phoebe64

Raider, I think lots of people will like the sober you, including you. We already like you now, and you will only improve yourself with sobriety.

KateeDidnt

This is now my favorite thread as it is helping me sort through all the difficult decisions that lay ahead. I realize that my husband is still the same person I fell in love with years ago. I can't resent his drinking because that is part of who he is. There are other parts of him that are really awesome, and I need to look at those things instead of concentrating on the one really negative.

Raider, my friend, are there aspects of your husband that you like?

foolsgold66

You'll like sober you, Raider. There will be pain, and you will cry, and you will cope, and you will begin to have pride again. I believe the person is still there, and all this 'I don't know me' stuff people say sometimes is mostly just their crisis of change talking. I had it too, when I was changing into sober living, to a limited degree, but I expressed it differently.

Raider

Thanks people. Thanks a lot.

JadeSatellite

The best idea I've gotten from this thread is that being sober has nothing to do with anything else: not relationships, not stress, not ANYTHING. We simply ARE, and nothing in life should or will change that. Thanks everyone for the eye-opening read!