Courage needed
Thing like this are never as hard as we make them out to be. Just keep in mind that after you make the first step, everything will be easier. You will be glad you did it, and you'll realize that it was much easier than you imagined.
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the hardest thing i ever did was to humble myself enough to ask for help, but i am so glad i did
it really is one of the hardest things to do is to ask for help and to let people help, i always thought i could do everything on my own and that i didnt need help i was to proud and it got in the way
so well done and good luck to you
it really is one of the hardest things to do is to ask for help and to let people help, i always thought i could do everything on my own and that i didnt need help i was to proud and it got in the way
so well done and good luck to you
When a person helps you stay sober you are helping them stay sober. When you ask someone for help you are do them a favor. One leg of the AA triangle is Service and working with others is the most important service work there is
I went to my first meeting last week. I walked in not knowing what to expect. A few members saw my "deer in headlights" look and came over and introduced themselves. They were super nice and there was no pressure or stress. Just me and a few other people talking who happen to share a common problem.
I'm a very quiet, shy person myself. I don't "talk about my feelings" much. However the atmosphere there got me to open up a bit on my first day when I never planned on it.
I thought AA would be all negative, but it was the opposite. Just go... sit in the back if you want. Good luck.
I'm a very quiet, shy person myself. I don't "talk about my feelings" much. However the atmosphere there got me to open up a bit on my first day when I never planned on it.
I thought AA would be all negative, but it was the opposite. Just go... sit in the back if you want. Good luck.
Hello pattyspaw,
Keep attending and maybe be the one who suggests the opening topic. Your topic to get the ball rolling can be, "I'm new, and afraid to ask for help", then just let it flow, or pass after opening with that. I can guarantee, many people will identify with you, and will help. It is hard to ask for help initially, but remember we all share the same connection, that of our addiction. We have all been where you are at, every one of us.
Note to jsbodhi. Crying only means you are getting real, and in touch with the real you. That's why the big hole is between the tables, dump all of that emotion in there. I have been to many meetings where new people cried their eyes out. To me that shows that they are really dealing with what is in their heart, the addiction is in our heads. The heart will keep us sober, we all know how reliable the head is! We cannot do this alone, and maintain sobriety for very long. It is a revolving door otherwise. Attending meetings, and posting here on SR will keep you on track.
Pattyspaw, maybe asking someone at the meetings you can relate to, to be your sponsor, or temporary sponsor can break the ice for you. Then they are available whenever you need. I wish you the very best, you deserve it!
Keep attending and maybe be the one who suggests the opening topic. Your topic to get the ball rolling can be, "I'm new, and afraid to ask for help", then just let it flow, or pass after opening with that. I can guarantee, many people will identify with you, and will help. It is hard to ask for help initially, but remember we all share the same connection, that of our addiction. We have all been where you are at, every one of us.
Note to jsbodhi. Crying only means you are getting real, and in touch with the real you. That's why the big hole is between the tables, dump all of that emotion in there. I have been to many meetings where new people cried their eyes out. To me that shows that they are really dealing with what is in their heart, the addiction is in our heads. The heart will keep us sober, we all know how reliable the head is! We cannot do this alone, and maintain sobriety for very long. It is a revolving door otherwise. Attending meetings, and posting here on SR will keep you on track.
Pattyspaw, maybe asking someone at the meetings you can relate to, to be your sponsor, or temporary sponsor can break the ice for you. Then they are available whenever you need. I wish you the very best, you deserve it!
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