hopeful4

That is not being a friend. I would not even consider that someone I know. Your sobriety has to come first. Anyone who cannot grasp that, get them away from you!

aasharon90

I often have to remember that some are more sicker
than others. To also remember that today I never
have to place myself in situations that would and
could make me feel uncomfortable.

Avoiding people, places and things in life that
can ruffle my feathers or put my recovery/
sobriety at risk.

I'll protect my sobriety no matter what,
because it means that much to me.

GREAT JOB FOR NOT DRINKING..!!!!

topspin

^ ,...this

MrBen

Nah no drinking for me, instead I'm going to watch wrestling today! Yeah!

2muchpain

If he was really a friend, he would not act that way. Drop the sucker and move on..

firstymer

I have zero tolerance for people who treat me like that. I may see it a little differently than some. I know a bunch of people whom I enjoy spending time with. I don't have enough free time to see the ones that I like and care about.

Given that, why would I waste my time with someone who treats me like that? If I have to run in to them from time to time, fine. I will be civil, and get away from them as quickly as possible. In the meantime, I am going to focus on the people that give me enjoyment. And I will be thankful for finding out this moron's true personality before wasting more time with them.

Chalk this up as a blessing. You didn't drink. And you learned a valuable lesson about yourself and about Sir Douchelot. Move on. And enjoy the wrestling.

ClearLight

NOBODY tells me what to drink. Period.
They never did. Even when I was out drinking nightly nobody ever forced a drink on me. Even when I had just finished a drink and was ready to order another one.
NOBODY tells me when and what to drink.
This guy is an ass.
Why are you hanging with ass-hats like that?
Why would you call a clown like this your friend?

Django

Hells yeah Ben are you on smackdown tonight!?

MrBen

No mate I'm actually off to a local show. Went to their debut last month, it was just unbelievably good, it was held in a 450 flip off a railing onto concrete. They're called TGW.

Django

I could do a 450 splash with my eyes closed ;-) have a good night mate.

MrBen

Well he was my friend when I was a drunk, I guess that's just another decisions that'll go in the corner of my brain entitled "Mistakes Ben made while drinking".

MrBen

Yeah... me too.... if I was on a computer game...... and I knew the controls really well =)

Refiner

He was trying to sabotage you. Wow, what a nice guy... NOT.

Jupiters

we sure like to surround ourselves with prime people when drinking eh?
hahaha

I know I looked back and thought "sober, you couldn't PAY me to hang out with ____, wtf was I thinking?!"
oh wait, I wasn't. I was hammered.

ultradad

Good for you! Yeah, I know he didn't know you were sober, but for me any person, that knows I'm in recovery, that I have to meet in a bar...not going to be my friend for long. Sobriety comes first!

Hope4Life

Excellent job remaining sober Ben. One of the hardest things I did when I got sober was come to the realization who my 'True Friends' were. The folks I used to drink with were just 'Drinking Buddies' and once I walked away from the bar they never even tried to contact me to see how I was doing. The hard reality that I learned was that misery loves company and so do alcoholics. The reason drinkers act that way is that they consider your sobriety a THREAT to their drinking!

NOTHING is more important than your sobriety and anyone who would try to derail your efforts to improve your life is not a friend at all!!

Congratulations!

Nuudawn

Love this response. I think you are not the first to discover one their "drinking buddies" was not a friend. It's almost like when you stop drinking...you regain consciousness. You look around and think "WTF?"..who ARE these people??? I'm ashamed to say that in my last sobriety there was a woman I pretty much avoided...not because she was a trigger really..but because ...well, she sorta bores me to tears without alcohol. Well..guess who I wanted to get together and catch up with when I relapsed? Yup.

With respect to your experience, you really have to wonder about someone provoked to actual rage when you won't drink with them.

I'd say you hit a nerve on fire...just because someone doesn't act like a dufus and embarrass themselves or get sloppy when drunk..doesn't mean they are not alcoholic.

I used to think that.

ClearLight

Ha!
Good attitude!
And Good Luck!

Stoogy

Drop kick that Guy Ben, it's simply not worth it!

Well done on staying strong too.

Cathryn2001

^This.

Been dealing with something similar (though not quite as aggressive), and I received a lot of good feedback in the Alcoholism section. I'm realizing that many of my "friends" do not have my best interest at heart.

You did well, MrBen. Sounds like you are taking excellent care of yourself and looking out for your sobriety.