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Member
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Michigan
Posts: 4
Ok, I'm guilty of being a lurker! I just signed on today for the first time in weeks to read the posts and hopefully get some encouragement to start back on the sober track again. I'm a chronic relapser. I want to quit so bad, but I never do. The pattern has been the same for years and now that I'm in my 40's, it's really getting tiring. When I was doing this in my 30's, I thought, oh, I will have quit by my 40's. But no, I'm still on the merry go-round.
I quite for a couple of days, start to feel better and then I drink myself into a stupor and fell like crap for a day or 2 and not drink. I wake up after a drunk and say to myself, "Self, I've got to stop doing this". But then when I feel better, I start jonesin and can't wait to get drunk again. I go through this cycle continuoulsly. For years. the hangovers are getting harder to take. Why can't I get it through my head??
I quite for a couple of days, start to feel better and then I drink myself into a stupor and fell like crap for a day or 2 and not drink. I wake up after a drunk and say to myself, "Self, I've got to stop doing this". But then when I feel better, I start jonesin and can't wait to get drunk again. I go through this cycle continuoulsly. For years. the hangovers are getting harder to take. Why can't I get it through my head??
Member
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Toronto Ontario
Posts: 336
Dori, I'm new here and don't have much to offer at the moment, what I can tell you is that I am in my 40's and enough is enough already. It's not attractive for a woman to be falling all over her property in a drunken stupor. For me the hangovers and embarrassment have finally gotten the better of me. I have found some really amazing support here and so much information. I'm sure one of our pros will be along soon to give the same perfect words they have given me.
Please keep reading and posting, every little bit helps. I am thinking positive thoughts for you today.
Please keep reading and posting, every little bit helps. I am thinking positive thoughts for you today.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Southern Oregon
Posts: 1,768
Hi Dori!!!!
Glad you're here! I'm in my forties also (41) I want to quit too. I am 23 days sober today, and it is really getting a ton easier. Its not a cake walk for sure in that first week, but way worth it if you can stay strong and just not pick up that first drink. One day at a time....don't look any past that, just today. Then keep doing that....the days just start to go right by. I hang out here a lot, it helps a ton!! I also started going to AA, which I thought I would hate, and make me want to drink again. But boy was I wrong!! I love going! If I didn't live so far away from the city I would go every single day.
Keep coming back and give it a good honest try, you might be happily suprised what you can do if you really put your mind to it
Welcome to SR!!
tj
Glad you're here! I'm in my forties also (41) I want to quit too. I am 23 days sober today, and it is really getting a ton easier. Its not a cake walk for sure in that first week, but way worth it if you can stay strong and just not pick up that first drink. One day at a time....don't look any past that, just today. Then keep doing that....the days just start to go right by. I hang out here a lot, it helps a ton!! I also started going to AA, which I thought I would hate, and make me want to drink again. But boy was I wrong!! I love going! If I didn't live so far away from the city I would go every single day.
Keep coming back and give it a good honest try, you might be happily suprised what you can do if you really put your mind to it
Welcome to SR!!
tj
everything is already ok
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
Posts: 19,793
Welcome to SR Dori
At the p[oint where I started feeling better I needed support from others and also needed to remind myself what it was like to live in fear fillth and sdespair. I do this with a program and meetings, this way I don't use any drugs one day at a time.
Kevin
At the p[oint where I started feeling better I needed support from others and also needed to remind myself what it was like to live in fear fillth and sdespair. I do this with a program and meetings, this way I don't use any drugs one day at a time.
Kevin
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Welcome Dori...
I too was in my 40's before I finally quit.
Here is a link to excerpts of the book
that convinced me..
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
You to can recover and find health
I too was in my 40's before I finally quit.
Here is a link to excerpts of the book
that convinced me..
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
You to can recover and find health
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, NY
Posts: 2,155
Hi Dori, I'm glad you otted ur self.....
I'm 47 and said the same thing when I was in my
30's. Well 90 something days a go I decided to just do
it. Pull out all the stops, no matter what, I am not ever going to take another
drink...........But, it's not that simple, we need more than the words...........
we need more than the desire.........we need a plan............we need help....
and we need a support group.....
I'm behind you all the way,, you can do it, and you are
worth it.......hugs *((((((((((hope3)))))))))
I'm 47 and said the same thing when I was in my
30's. Well 90 something days a go I decided to just do
it. Pull out all the stops, no matter what, I am not ever going to take another
drink...........But, it's not that simple, we need more than the words...........
we need more than the desire.........we need a plan............we need help....
and we need a support group.....
I'm behind you all the way,, you can do it, and you are
worth it.......hugs *((((((((((hope3)))))))))
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, NY
Posts: 2,155
Hi to all my friends here at SR, old, and new lurkers
we can't wait to meet you.....
come on in the cyber space is warm.......
What, you guys looking for legs again........
Well, ayla has the girly legs covered, so..........
we can't wait to meet you.....
come on in the cyber space is warm.......
What, you guys looking for legs again........
Well, ayla has the girly legs covered, so..........
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, NY
Posts: 2,155
I agree with Carol.........
This is the best advice to start with, in my opinion..
Love to all, ((((((((((((hope3)))))))))))
Originally Posted by CarolD 
Welcome Dori...
I too was in my 40's before I finally quit.
Here is a link to excerpts of the book
that convinced me..
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
You to can recover and find health
I too was in my 40's before I finally quit.
Here is a link to excerpts of the book
that convinced me..
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
You to can recover and find health
Member
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: my room in ct.
Posts: 58,110
woe! kevbro...look what you started.. its great...
Dori, glad you stop'd lurking...
gunna see if i can pull this off for ya...
the keep it simple aproach...
start'd at 13... no days off... exausted with the daily upkeep...
it killed my soul...
surendered to my afliction at 49...
this month will be four years of the ride of my life...
you too can have it...
if ya want it...
now Git... action...
fasten that seatbelt Dori... were here for ya...
a ton'o good wishes... xxoo, rz
Dori, glad you stop'd lurking...
gunna see if i can pull this off for ya...
the keep it simple aproach...
start'd at 13... no days off... exausted with the daily upkeep...
it killed my soul...
surendered to my afliction at 49...
this month will be four years of the ride of my life...
you too can have it...
if ya want it...
now Git... action...
fasten that seatbelt Dori... were here for ya...
a ton'o good wishes... xxoo, rz
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