Weasel1966

Guilt and shame are the cornerstones of sobriety.

They are the foundation we build our new lives on. Without them we would never understand how to be better people.

With that in mind try to accept them.

I have many terrible things I did to.

Today specifically I feel all of them. They are right over my shoulder.

But I also know they can motivate me. To become better than that.

Thanks for the post.

serious

great response, Weasel1966, thank you.

serious

i am very ashamed of things i've done in the past. one of the many, many, many, reasons why i'd like to remain sober for good is that i'll never have to repeat that kind of behavior again.

2granddaughters

epskie, for my AA program to really begin to work I had to:

1) Just for 1 day stay sober- don't drink
2) Get a Home Group and get active. Attend meetings as often as I used to drink.
3) Get a sponsor...and use him/her. Ride them hard. Listen and ask questions.
4) Get down on my knees and ask God for help. Become open to and seek a Higher Power.
5) Help the other newcomers. Nothing helps me more than helping another.

You are a little stuck here and you'll get through it if you work the program.

I wish you the best.

Bob R

freshstart57

I thought while I was drinking that I needed forgiveness, from myself for myself and others, and also from others for me. That was wrong, I did not need that at all, and in some ways, I did not deserve to be forgiven.

Then I stopped drinking. Things became clearer for me then. I did not require forgiveness, I required acceptance. Yes those things happened, they were bad, and I feel ashamed. I can not change those things, they are gone and outside of my control. I accept that fact.

But, and this is big, they will never happen again. Today is a fresh day with no mistakes in it, and tomorrow will be alcohol free too. I know it.