Hi guys...another newbie!
Hi guys...another newbie!
Hi every1....I found this site in the early hours of the morning after having had a skinful yesterday...had an awful night...panic attacks, anxiety, insomnia...wracked with guilt that I had let myself (and my family) down again, so glad that I went online and found the AA site together with this one...
I can so relate to the stories on here. I've been drinking for most of my adult life...since around 13 (i'm 37 now), only abstaining when in hospital, ill or through my pregnancies,which was aided by the physical repulsion to it at the time. Soon went back to going OTT with alcohol afterwards tho. I cant look at the big picture..I find that too scary....christmas is coming...birthdays...and who am I without a drink?...I'm also not looking forward to the 101 questions from friends asking why i'm not drinking....trying to get me a drink etc...one day at a time is the only way I have a chance at this...so for today I havent had a drink....but then I'm recovering from yesterday so that hasnt been too hard...tomorrow will be harder. I fear there will be many relapses...but i'm hoping that is me being more realistic than defeatist.
Thanks guys for listening x:praying
I can so relate to the stories on here. I've been drinking for most of my adult life...since around 13 (i'm 37 now), only abstaining when in hospital, ill or through my pregnancies,which was aided by the physical repulsion to it at the time. Soon went back to going OTT with alcohol afterwards tho. I cant look at the big picture..I find that too scary....christmas is coming...birthdays...and who am I without a drink?...I'm also not looking forward to the 101 questions from friends asking why i'm not drinking....trying to get me a drink etc...one day at a time is the only way I have a chance at this...so for today I havent had a drink....but then I'm recovering from yesterday so that hasnt been too hard...tomorrow will be harder. I fear there will be many relapses...but i'm hoping that is me being more realistic than defeatist.
Thanks guys for listening x:praying
Welcome, this is a great place for support.
I think you'll find that explaining your not drinking will be easy if you are honest. This does not mean you have to tell everyone you are in AA, just say you have quit for health reasons, which is 100% true.
There will likely be one or two people in your life that harass you about not drinking. These are probably the ones that have an alcohol problem as well.
I think you'll find that explaining your not drinking will be easy if you are honest. This does not mean you have to tell everyone you are in AA, just say you have quit for health reasons, which is 100% true.
There will likely be one or two people in your life that harass you about not drinking. These are probably the ones that have an alcohol problem as well.
Relapses happen to many of us. the important thing is that you don't let the remorse and shame stop you from keep getting back on track.I never thought it was possible for me to live without drinking but I am getting longer in my recovery and a lot shorter in returning to the old ways. It is a fight every step of the way- sometimes you get knocked down don't let it knock you out! keep fighting till you get the victory!
I was one that thought AA was not for me- I have come to believe for the long term recovery it is essential Find a group you can relate to and join them. Stick around here there is some great advice-(prayers to you)
I was one that thought AA was not for me- I have come to believe for the long term recovery it is essential Find a group you can relate to and join them. Stick around here there is some great advice-(prayers to you)
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Hi there, WELCOME WELCOME!!
Your story is so familiar to mine!! Started at 13 as well, 37 now too!! Been sober for a little over 50 days. But I stumbled along the way and finally made it here...you can do it!! It's not easy but it's SOO worth it!!! Keep posting and reading....hope to see more of you =)
HUGS,
Jade
Your story is so familiar to mine!! Started at 13 as well, 37 now too!! Been sober for a little over 50 days. But I stumbled along the way and finally made it here...you can do it!! It's not easy but it's SOO worth it!!! Keep posting and reading....hope to see more of you =)
HUGS,
Jade
welcome Keen!
While most of us have a couple of goes at 'getting it' - that's not a necessity! LOL
Just focus on each day- try to keep to a committment not to drink today - keep posting and reading here - this is a great place for encouragement and support...
and keep thinking about other avenues of support out there in the real world too...every little bit helps
Hope to see you around some more
D
While most of us have a couple of goes at 'getting it' - that's not a necessity! LOL
Just focus on each day- try to keep to a committment not to drink today - keep posting and reading here - this is a great place for encouragement and support...
and keep thinking about other avenues of support out there in the real world too...every little bit helps
Hope to see you around some more
D
Thanks so much for your support guys xx
I'm on day two now...actually slept last night without waking up in a startle/ massive anxiety attack several times thru the night...feel good this morning...this will be a harder day tho...come late afternoon the cold beer will be calling my name...thing is I wasnt that bad just drinking a few cold beers...but then I got bored of the taste and wanted something 'more'...so would crack open a bottle of wine, just for one of course *eyes to celing*...the road to hell....
good luck to all of us xxx
I'm on day two now...actually slept last night without waking up in a startle/ massive anxiety attack several times thru the night...feel good this morning...this will be a harder day tho...come late afternoon the cold beer will be calling my name...thing is I wasnt that bad just drinking a few cold beers...but then I got bored of the taste and wanted something 'more'...so would crack open a bottle of wine, just for one of course *eyes to celing*...the road to hell....
good luck to all of us xxx
Well got thru yesterday, felt shakey in the evening....slept well tho which was great but woke up with a headache this mornin...start of day 3...dont think I will drink today...
Hi every1....I found this site in the early hours of the morning after having had a skinful yesterday...had an awful night...panic attacks, anxiety, insomnia...wracked with guilt that I had let myself (and my family) down again, so glad that I went online and found the AA site together with this one...
I can so relate to the stories on here. I've been drinking for most of my adult life...since around 13 (i'm 37 now), only abstaining when in hospital, ill or through my pregnancies,which was aided by the physical repulsion to it at the time. Soon went back to going OTT with alcohol afterwards tho. I cant look at the big picture..I find that too scary....christmas is coming...birthdays...and who am I without a drink?...I'm also not looking forward to the 101 questions from friends asking why i'm not drinking....trying to get me a drink etc...one day at a time is the only way I have a chance at this...so for today I havent had a drink....but then I'm recovering from yesterday so that hasnt been too hard...tomorrow will be harder. I fear there will be many relapses...but i'm hoping that is me being more realistic than defeatist.
Thanks guys for listening x:praying
I can so relate to the stories on here. I've been drinking for most of my adult life...since around 13 (i'm 37 now), only abstaining when in hospital, ill or through my pregnancies,which was aided by the physical repulsion to it at the time. Soon went back to going OTT with alcohol afterwards tho. I cant look at the big picture..I find that too scary....christmas is coming...birthdays...and who am I without a drink?...I'm also not looking forward to the 101 questions from friends asking why i'm not drinking....trying to get me a drink etc...one day at a time is the only way I have a chance at this...so for today I havent had a drink....but then I'm recovering from yesterday so that hasnt been too hard...tomorrow will be harder. I fear there will be many relapses...but i'm hoping that is me being more realistic than defeatist.
Thanks guys for listening x:praying
Write down on a piece of paper how you felt the day after heavy drinking. Write down every detail of how you felt, how your body felt, what was going through your head, how you felt about drinking, etc. Pin this piece of paper up where you most often do your drinking, or where you keep your alcohol. When you feel the urge to drink or are approaching where you drink/keep the alcohol, read what you wrote on that paper aloud. One of the greatest things keeping me from drinking is reminding myself how miserable I felt last time I drank. You can't think about possible relapses, you just can't. Think instead about what you can do with your life now that you're not drinking. Think of how much happier (in the long run) you'll feel without the booze.
And don't think about the long-distance future. Try thinking only about the next 20 minutes and how you're going to stay sober. Then gradually reduce that to 19, 18, 17 minutes and so on until you reach the very moment you're in. Then reside there and there only. Be Here Now. You'll be delighted by how much easier social gatherings, pressing friends and birthdays and Christmases are to handle. Maybe give meditation and mindfulness a go.
And you might be surprised by how supportive your friends are, I certainly was. None of my friends tried to pressure me to drink once I was honest with why I stopped drinking. If they're not supportive, they're not really good friends then are they?
Whatever you do, keep coming back here and updating us on how you're doing. You always have our support no matter how dark your day.
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