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Hey CC, Like your outlook...open and truthful
You asked for comments so that is all they are "comments" not judgement in any way.
In my opinion what ever tools work for you man! Others use AA, AVRT etc etc these are also just tools that work for them. The key is just stay sober period!
Wow, a date? Very brave move this early in my opinion. Nothing wrong with companionship, we all need a hug often. But to start a relationship of any kind other than text support or simple hug is risky for both of you, again just comments...
I can only speak from my experience and not any literature from any program. As a professional 20 yr alcoholic I evolved a dual personality.
When sober, very quite, spoke only when asked. Was honest and understanding.
When drunk or detox, I am what a labeled a "used car salesman" I just need to hustle the next sucker that walks on the lot, tell them anything they needed to hear just to make the sale, this would include my wife, mother and grandmother if I could just make that next sale.
So with that said. Until you have a long history of sobriety, you might just as well be a "used car salesman" making the next sale. Don't know just comments...........
You asked for comments so that is all they are "comments" not judgement in any way.
Originally Posted by coming_clean 
dear admin,
This is no advice for others, just tools that work for ME.
However, if you think this is too much,. Notify me then I will delete the spiritual helaing part.
This is no advice for others, just tools that work for ME.
However, if you think this is too much,. Notify me then I will delete the spiritual helaing part.
Originally Posted by coming_clean
I've got a date with a girl who knows i'm in this....situation...for the rest of my life. She doesnt drink smoke do drugs whatsoever.
I've been phoning, texsting, emailing, chatting, camming for weeks now, so when using too, but I just told her on.....LOL the 1st of april i'm struggling with addiction my whole life.
I've been phoning, texsting, emailing, chatting, camming for weeks now, so when using too, but I just told her on.....LOL the 1st of april i'm struggling with addiction my whole life.
Originally Posted by coming_clean
I could use some comments on this...AA literature says it's not wise.
However im the type of guy that's a bad listner, and does things anyways if his hart says so...she knows bout the detox and such..somehow she doesn't run away...but she told me never to hold back about this stuf again....
However im the type of guy that's a bad listner, and does things anyways if his hart says so...she knows bout the detox and such..somehow she doesn't run away...but she told me never to hold back about this stuf again
....When sober, very quite, spoke only when asked. Was honest and understanding.
When drunk or detox, I am what a labeled a "used car salesman" I just need to hustle the next sucker that walks on the lot, tell them anything they needed to hear just to make the sale, this would include my wife, mother and grandmother if I could just make that next sale.
So with that said. Until you have a long history of sobriety, you might just as well be a "used car salesman" making the next sale. Don't know just comments...........
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Originally Posted by BillyPilgrim
For my two pence. I told my gf. She was shocked for me it was a co#k on the block thing. If I mess up once she is off. I know that. As Mr cash says I walk the line
Seize the day. Carpe diem. You get one life. But know the consequences
Seize the day. Carpe diem. You get one life. But know the consequences
I've tattood 'carpe diem' on my wrists.....
three years ago
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Originally Posted by sugarbear1
what do you mean about "At first I pushed her away saying homewrecking is not my style." ?
Whatever you do, keep your sobriety first. Emotions can often lead us back to drinking.
Enjoy life!
Peace,
Whatever you do, keep your sobriety first. Emotions can often lead us back to drinking.
Enjoy life!
Peace,
Told her that's a thing she has to do on her own.....
Not on my back....
same as I tell her about addiction...
And I cried and screamed alone.
We all have our own battles to fight...
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Originally Posted by BelizeDiver
Hey CC, Like your outlook...open and truthful
You asked for comments so that is all they are "comments" not judgement in any way.
In my opinion what ever tools work for you man! Others use AA, AVRT etc etc these are also just tools that work for them. The key is just stay sober period!
Wow, a date? Very brave move this early in my opinion. Nothing wrong with companionship, we all need a hug often. But to start a relationship of any kind other than text support or simple hug is risky for both of you, again just comments...
I can only speak from my experience and not any literature from any program. As a professional 20 yr alcoholic I evolved a dual personality.
When sober, very quite, spoke only when asked. Was honest and understanding.
When drunk or detox, I am what a labeled a "used car salesman" I just need to hustle the next sucker that walks on the lot, tell them anything they needed to hear just to make the sale, this would include my wife, mother and grandmother if I could just make that next sale.
So with that said. Until you have a long history of sobriety, you might just as well be a "used car salesman" making the next sale. Don't know just comments...........
You asked for comments so that is all they are "comments" not judgement in any way.
In my opinion what ever tools work for you man! Others use AA, AVRT etc etc these are also just tools that work for them. The key is just stay sober period!
Wow, a date? Very brave move this early in my opinion. Nothing wrong with companionship, we all need a hug often. But to start a relationship of any kind other than text support or simple hug is risky for both of you, again just comments...
I can only speak from my experience and not any literature from any program. As a professional 20 yr alcoholic I evolved a dual personality.
When sober, very quite, spoke only when asked. Was honest and understanding.
When drunk or detox, I am what a labeled a "used car salesman" I just need to hustle the next sucker that walks on the lot, tell them anything they needed to hear just to make the sale, this would include my wife, mother and grandmother if I could just make that next sale.
So with that said. Until you have a long history of sobriety, you might just as well be a "used car salesman" making the next sale. Don't know just comments...........
I'm scared ********....
CAuse i'm starting the like her....
This brings up all kind of questions about my addiction about myself about....everything...
however...
It would be a shame...if I ignored my hart, and wake up an old man and with the realisation I never reached out for the stars...
I'd rather die trying..and i'm pretty serious about this.
i'm a boxer/martial arts guy for a huge part of my life now....
I know what's it's like to go into the ring...knowing it's impossible to win...and do it anyways....and win....
And/or get KO'd LOL.....
Not everything is always up to ME alone....sometimes u just gotta fight...
doesn't know if this makes sense,
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Originally Posted by Sapling
I found a way...I worked on me....At nine months I'm still working on me...I screwed enough people's lives over in my drinking career....At day five I was still in detox.....I wasn't playing the field.
I asked for feedback...and I got it.
i'm in this recovery game bout 8 years now...three of them together sober, maybe four....
I've written thousands a pages of reflection...i've talked with shrinks, with addicts, with sober addicts, with munks, with buddhists, with sinners and saints...i've tested myself on ADHD, ADD, Autism, Borderline, what not.
I've prayed i've cried and cursed god and the universe, only for the next day to embrace them as my parents...I worked on this each and everyday...with will and determination that not many have matched so far...
Im cursed and blessed with an IQ en EQ that....are just.....too much lol
If I didn't make any progress....aside from the relapses...but as a human being in general...
I really am not worthy of living in the first place....and I should fall back into oblivion for all eternity
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