Class of September 2011
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I've found the last two days difficult. Cravings and that voice telling me I can moderate. Its incredible how this can take me round and round in circles. The same tired old routine of 'Will I?, Won't I?'
I've come through these few days hoping it will get easier. HALT helps me alot. The hungry and lonely triggers are very strong. So I guess that means I need to eat and be in company more! When my children go to their dad's for the weekend loneliness can hit me hard. I'm meeting a friend today for lunch so its good to have a plan to help ward off those horrible cravings.
Thinking of my fellow class-mates as we count our days together.
I've come through these few days hoping it will get easier. HALT helps me alot. The hungry and lonely triggers are very strong. So I guess that means I need to eat and be in company more! When my children go to their dad's for the weekend loneliness can hit me hard. I'm meeting a friend today for lunch so its good to have a plan to help ward off those horrible cravings.
Thinking of my fellow class-mates as we count our days together.
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I may have posted this before, but this helped me Marria 
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-surfing.html
I think nearly everyone craves at some point, but it's what we do in response that counts
you can do this
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http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-surfing.html
I think nearly everyone craves at some point, but it's what we do in response that counts
you can do this
D
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Originally Posted by Tillies 
Hi all,
I'm into Day 11 - staying calm and steadfast, have been here many times before and drank again. Just want to keep getting those days under my belt and build my sober wall.
I'm into Day 11 - staying calm and steadfast, have been here many times before and drank again. Just want to keep getting those days under my belt and build my sober wall.
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Ok all,i was previously in the class of august 2011,i made 4 days sober then i relapsed big time.....I have been trying to cut down all week and today is my last day of boozing.I have already marked it on my calender that 11th september 2011 is my quit day and it is also 1 day before my boys 5th birthday...I really want to be sober for his birthday so this time i gotta do it...I hope you guys let me join your crew....Many thanks....steve.
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Hi ya'll. So I'm completely new at this and I'm pretty pissed. 
Is this where we tell a bit of our situation? If I talked to anyone in my circle of life, they would tell me that I'm not an Alcoholic. I like to have a beer every night while I cook dinner. When we go out to dinner or over to a friends house I have a drink. Who doesn't, right? Do I wake up with a hangover? No. Do I start drinking early? No. My husband can have a beer or two and it's no big deal. So what is the problem?? ME. I look forward to that drink like it's the beginning and ending to my day. If we are going out, I look forward to that drink more than the company. 1 drink!? I know this is a problem. I can't stand the control that this has over me. More than that, I can't stand that I only half believe that I have a problem! 1 drink .. what's the big deal? Lots of people drink. I'm not a fall down drunk. And yet ... I can't help but feel that anything that is this important to me is a problem. It's only a matter of time. So why am I so mad?? Why can't I have this thing? Why do I have to stop? Funny thing is it's my decision yet I'm mad at everyone else! I stopped drinking on 9/6 and a few of those nights I was fine. I just kept myself busy. Pissed the whole time. My poor husband has no real idea what is going on because he doesn't have a problem. It's just a beer to him. He is happy with it or without it. Last night we were having his parents over and I was stomping about like a 5 year old. I asked if he was going to go to the store and he said he didn't feel like it. I was trying so hard to act like I didn't care (obviously because I don't have a drinking problem) but inside I was so mad. I ended up going upstairs to lie down when his parents came because I was just so upset. Realizing I was mad and trying to punish him for not giving me what I wanted made me feel like a total jerk. He would have gone if I pushed even a little but I feel unwilling to do that. Does any of this make sense? I hate these mental games. Why can't I just be normal? I guess that's why I'm mad. I don't want to have to deal with this problem. I just want what I want, when I want it. And yet .... I know I have a problem. This sucks. Sorry for the rant. I do want to be normal. I have three beautiful kids, a great husband. Even better ... I'm a Christ follower who loves the Lord. He has been whispering to me about this for a while now and I have been choosing not to listen. Well I'm listening now.
So ... here I be. Ready to join a September Class. I don't know what help I can be to any of you, but I would sure like to try!
Is this where we tell a bit of our situation? If I talked to anyone in my circle of life, they would tell me that I'm not an Alcoholic. I like to have a beer every night while I cook dinner. When we go out to dinner or over to a friends house I have a drink. Who doesn't, right? Do I wake up with a hangover? No. Do I start drinking early? No. My husband can have a beer or two and it's no big deal. So what is the problem?? ME. I look forward to that drink like it's the beginning and ending to my day. If we are going out, I look forward to that drink more than the company. 1 drink!? I know this is a problem. I can't stand the control that this has over me. More than that, I can't stand that I only half believe that I have a problem! 1 drink .. what's the big deal? Lots of people drink. I'm not a fall down drunk. And yet ... I can't help but feel that anything that is this important to me is a problem. It's only a matter of time. So why am I so mad?? Why can't I have this thing? Why do I have to stop? Funny thing is it's my decision yet I'm mad at everyone else! I stopped drinking on 9/6 and a few of those nights I was fine. I just kept myself busy. Pissed the whole time. My poor husband has no real idea what is going on because he doesn't have a problem. It's just a beer to him. He is happy with it or without it. Last night we were having his parents over and I was stomping about like a 5 year old. I asked if he was going to go to the store and he said he didn't feel like it. I was trying so hard to act like I didn't care (obviously because I don't have a drinking problem) but inside I was so mad. I ended up going upstairs to lie down when his parents came because I was just so upset. Realizing I was mad and trying to punish him for not giving me what I wanted made me feel like a total jerk. He would have gone if I pushed even a little but I feel unwilling to do that. Does any of this make sense? I hate these mental games. Why can't I just be normal? I guess that's why I'm mad. I don't want to have to deal with this problem. I just want what I want, when I want it. And yet .... I know I have a problem. This sucks. Sorry for the rant. I do want to be normal. I have three beautiful kids, a great husband. Even better ... I'm a Christ follower who loves the Lord. He has been whispering to me about this for a while now and I have been choosing not to listen. Well I'm listening now. So ... here I be. Ready to join a September Class. I don't know what help I can be to any of you, but I would sure like to try!
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Way to go Boozefree! Thats awesome. Marria you can do this!
I am right there with you. Cravings are killing me. That voice that say I can moderate is getting louder. Its exactly the same pattern that happened last time. The voice gets stronger and stronger until I finally give in to it. I was never very good at impulse control.
I thought this weekend was going to be easy. I was so wrong. Despite working I want to party. Went out for a bit last night. Was feeling stronger so went dancing and to the club. Stayed away from the drinks - cranberry and club soda for me. It was nice. Everyone partied around me. They do seem to be ok with me not drinking. Now I just have to be ok with it. I probably shouldnt go to the clubs but it is just so boring staying home.
I am right there with you. Cravings are killing me. That voice that say I can moderate is getting louder. Its exactly the same pattern that happened last time. The voice gets stronger and stronger until I finally give in to it. I was never very good at impulse control.
I thought this weekend was going to be easy. I was so wrong. Despite working I want to party. Went out for a bit last night. Was feeling stronger so went dancing and to the club. Stayed away from the drinks - cranberry and club soda for me. It was nice. Everyone partied around me. They do seem to be ok with me not drinking. Now I just have to be ok with it. I probably shouldnt go to the clubs but it is just so boring staying home.
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Ah! I was looking for this thread over in the "Newcomer's Daily Support Threads" section with all the other "Class of..." threads. I created one over there today. Maybe the moderators can delete my thread and move this one over there?
Best, Rev
Best, Rev
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@Marria, thanks for your lovely words! I'm trying to build this sober wall to give me some strength and defence against the cravings which hit about once every two days.
I haven't drunk anything since Aug. 29th and I'm fine except when I have some kind of socialising to do. Then, the very plausible-sounding craving kicks in, telling me I need to relax and be like everyone else and have a drink. And it says that I'm just setting myself apart and isolating myself by not drinking - aargh! I've a Sunday lunch tomorrow and a short break away with friends at the end of October (six weeks away!) and my mind is partly beginning to think like that.
This is where the sober wall comes in...and this SR site which seems to have a lot of people in my position. There's great comfort in that: thanks everyone
Can I also say how much I appreciate those little "thanks " posts that people put after my comments? A great help.
Good luck everyone today!
I haven't drunk anything since Aug. 29th and I'm fine except when I have some kind of socialising to do. Then, the very plausible-sounding craving kicks in, telling me I need to relax and be like everyone else and have a drink. And it says that I'm just setting myself apart and isolating myself by not drinking - aargh! I've a Sunday lunch tomorrow and a short break away with friends at the end of October (six weeks away!) and my mind is partly beginning to think like that.
This is where the sober wall comes in...and this SR site which seems to have a lot of people in my position. There's great comfort in that: thanks everyone
Can I also say how much I appreciate those little "thanks " posts that people put after my comments? A great help.
Good luck everyone today!
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Hi everyone!
Welcome to the group stevie, revolution and forhim!
Stevie I think that would be really cool to be able to be sober for your sons bday
Im right there with ya guys with the cravings and the stupid voice kickin in. Esp today for some reason. I dont feel solid enough to go out and be around everyone drinking so will prob spend the weekend at home again. I hate with all damage drinking caused me that I still get cravings to drink. I chose on sept 3rd to make it my day 1 for a reason bc I didnt want to continue to feel like a slave to alcohol and be dragged down. My car is in the shop today and I think when its ready to pick up maybe I will treat myself to some pizza for dinner.
Welcome to the group stevie, revolution and forhim!
Stevie I think that would be really cool to be able to be sober for your sons bday
Im right there with ya guys with the cravings and the stupid voice kickin in. Esp today for some reason. I dont feel solid enough to go out and be around everyone drinking so will prob spend the weekend at home again. I hate with all damage drinking caused me that I still get cravings to drink. I chose on sept 3rd to make it my day 1 for a reason bc I didnt want to continue to feel like a slave to alcohol and be dragged down. My car is in the shop today and I think when its ready to pick up maybe I will treat myself to some pizza for dinner.
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Welcome to the thread Stevie, ForHim, and Revolution
so we can reach as many folks as we can, the monthly threads start here in Newcomers - then they move over to Daily Support once they reach part 2 (500 posts) Revolution
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so we can reach as many folks as we can, the monthly threads start here in Newcomers - then they move over to Daily Support once they reach part 2 (500 posts) Revolution
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Got it! I was looking for it in the other area and missed it here due to the volume of new posts but I follow the logic. Wrapping up day seven here.
Best, Rev
Best, Rev
Originally Posted by Dee74
Welcome to the thread Stevie, ForHim, and Revolution
so we can reach as many folks as we can, the monthly threads start here in Newcomers - then they move over to Daily Support once they reach part 2 (500 posts) Revolution
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so we can reach as many folks as we can, the monthly threads start here in Newcomers - then they move over to Daily Support once they reach part 2 (500 posts) Revolution
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Hi All.
Slips in quietly through the back door.............again
Hope you'll have me back! Like Coop, I was originally in the class of Nov. 2010 and had 3 months sober, however on day 70 I thought I could just have a couple (after all after that amount of time surely I could control it) didn't work, so here I am, wide awake (and have been for most of the night) I feel sick, too much again last night. So hoping to get through day 1 - or will it be day one when I'm feeling better (less hungover),the clock says 6pm and the urge threatens to take over!
Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
Slips in quietly through the back door.............again
Hope you'll have me back! Like Coop, I was originally in the class of Nov. 2010 and had 3 months sober, however on day 70 I thought I could just have a couple (after all after that amount of time surely I could control it) didn't work, so here I am, wide awake (and have been for most of the night) I feel sick, too much again last night. So hoping to get through day 1 - or will it be day one when I'm feeling better (less hungover),the clock says 6pm and the urge threatens to take over!
Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
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Welcome Stevie, Revolution and Zuri from another newbie
I got through my Sunday lunch - cooked for 10, didn't drink at any time, and really enjoyed myself. Just a small step forward, but a good one. And if I can do it, trust me, anyone can.
Hope everyone's having a good weekend.
I got through my Sunday lunch - cooked for 10, didn't drink at any time, and really enjoyed myself. Just a small step forward, but a good one. And if I can do it, trust me, anyone can.
Hope everyone's having a good weekend.
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Made it through the weekend. I would like to tell you it was easy, but that first sober weekend never is. Still here I am on day 7, still sober. The next week will be vastly easier than this last one was. Withdrawal was no picnic.
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Welcome to the group Zuri, I have also tricked myself into believing that I could control my drinking after a period of sober time, and well.. you know how that goes. Glad your back!
Tillies- Glad you enjoyed your lunch, 10 people is a lot to cook for! good job!
Icarus congrats on the week sober!
Day 9 today. I was out driving around runnin errands this morning blastin my music along the beach and I think its the most alive I have felt in awhile, its so nice to have my life back instead of running out to the store in the morning grabbing more beer.
Tillies- Glad you enjoyed your lunch, 10 people is a lot to cook for! good job!
Icarus congrats on the week sober!
Day 9 today. I was out driving around runnin errands this morning blastin my music along the beach and I think its the most alive I have felt in awhile, its so nice to have my life back instead of running out to the store in the morning grabbing more beer.
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Originally Posted by Zuri
Hi All.
Slips in quietly through the back door.............again
Hope you'll have me back! Like Coop, I was originally in the class of Nov. 2010 and had 3 months sober, however on day 70 I thought I could just have a couple (after all after that amount of time surely I could control it) didn't work, so here I am, wide awake (and have been for most of the night) I feel sick, too much again last night. So hoping to get through day 1 - or will it be day one when I'm feeling better (less hungover),the clock says 6pm and the urge threatens to take over!
Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
Slips in quietly through the back door.............again
Hope you'll have me back! Like Coop, I was originally in the class of Nov. 2010 and had 3 months sober, however on day 70 I thought I could just have a couple (after all after that amount of time surely I could control it) didn't work, so here I am, wide awake (and have been for most of the night) I feel sick, too much again last night. So hoping to get through day 1 - or will it be day one when I'm feeling better (less hungover),the clock says 6pm and the urge threatens to take over!
Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
I've quit several times for about 2-3 months in the last 2 and a half years. Which is the most I've done after being a drunk for over 15 years. Each of those times I went back to drinking with the exact same thoughts. Shocking how I could possibly believe I could control it. I should hope that there would not be a doubt in my head now, that moderation is not possible for me.
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Day 7, very frustrated. I have my doubts that this time is going to stick. I am experiencing a ton of frustration. On top of it a huge party is happening tomorrow. There is a lot of stress associated with everything right now. I just feel myself slipping. I know I should not even go to the party. Have you ever known it is truly a terrible idea to do something but you know you will do it anyways, and yes it will not end well for you. This happens a lot to me, you would think I would learn. but somehow I just know I am going to walk out that door tomorrow. I am very frustrated and worried.
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Don't doubt yourself Biza - thats just your addicted side talking...trying to undermine things.
You and you alone decide whether things stick or not Biza - you can do this - don't throw in the towel...you'll only have to come back to this point eventually, right?
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You and you alone decide whether things stick or not Biza - you can do this - don't throw in the towel...you'll only have to come back to this point eventually, right?
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