Class of July 2013
Life Goes On
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 6,069
I'm quite certain that Dee has suggested urge surfing to this class at some point this month. He always does.
I've "heard" this advice multiple times and nodded my head, "yup, good idea, I'm gonna try that." But SO many times I found myself on auto-pilot already beyond the surfing stage and onto the bad decision "chuck it" stage. Thinking, "How in the blazes did that happen?!?"
I just noticed today that those urges crop up on a regular basis while I'm at work, but I ignore them. After all, I'm not considering drinking now, I'm considering a drink later. Like having this idea is my mini-oasis. Bad idea! Because I am pretty sure that stuffing it now is what makes it seem like these urges just pounce on me later. When really, they've been needling at me periodically throughout my workday.
I just had to share because I'll bet some of the rest of y'all all read good urge-stuffers too. Until you can cut loose.
Thanks, Dee!!!
I've "heard" this advice multiple times and nodded my head, "yup, good idea, I'm gonna try that." But SO many times I found myself on auto-pilot already beyond the surfing stage and onto the bad decision "chuck it" stage. Thinking, "How in the blazes did that happen?!?"
I just noticed today that those urges crop up on a regular basis while I'm at work, but I ignore them. After all, I'm not considering drinking now, I'm considering a drink later. Like having this idea is my mini-oasis. Bad idea! Because I am pretty sure that stuffing it now is what makes it seem like these urges just pounce on me later. When really, they've been needling at me periodically throughout my workday.
I just had to share because I'll bet some of the rest of y'all all read good urge-stuffers too. Until you can cut loose.
Thanks, Dee!!!
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: London
Posts: 8
Day 3 has passed.
Couldn't sleep until 4 am last night, woke up around noon bit dizzy. Went out to the park to be under the sun, read a book (Drinking, a Love Story) and later on helped with my friend to move in next door.
We soon smoked a joint which made me a bit nervous before. I knew that marijuana was a trigger for me, but also knew that I can handle the occasional anxiety, I won't get that anxious. It was fine, it was relaxing and I stayed in a pretty good mood.
I could also realise the moments when I would normally take a sip of a drink, the emotional or physical triggers, but I did something else instead. Took a sip of water, had an apple, smoked a cigarette, consumed something less harmful. My friend rarely drinks, and I feel really comfortable with him, so it's okay, but I will definitely stay away from weed in other social settings.
I also like weed as it lets me observe myself from a slightly different perspective. I believe occasional use could be beneficial for my recovery from alcohol.
After all it was a great day, did a little physical activity as well lifting up furniture, walking up stairs, etc... Now I'm gonna listen to a CBT audiobook.
Couldn't sleep until 4 am last night, woke up around noon bit dizzy. Went out to the park to be under the sun, read a book (Drinking, a Love Story) and later on helped with my friend to move in next door.
We soon smoked a joint which made me a bit nervous before. I knew that marijuana was a trigger for me, but also knew that I can handle the occasional anxiety, I won't get that anxious. It was fine, it was relaxing and I stayed in a pretty good mood.
I could also realise the moments when I would normally take a sip of a drink, the emotional or physical triggers, but I did something else instead. Took a sip of water, had an apple, smoked a cigarette, consumed something less harmful. My friend rarely drinks, and I feel really comfortable with him, so it's okay, but I will definitely stay away from weed in other social settings.
I also like weed as it lets me observe myself from a slightly different perspective. I believe occasional use could be beneficial for my recovery from alcohol.
After all it was a great day, did a little physical activity as well lifting up furniture, walking up stairs, etc... Now I'm gonna listen to a CBT audiobook.
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Newcastle, UK
Posts: 571
5 mins away from day 6. Been applying for graduate jobs all day, there are so many applying for so few it's hard to get an opportunity, and no other recruiters will touch you without experience.
Ill keep trying
good night all
Ill keep trying
good night all
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,997
Evening of day 6.
I filled the car before hitting the highway for my first WFS meeting. Wasn't feeling good, edgy, cravings today.
After an hour, listening to traffic and weather reports about flash flooding, traffic gridlock, cars hydro planing right in the area i was headed to, I decided it was best to turn around and head home.
I'm disappointed. I was struggling on the way home with the thought of "ok, so now I have the chance to hit the liquor store". Man, this sucks. Ok, breathe, almost done today.
Tomorrow is another day...
I filled the car before hitting the highway for my first WFS meeting. Wasn't feeling good, edgy, cravings today.
After an hour, listening to traffic and weather reports about flash flooding, traffic gridlock, cars hydro planing right in the area i was headed to, I decided it was best to turn around and head home.
I'm disappointed. I was struggling on the way home with the thought of "ok, so now I have the chance to hit the liquor store". Man, this sucks. Ok, breathe, almost done today.
Tomorrow is another day...
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 3,313
Hi all, feeling emotionally drained tonight. Had a rough day/evening. Felt really down and emotional all day and just had a good cry in the shower. 3 yr old has been unusually difficult and husband ticked me off last night so just feeling very frustrated. If there had been wine or vodka in the house tonight it would have been all over (probably why I don't keep it here haha). Going to try and go to bed early. Tomorrow is a new day
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 315
Checking in again. I really like to write, so I hope I don't bug people by posting too much Just wanted to say how grateful I am to be sober for Day 4. Right now we are making dinner, something I couldn't imagine without wine or scotch before. I am actually alert and not slurring my words or getting into an argument about stupid stuff ("what do you mean the carrots aren't peeled right?!!!") For some bizarre reason, I am not even tempted right now. Well, I did buy some special juice and am drinking it in a wine glass. It's important to feel I have something pretty--and also tastes great. See you all tomorrow. It is great to see so many people just starting or starting over. Cheers to us.
Just wanted to say how grateful I am to be sober for Day 4. Right now we are making dinner, something I couldn't imagine without wine or scotch before. I am actually alert and not slurring my words or getting into an argument about stupid stuff ("what do you mean the carrots aren't peeled right?!!!") For some bizarre reason, I am not even tempted right now. Well, I did buy some special juice and am drinking it in a wine glass. It's important to feel I have something pretty--and also tastes great. See you all tomorrow. It is great to see so many people just starting or starting over. Cheers to us.
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: California
Posts: 181
Well I had a horrible day. Basically a mistake was made by my partner on something so I'm pretty sure we are suspended for 45 days which means no new business for 45 days. This is pretty awful, there's still a chance we are okay I will know more in the morning. Please say a prayer for me.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,997
Looks like a number of us have had a pretty difficult day, sorry too, Dee, that you're not feeling well.
Fingers crossed for you, Lunetta.
Yes, Ladybug, on to tomorrow, and I agree with you, no booze in the house is best.
I was thinking a pic of the "soup Nazi" would be cool for my avatar, only he's saying "no booze for you"!! (jk)
Fingers crossed for you, Lunetta.
Yes, Ladybug, on to tomorrow, and I agree with you, no booze in the house is best.
I was thinking a pic of the "soup Nazi" would be cool for my avatar, only he's saying "no booze for you"!! (jk)
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Pennsylvania
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Originally Posted by Leshar 
I was thinking a pic of the "soup Nazi" would be cool for my avatar, only he's saying "no booze for you"!! (jk)
Hope everything turns out OK, Lunetta.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 55
Had a little bit of a bad day.
My SO fought with me nonstop after work and usually by day 3 of no drinking I would have chose to drink tonight-- it would feel relaxing to me initially and also cause me to apologize and back down from anything going on between me and SO. I didnt drink or apologize for anything that wasnt my fault.
I went grocery shopping with 2 of my kids, 5 years old and 9. I had a headache the entire time and started feeling convinced my blood pressure was sky high. I have no idea why I start being panicky about health concerns. It feels so horribly scary though.
I have read that you dont break bad habits.. you replace them. So I decided earlier that I'd 'obsess' on good eating/ exersizing/ losing weight/ getting healthy/ moving and finding a place and job if my BF wont quit. I have a LOT to concentrate on!
So- we came home from grocery shopping and I juiced up a juice and made me and the kids some yummy veggie sandwiches.
Lifes good!
Oh, and my brother, who abuses alcohol, and lives in my basement, came in from work and asked me if I was really quitting. I said yes. He said he will too (because i said me and the kids will not live in a house with drinkers anymore and that means several different outcomes could happen- one being that I might need to move).
My SO fought with me nonstop after work and usually by day 3 of no drinking I would have chose to drink tonight-- it would feel relaxing to me initially and also cause me to apologize and back down from anything going on between me and SO. I didnt drink or apologize for anything that wasnt my fault.
I went grocery shopping with 2 of my kids, 5 years old and 9. I had a headache the entire time and started feeling convinced my blood pressure was sky high. I have no idea why I start being panicky about health concerns. It feels so horribly scary though.
I have read that you dont break bad habits.. you replace them. So I decided earlier that I'd 'obsess' on good eating/ exersizing/ losing weight/ getting healthy/ moving and finding a place and job if my BF wont quit. I have a LOT to concentrate on!
So- we came home from grocery shopping and I juiced up a juice and made me and the kids some yummy veggie sandwiches.
Lifes good!
Oh, and my brother, who abuses alcohol, and lives in my basement, came in from work and asked me if I was really quitting. I said yes. He said he will too (because i said me and the kids will not live in a house with drinkers anymore and that means several different outcomes could happen- one being that I might need to move).
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by stewie070413
New to SR. Day 5 for me. Haven't been to Day 6 for 11 years. Looks like I'm going to make it.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: London
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Originally Posted by niijikwe
I have no idea why I start being panicky about health concerns. It feels so horribly scary though.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
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Day 2
I'm finally on Day 2. Yesterday was a horrible, achy, shaky and sweaty day. I don't want to have to do that again. Today I feel a little scared. I guess that I will take a while to get through the anxiety phase. I'm hoping for a healthier life and feel one step closer.
Grateful places like this exist.
Grateful places like this exist.
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