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Old 12-22-2012, 11:15 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Fill in your answer: I deserve to be happy because ____________.


It has taken me so long to be able to accept that I deserve to be happy. Sobriety has helped me see what a lifelong issue this has been for me. From being taught from a young child that I was not supposed to be happy, to staying for many years in an unhappy marriage, to staying in unhappy jobs and living in unhappy places, this belief that I don't deserve a happy life has underpinned so much.
I really want to get underneath this blanket of undeservedness and gather the strength to lift it away from me.
Sobriety was the first step as alcoholism was just another layer I had heaped upon my undeservedness.
I deserve to be happy because:
Every human does.
Because there is nothing wrong with me.
Because I am one of God's children, too.
Because every other person in the WORLD does not have to be happy, before I get to be.
Because there is an infinite supply and more than enough to go around.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
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I deserve to be happy, because God wants us all to be happy and joyful and celebrate life while we're alive.
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Old 12-31-2012, 07:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Old 01-03-2013, 06:00 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I deserve to be happy, because I am willing to work for it.
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Old 01-03-2013, 06:21 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Old 01-03-2013, 06:26 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I've hurt and hurt those around me for way too dam* long!
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I deserve to be happy because I'm better at making others happy when I am happy myself.

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I don't think I deserve to be happy, but I'm more than willing to do what it takes to bring myself happiness.
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Sigh. I guess I need this kind of thread to force myself to do some affirmations. I also struggle with thinking I deserve to be happy/healthy...so...

I deserve to be happy because other people (like those at the AA meeting I attended this morning) think I deserve it. and because my husband thinks I deserve to be happy.

It's a start. I'll get there.
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Sigh. I guess I need this kind of thread to force myself to do some affirmations. I also struggle with thinking I deserve to be happy/healthy...so...

I deserve to be happy because other people (like those at the AA meeting I attended this morning) think I deserve it. and because my husband thinks I deserve to be happy.

It's a start. I'll get there.
I think this is a very important things. We spent so much time with low self-esteem that we think we deserve all the crap. We don't.

I think a person should find something positive about themselves everyday. And do things that make you feel good.
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I deserve to be happy because the alternative isn't that great...and happiness is priceless and when it comes around it is a gift...
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I deserve to be happy, because, none of us know how long we have.
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I deserve to be happy because I believe that you get what you give..........

I also belive if you ask you will recieve......


Matthew 7:7-8

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7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
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Old 01-22-2013, 07:37 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Old 02-01-2013, 11:43 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I deserve to be happy, because, I am working so hard to clean up my act.
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