Lost cause
sobriety date 5-2-12
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Originally Posted by SoberForMySon 
Idid tell my shrink, he thought I was mad and there's nothing to fear. I also told a member here lol. I guess I am truly mad cos I can't let it go.
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Idid tell my shrink, he thought I was mad and there's nothing to fear. I also told a member here lol. I guess I am truly mad cos I can't let it go.
When you're in the moment, you're observing and just experiencing/feeling whatever comes up. You're not really thinking about it. Once you start doing that, you've lost touch. You're not in the moment anymore.... you're in the past or future and you're judging your experience, thinking about when it's going to end, or why you feel that way, what you can do to change it, hide from it, etc. That's where the pain comes from. (AA talks a lot about the need for acceptance, and in the end it's really the same thing. Staying in the moment, or mindfulness, is just a way to make it a conscious practice).
Think about a time you might have been totally present, absorbed in something - playing sports, working with your hands, whatever - and you weren't judging the past or anticipating the future. That's what it feels like - to me, anyway....
Hope that helps a little bit?
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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Originally Posted by SoberForMySon
I think I may be one. Thanks to BUS, referenced in the sticky on suicide, for self harming people, I quit cutting. What a great site!!! Been there for years, ten or more, and finally knocked that habit. But I cannot kill the fear in e of one specific thing that will probably never happen, but would take everything from me if it did. How do I get over this? I cannot eat, sleep, play, watch TV, or anything, cos this fear is so all consuming, even though it is so unlikely. Clearly, I cannot even think of ending an addiction in the middle of trying to function at all with a horrible terror ruling my life. I do not know what to do. I know drinking doesn't help in reality, but it gets me through each fear filled horrible day. I have over a year before the fear ends, and even longer maybe because of pesky details. Ugh! Help me! I am dying here. I have already given up all my hobbies and interests, cos the fear is so strong. My life has no joy. And no, there is nothing I can do to resolve it.
Sorry I can't post anything more useful, as obviously I haven't exactly found the light at the tunnel yet either. But just try to avoid the destructive behaviour and hope that things fall into place.
Thanks also for being so supportive on my thread. It's strange how we may not see hope for ourselves, but see hope for others in almost identical situations.
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There's some brilliant advice here SFMS 
I used to think I was a lost cause. I wasn't
I've met thousands of people here. Not one of them has been a lost cause either
Lots of people convince themselves they are tho - don;t let yuorself go down that road.
Getting sober can be scary...it can uncover other stuff too - which is even scarier.
But you're not alone on this journey...and you can make it...for yourself and your family...don't give up or lose hope
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I used to think I was a lost cause. I wasn't
I've met thousands of people here. Not one of them has been a lost cause either
Lots of people convince themselves they are tho - don;t let yuorself go down that road.
Getting sober can be scary...it can uncover other stuff too - which is even scarier.
But you're not alone on this journey...and you can make it...for yourself and your family...don't give up or lose hope
D
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