One Year & Over Part 72
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: US East Coast
Posts: 14,287
FBL, thinking of you and your family.
Our computer support group (5 of us present and former geeky people) has a big free open session at the end of January because of all those children who give their elderly parents tech toys for Christmas and then walk away without helping set them up and learn how to use them. There is always plenty to do. We don’t do everything - primarily “first aid”. Our charges are very, very reasonable ($15 per 1/2 hour) and all the money goes to the annual employee holiday fund. We typically bring in a bit over $2,000 per year. Makes almost everyone happy :-). Based on our experience, I would strongly recommend iPads to elderly folks who don’t need software that can only run on a different platform. I have seen too many people get hacked and/or frustrated.
Have a Happy Hump Day!
Our computer support group (5 of us present and former geeky people) has a big free open session at the end of January because of all those children who give their elderly parents tech toys for Christmas and then walk away without helping set them up and learn how to use them. There is always plenty to do. We don’t do everything - primarily “first aid”. Our charges are very, very reasonable ($15 per 1/2 hour) and all the money goes to the annual employee holiday fund. We typically bring in a bit over $2,000 per year. Makes almost everyone happy :-). Based on our experience, I would strongly recommend iPads to elderly folks who don’t need software that can only run on a different platform. I have seen too many people get hacked and/or frustrated.
Have a Happy Hump Day!
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado
Posts: 7,583
Sassy,
That's great that you guys help out two ways as OFH workers, like teachers, do so much good for so little pay. And I know the feeling. I've found if I help for free the expertise is viewed as not as good as the rip off squad. When the reverse is more often true.
FBL,
That family like many has been through the wringer. I hope you stay safe driving in winter. Give our best to them and yours should you go. Looks like Sioux something?
Good evening Suze!
Sounds like the rest of the Overs are doing well!
Hope all enjoyed their Odin's day.
That's great that you guys help out two ways as OFH workers, like teachers, do so much good for so little pay. And I know the feeling. I've found if I help for free the expertise is viewed as not as good as the rip off squad. When the reverse is more often true.
FBL,
That family like many has been through the wringer. I hope you stay safe driving in winter. Give our best to them and yours should you go. Looks like Sioux something?
Good evening Suze!
Sounds like the rest of the Overs are doing well!
Hope all enjoyed their Odin's day.
non-drinker
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,846
Itch, the city is Sioux Falls, South Dakota. It's the most populous city in the state and ranks 140th in the U.S. It's just a few miles over the Minnesota border, in the southeast corner of the state.
Had some more distressing news this past weekend. My friend Liz (the one I met and had lunch with a few weeks ago), suddenly cancelled all of her social media accounts and left our FB recovery group. Some of us attempted to call and text her on Sunday, but she would not respond. This was VERY out of character for her and had us all very worried. A couple of the women in our group went so far as to have the local police do a wellness check on her. Turns out she's okay (I guess). She texted one of the women back and very tersely stated that she had been in the hospital and needed some time alone. I know that she was dealing with some family issues, but it was still very strange to ghost us with absolutely no warning. I did text her yesterday, just to let her know that I care and am here if she needs to talk (she has not responded). I realize that's the most I can do for the moment, but it doesn't make it much easier. Any sage advice would be appreciated.
Have a Thunderous Thursday, overs!
Had some more distressing news this past weekend. My friend Liz (the one I met and had lunch with a few weeks ago), suddenly cancelled all of her social media accounts and left our FB recovery group. Some of us attempted to call and text her on Sunday, but she would not respond. This was VERY out of character for her and had us all very worried. A couple of the women in our group went so far as to have the local police do a wellness check on her. Turns out she's okay (I guess). She texted one of the women back and very tersely stated that she had been in the hospital and needed some time alone. I know that she was dealing with some family issues, but it was still very strange to ghost us with absolutely no warning. I did text her yesterday, just to let her know that I care and am here if she needs to talk (she has not responded). I realize that's the most I can do for the moment, but it doesn't make it much easier. Any sage advice would be appreciated.
Have a Thunderous Thursday, overs!
Member
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,518
I'm sorry FBL, that's hard. I have to admit it sounds like she may be drinking again. I have a few close friends in the same boat ~ I just keep texting. Not all of the time, but every week or so. I know if I was lost out there, one of those texts might help me come back. 
s xx
s xx
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Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Posts: 28,673
Welcome purp.
No sage advice, FBL. You know the drill- you have offered support, but you cannot rescue- cannot walk another's path- but you can be beside them if they want you to be there. I have learnt this over the last few years.
No sage advice, FBL. You know the drill- you have offered support, but you cannot rescue- cannot walk another's path- but you can be beside them if they want you to be there. I have learnt this over the last few years.
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Pa
Posts: 15,181
I am sorry to hear about your friend FBL.
As others have said, you really can't do more than be available if she decides to reach out once again. I am guessing it would be natural to isolate if I slipped off the wagon, as I imagine I would feel shame for letting so many down. Of course, that is the exact opposite of what someone like Liz needs to do now. More than ever, this is the time that she needs the unconditional love and support of friends.
Have a good day all!
As others have said, you really can't do more than be available if she decides to reach out once again. I am guessing it would be natural to isolate if I slipped off the wagon, as I imagine I would feel shame for letting so many down. Of course, that is the exact opposite of what someone like Liz needs to do now. More than ever, this is the time that she needs the unconditional love and support of friends.
Have a good day all!
Living and Loving Life at Last
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: gods own country
Posts: 12,169
Sorry to hear your friend is cutting herself off from the support that - by the sounds of it - she desperately needs. I hope she will accept one of the hands offered to her, but until she does all you can do is hope and pray.
Purps, good to see you sweetie, hows life?
Purps, good to see you sweetie, hows life?
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Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: US
Posts: 16,909
Hope you hear back from your friend FBL 
Hey Toots....I'm hangin' in there....some struggles with an unfulfilling job + that I screwed up my priorities in the past; trying not to beat myself up, but been having some resentment issues toward others (long story) and I know that's not good.
Instead I continue forward + try to practice more gratitude and self care.....been a pretty "blah" week but I guess that happens.
Hey Toots....I'm hangin' in there....some struggles with an unfulfilling job + that I screwed up my priorities in the past; trying not to beat myself up, but been having some resentment issues toward others (long story) and I know that's not good.
Instead I continue forward + try to practice more gratitude and self care.....been a pretty "blah" week but I guess that happens.
non-drinker
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,846
Thank you, as always, for the kind words of support. I want my friends to be happy, but I know that happiness comes from within. I will be there for her if and when she decides to reach out.
My brother and his two children had a private viewing yesterday. They wanted to say their final goodbyes. I hope it provided some closure for them. I will be heading out early Monday morning. Life goes on.
Have a Fantastic Friday, overs!
My brother and his two children had a private viewing yesterday. They wanted to say their final goodbyes. I hope it provided some closure for them. I will be heading out early Monday morning. Life goes on.
Have a Fantastic Friday, overs!
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,688
Afternoon Overs
Sassy, that’s a really good plan with the computer support group.
FBL, I hope the weather is good for your journey. ...
Been for a short walk round Normanby Country Park earlier. Lovely and sunny but cold.
Have a great Friday my friends xx
Sassy, that’s a really good plan with the computer support group.
FBL, I hope the weather is good for your journey. ...
Been for a short walk round Normanby Country Park earlier. Lovely and sunny but cold.
Have a great Friday my friends xx
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