Class of July 2013 Part 62
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PJ I’m sorry. More for the distress the ending caused. What we need is reliable friends, not ones who demand us to change in order to meet ‘their’ version of what is correct.
Grief of the relationship with your sons is your own process. It goes at your pace. You can moan about it every day if you want, or you can move on with your life, or balance those choices however you want. I guess she’s telling you to get over it. Which none of us ever respond well to. And forbidden territory to prescribe someone else’s grief.
We lose a lot of things from drinking, the cruellest one of all is not knowing how life could have been otherwise. Good or bad.
Acceptance is one of the biggest things we’ve had to face. Of many things. But mostly, our ability to control outcomes. I hope what feels like a bit of a chasm with this friendship loss, becomes an opening for not only growth, but open to the new.
We cannot change for anyone. Only through growing. There is no doubt something to be learned even though it’s not clear yet.
Hugs mate.
Grief of the relationship with your sons is your own process. It goes at your pace. You can moan about it every day if you want, or you can move on with your life, or balance those choices however you want. I guess she’s telling you to get over it. Which none of us ever respond well to. And forbidden territory to prescribe someone else’s grief.
We lose a lot of things from drinking, the cruellest one of all is not knowing how life could have been otherwise. Good or bad.
Acceptance is one of the biggest things we’ve had to face. Of many things. But mostly, our ability to control outcomes. I hope what feels like a bit of a chasm with this friendship loss, becomes an opening for not only growth, but open to the new.
We cannot change for anyone. Only through growing. There is no doubt something to be learned even though it’s not clear yet.
Hugs mate.
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Crois ! …. This.
We lose a lot of things from drinking, the cruellest one of all is not knowing how life could have been otherwise. Good or bad.
definitely the cruelest!
Woolfyyyyy 8 years !!! You’re a legend mate .
seriously that’s just fantastic, so happy for you.
PJ. I’m glad you are not going back and forth with the yo-yo emails.
It just does your head in and gets you nowhere.
Any friendship breakdown is sad and we can actually grieve it.
‘Friends’ don’t give other friends advice that they know is going to hurt you.
It had obviously run its course, 4 years was it’s life span , it’s hard to move forward when someone hurts you. A punch in the face can be easier to take than the lingering of hurtful words.
Youre too kind and sweet PJ. It’s her loss.
You have a really good heard and a beautiful soul xx
Back to sleep for me
love you all
xxx
Crois ! …. This.
We lose a lot of things from drinking, the cruellest one of all is not knowing how life could have been otherwise. Good or bad.
definitely the cruelest!
Woolfyyyyy 8 years !!! You’re a legend mate .
seriously that’s just fantastic, so happy for you.
PJ. I’m glad you are not going back and forth with the yo-yo emails.
It just does your head in and gets you nowhere.
Any friendship breakdown is sad and we can actually grieve it.
‘Friends’ don’t give other friends advice that they know is going to hurt you.
It had obviously run its course, 4 years was it’s life span , it’s hard to move forward when someone hurts you. A punch in the face can be easier to take than the lingering of hurtful words.
Youre too kind and sweet PJ. It’s her loss.
You have a really good heard and a beautiful soul xx
Back to sleep for me
love you all
xxx
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6y ago I was wearing a fiberglass collar and cuff sling as my right shoulder was smashed up from a booze fall. The sling that caught fire and melted, whilst in blackout , burning me 6y and 1m later. They very nearly amputated it, so bad the damage- because the burns surgeons brought me back from death three times.
Today I did grocery shopping in my local, boring looking shopping center full of people , all of whom have a story. A specialist surgeon post burns asked me what expectations I had for my severely burnt arm. I said to be able to carry bags full of shopping. 2y ago a burns specialist performed 2 correctional hand procedures to make it more functionality and save finger amputation .
So carrying shopping I often think/feel how grateful I am. Surely -whether there is a god or no, a true miracle.
Today I did grocery shopping in my local, boring looking shopping center full of people , all of whom have a story. A specialist surgeon post burns asked me what expectations I had for my severely burnt arm. I said to be able to carry bags full of shopping. 2y ago a burns specialist performed 2 correctional hand procedures to make it more functionality and save finger amputation .
So carrying shopping I often think/feel how grateful I am. Surely -whether there is a god or no, a true miracle.
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PJ
your sure live by your name. Phoenix Rising , your determination and will to survive got you to where you are.
I have seen your horrific burn photos and am amazed at how you even survived it at all.
Just fantastic how we have some of the best doctors in the world in South Australia.
Keep going strong my friend, you’re awesome
your sure live by your name. Phoenix Rising , your determination and will to survive got you to where you are.
I have seen your horrific burn photos and am amazed at how you even survived it at all.
Just fantastic how we have some of the best doctors in the world in South Australia.
Keep going strong my friend, you’re awesome
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