SquarE2194

Hello,

I am new to this site and currently living with the pain of my boyfriend being in rehab for over a week and hasn't called. I understand it is new to him but I have been nothing but supportive and can't settle until I know he is ok.

Dee74

Hi and welcome SquarE2194

It could be he's not allowed phone calls? or maybe calls are discouraged with the idea he focuses on himself and his recovery?

D

Hevyn

Glad to meet you SquarE. I agree that many rehabs don't allow the distraction of phone calls. I hope it will help you to be here with us.

Hevyn

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SquarE2194

Yes, I completely understand that. It's just very new and I also sent a letter today and I am going to wait to judge his response and it may be that contact is a bad idea. I know all these things are discouraged by the therapists, I am just worried they will brainwash him in to coming out of a relationship and that all my support and love will be forgotten.

SquarE2194

Yes, I completely understand that. It's just very new and I also sent a letter today and I am going to wait to judge his response and it may be that contact is a bad idea. I know all these things are discouraged by the therapists, I am just worried they will brainwash him in to coming out of a relationship and that all my support and love will be forgotten.

least

When I was in rehab, phone calls were only allowed once a day and the line was so long for the phone it wasn't worth waiting.

He may be immersed in recovery. Step back a bit and give him space. He's getting used to rehab and it's different. Let him adjust.

Welcome to the family.

Soberwolf

My sister is in rehab and i cant phone but i can send mail

we have had to wait a full months before were allowed to visit

shes doing amazing

good luck

SquarE2194

Thank you, it's nice to know other people understand and has took me a lot of confidence to post. I am hoping the letter would be a better option but would just be nice to hear he is ok. Without sounding selfish as I am completely supportive and knew these feelings would come, but didn't know it would hurt so much. Thanks for the support

SquarE2194

Thats great news, I wish her well on the road to recovery. I have asked for the regulations on visiting in my letter as pre-rehab he was really keen, but I have no idea what is going on in there :/

Dee74

I understand the fear but your bf is right where he needs to be SquarE.

Try and be patient. If yours is a strong true love, it cannot be 'brainwashed' away

D

SquarE2194

True. Thanks for the support

BlueSkiesAhead

Hello SquarE2194,
Hang in there. he is one lucky fellow to have someone who cares for him so much. Rehab is a very personal thing, and he will be thinking of you every hour he is in. Remember, you represent the life he wants.
If there are any Al-Anon groups in your area, it may be worth while to check one out for yourself. You will find many people who have gone through just what you are going through, and you don't have to say a word yourself. I know you will find a huge support system there. I wish you the best.

SquarE2194

Yes, thank you. I have also felt more comfortable now that I sent the letter as I have been honest and supportive and know it is probably an easier communication than the phone calls. So now just the wait.