PhoenixJ

Prayers to all

Calmerwaters

Keep up the good fight Leshar.xx

Snooz hope you are well.

Nice pants pj. Pink suits you. :P

Leshar

Thanks, CW. I'm starting day 14 today. I really want this to stick.
Love to all.

Calmerwaters

That’s great news sweetheart.xx

Dee74

2 weeks is great Leshar
Hope you and your recovery are going well Snooz

hi CW Peej Bob Mags SW and anyone I missed

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Mags1

Hi Dee and all Julyers

Leshar

Thanks dear CW, and Dee.
Love to all the Julyers!

Calmerwaters

Beautiful pic Mags!

Hi Dee!

Love to all, especially when a struggle comes, you have a little team behind you! Please don’t ever forget that. Honestly that has given me so much comfort at times when the world gets too much. I know you guys get it.xx

Mags1

Good morning dear Julyers

CW, I like that SR and all the lovely people in it “get us”. We can be ourselves without feeling any reprisal or reprimand.

Love to all Julyers xxxx

Calmerwaters

Awww that such a beautiful inspirational quote Mags.

and yes, you said what I was thinking very well.

Soberwolf

Having trouble sleeping : (

Calmerwaters

Hope you got some zzz’s SW. I’ve had a bit of it myself! Irritating!!!

Im going to share a situation I’m in. It’s not a first world problem, but it’s one of those things that sit in your mind for hours while you have imaginary (annoyed) conversations with the other party (where you “give them a piece of your mind!).

So. A small family dinner has been put off a few times since March because “Cousin X” had work commitments shuffle around. I’d offered it as my treat at quite an expensive restaurant and had to cancel the booking several times. I messaged last week and said we can do that OR happy to have a nice takeaway even at my place. Nothing, no response from Cousin X for 4 days! 2 days before says - let’s do something else.

Never suggested anything outside of my options (which would have been fine). Heard nothing, so I messaged and said why don’t you guys catch up, I’ll see you another time (because I was sick if it all up in the air). THEN last minute today - on the day, calls and says OK they could come to my place after all. Suggests it at 4pm on the actual day.

I’m sorry, but is that rude?!

I was lighthearted and said no, you guys do something without me,

venuscat

It is about the rudest thing I have ever heard love. My eyes are almost popping out of my head....are they serious? How extremely disrespectful and inconsiderate. And rude, rude rude.

Leshar

Hi CW,
That is bizarre, and certainly rude, in my opinion. I don't blame you at all for your response. It seems to me, in this day and age of timely electronic communication, that there is no excuse for your cousin's behaviour.
Especially as they were the party that were postponing things, and inconveniencing you in the first place. I don't know that I would have been as cordial as you in my response about today. But better to be civil about it, I suppose, especially as it's family.
Really though, I think you deserve a sincere apology!

SW, hope your sleep improves.

Mags1

Wolfie, hope you’re sleeping better.

CW, what you replied was perfect. Some people (including families) can tend to take advantage.

Calmerwaters

Thanks Suze (good to ‘see’ you!), Leshar and Mags. It’s the kind of behaviour that pushes you to think, on what planet is that even ok? When someone offers you a nice dinner/experience and you just ignore them?

Theres been no issue or anything, and we catch up regularly when in town, it it’s always last minute (and what they want and I’m usually easy going about it)…when I try and get a say, clearly not ok.

They say family is important but sometimes I wonder. Is it just hype? :P

Dee74

I treat my own family with as close to zero expectations as I can.
I'm sometimes pleasantly surprised by them - but not often.

I had 40 years of that kind of stuff CW. Its not going to rent any more space in my head for the next 40.

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Calmerwaters

I do understand exactly what you mean, Dee. I haven’t actually had a family thing that annoyed me for a while. My initial annoyance has passed…I just won’t get myself into a situation like that again with that part of the family. I see being “too busy” to catch up being in my future.

Dee74

yeah I get it, CW..

It’s new thread time again
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...part-63-a.html (Class of July 2013 Part 63)