house!!!! He's gone now thankfully....
Feel your pain

Jsbodhi

Hostels or guesthouses are cheaper and feel less " cold" than hotels too, at least I enjoy them.

fini

thanks for the update, Lance; i'm glad to hear you feeling so much better and being so proactive.

Qmunity has a meeting every day at noon.

and there is a "queer and trans" meeting at Britannia wednesdays at 6:30 pm, too, which is open to everyone.

Nuudawn

This thread illustrates so very well ...how we grow in sobriety ..and why.

In your OP, you ask how we deal with feelings and these situations without drinking...

And then the thread reveals.....how. You were seeking and proactive.

Awesome.

ardy

Hi Lance . kiddo it seems that the world is just crazy now.. my daughter was married to this great man for 21 years and they lived together for 4 years during college.. both have huge jobs travel pay and they had a beautifull home together for the last 15 years..in Jan he told her he was gay and did not love her at all. my daughter just was broken to bits.. she just works and works and works and tries to pretend her life is not broken.. I am sorry... for you just you.. call your Mom and talk to her. for Moms are better then any 2 bit degreed councilor and she will give you the truth.. because son that is why we are the MOM.. forever.. now as Melly says Pitty party over time for action and mm think I will call Mom.. by the way Melanie is in London City and kiddo I know when the tears are falling cause I can't stop crying too.. your Mom is sitting someplace and wondering what it happening.. call her and be the child that she loves so much.. Iam sorry if I am out of line but I am so sad for how things are going for everyone... love a Mom...

fini

Ardy,

sorry to say not all moms are loving, accepting and 'better ' than counselors in times of trouble.

in my times of trouble with sexuality, or alcoholism, or divorce, or anything really important, really, my mom or dad are not on the list of firsts 100 people to call.
though i see them every week and cook them soup.

there are moms and dads out there whose constant judgments are real door-closers.