Doctors said my wife can drink again

Old 08-19-2011, 03:12 PM
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Doctors said my wife can drink again

My wifes been sober for over six months. Recently she relapsed, and her weekly group convinced her to admit it to me. I talked her into finally going in to see an actual rehab center here in town. They did an assesment... asked her questions for over 3hrs. Then had her come back a week later.

When she got home she was giddy. "they told me I was abusing alchol, but there was nothing wrong with moderation. I should try moderating and if I can't do it I should stop again!"

So this is clearly horseshit. The reason she went was because she was sneaking arround drinking behind my back, my wife never lies to me, it's very out of character for her. She also doesn't seem to remember when she quit last time she cried every night for months because she couldn't drink.

I've resigned myself to the fact that she's not going to stop until she thinks she needs to. My problem is I have no idea how to act in this situation. There's a 6 pack in the fridge for the first time in over 6 months. Can anyone give me any tips?
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Old 08-19-2011, 03:20 PM
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She won't quit until she is ready and all you can do is take care of yourself. "Normal drinkers" don't cry when they can't drink. Sorry.
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Old 08-19-2011, 03:32 PM
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My alchohol counsellor told me that but then I lied about my drinking because he took details of my kids and because I lie about my drinking incase any one endangers my relationship with it.

One ex actually got me a sponsor so I left him after all could not endanger my love of alcohol. If She wants to drink she will drink and it may be a few weeks before it spirals out of control may be sooner depends but until that time she will convince herself she can drink in moderation. Good luck and wish I could give you some good advice
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Old 08-19-2011, 03:36 PM
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Sorry for the situation.....and who knows what was really said?
And her actions of sneaking drinks was a form of lying to you.

Anyway...most of us tried to control our drinking before we finally quit.
I hope she can or will quickly come to the realization alcohol is damageing her health and life.

For you I suggest you check out our Friends and Family of Alcoholics Forum and take a read around.
You too could use some support as you go thru this...

Here is the link
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She won't quit until she is ready and all you can do is take care of yourself. "Normal drinkers" don't cry when they can't drink. Sorry.
I'm with you.
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Old 08-19-2011, 04:59 PM
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I'm so sorry for what you're going through PainDivine. It makes no sense - but Carol's right - who knows what was really said. This doesn't sound right at all. I hope you will find some comfort reading & posting here.
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