venuscat

I hear you, love. So let's get practical about this. What happens when you drink? Do you drink more than you intend? What are your partner and family seeing that you don't? And do you accept the things they say as the truth? If the answer is yes, why don't you think you have a serious problem? s

Just putting it out there. I know I need to talk things through to get clarification. s xx

venuscat

Fantastic, dear Sam!!! I am SUPER happy for you. ❤️

(I am also on no meds whatsoever, and I am very pleased about that).

Bobbieka

This is so awesome! It is amazing how quickly our bodies heal when we let them. And our minds, especially our minds. I'm so happy for you.

Pekelover2

Day one

FiveTries

Sorry Peke! What happened?

venuscat

Talk to us, dear Peke. s

Sending you love. xxxxxxx

Lixie

What happened, Peke?

The cat is out of the bag. Hi, my name is Liz and I’m an alcoholic.

Zencat

Healing energy going your way Peke
❣ Namaste

Bobbieka

Hugs, Peke. You can do this.

Bobbieka

Well, you're in good company.

Red78

Hi Liz, my name is Nicola and I abuse alcohol.

Pekelover2

I ran in the morning in using my light (it was dark). It was wonderful.
My husband was amazing getting the house reading for my book club party.
I made a lot of food. I enjoy cooking for ppl. I think that everyone had a lovely time. I know that I did. Since I make all of the food, the other ppl brought wine. I don’t drink in public.
After everyone left I felt sad. I Wished the night could go on for ever. Husband was happy. Friends were happy. I was happy. Sometimes I drink even when things are going well. I feel awful today.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me! The only wine that was left was red wine. I don’t even care for red wine.
I will run tomorrow. I will get back on track.
Thank you for your support.

venuscat

Peke: did you eat last night love? When you made all that wonderful food, and prepared such a lovely evening?
We have shared a bit. We both have issues with body dysmorphia and possibly eating disorders, too. If I don't eat, I have no defenses, and my thinking goes off tap. s

Untrapped2022

So........ I may be totally wrong about this...

But I think *deep down* who we are is not some category or lable... deep down is our soul... You weren't born an alcoholic.... You were born as you...

I wonder whether it's easier to accept deep down that you are imperfect (like everyone) and that there are things that you're not good at dealing with (like everyone) and that you have a particular set of problems that's yours to deal with over and over (like everyone)

And in your case, one of those imperfections and issues you're not good at dealing with and one of the problems that just keeps being part of your life... is alcohol.

I don't know if that makes it easier, or just more confusing, or what. I just think it can be hard to fully identify with ANY role or label - even the positive and neutral ones. Trying to identify deep down with a negative label is bound to feel difficult.

Anyway, ignore this, if it's not helpful!

Untrapped2022

Wow, that is amazing!!

Untrapped2022

Ooh, I missed this post. Ignore my previous post, maybe...

venuscat

For me, being an alcoholic is no different from being a diabetic. I use that comparison because diabetes is a recognized disease. Well, so is substance abuse disorder. Call it whatever you like, but "addict" and "alcoholic" can be hurtful terms, labeling us in a way that is possibly not helpful.

In days to come, our children's children will not go through this shame. I believe that in the future, anyone with a substance abuse issue will be able to get treatment as easily as we currently get flu injections. But to get there, we must let go of the stigma surrounding this. We are not bad people trying to get good. We are not bad people at all. We have a medical issue that has a solution.

But just like diabetics, we need to monitor ourselves, stay on course, and prioritize our physical and spiritual well-being daily.

And we need to do it together. Pain and fear thrive when we isolate, and love and truth are nowhere to be found. ❤️

venuscat

Nope, it was a great post. This is an awesome discussion. ❤️

Pekelover2

I didn’t eat, Venus. I also don’t like to eat in front of others.

Today (for no reason), a friend sent me the book “I’m So Haply You’re Here”. It’s a tear jerker. I want to cry. I wonder if she would have sent it had she known that I got drunk last night.

venuscat

Peke, I think you need to put your armor on. And for us (forgive me if it is just me), that means we NEED to eat. I am not saying eat a big meal, just something. I keep babybel cheeses in the fridge. Easy to open one and eat while you are busy preparing.