Originally Posted by venuscat

Nite lyddie love....you got this. ♥♥

Originally Posted by joandmelandhan

I had quite a wonderful experience this morning I just wanted to share with you all. Wonderful tinged with sadness. I know I'm odd but humour me.....
For the first time in many years I actually had a warm loving conversation with a real life person. A person who loves me more than I ever really knew. I talked about my alcoholism, you guys, life and just about everything. We shared things and it was wonderful. It was with my ex mother-in-law. She is such a lovely person and I am truly grateful to have her in my life. When I spoke about recent events and how low I've been she just cried and said "I want you to know I'd be there like a shot if you called me. Please call me next time you are struggling".
This is my ex husbands mother!
I was within a whisker of losing my daughters to his family. So close it sickens me to remember those bad days. Yet this person who has no obligation to befriend me at all loves me as if I were her own. The sadness comes as I could no way speak to my own mother like that. No way.
Isn't life a strange old thing sometimes?

Originally Posted by kenton

There's something about being by the sea that really helps me get things into perspective. Last night I started thinking about the way I am and the types of people that drive me bonkers and suddenly it came to me........ I'm an empath!! It makes perfect sense. ... don't know why I haven't worked it out before. That's why I love trees, fossils, the sea, can always tell when a person or animal is suffering....and why I can't bear inauthenticity. It's why I can tell straight away when someone is saying something they don't mean, it's why I can't tolerate facebook or violence on tv..and why I feel drained after being in the company of certain people.

I spent some time googling empaths last night and guess what? Empaths are prone to alcohol and drug addiction. I think a lot of us on this thread may be empaths and whilst many of you are probably enlightened and know all about it, I'm playing catch up. The most important thing is to protect ourselves from energy vampires......narcissists, life's victims and drama kings/queen's. If we're not careful these people will sap our energy, make us feel bad about ourselves which can lead to anger and resentment which can lead to relapse.

I apologise to anyone reading this and thinking 'what a load of nonsense'. I'm married to an extremely grounded guy and when I started telling him last night that I think I'm an empath, he smiled, gave me a kiss and said, 'why don't you give being normal a go!!' I get it..... I wish I was as grounded as my hubby. He's met the same narcissists as me but whereas I'm left reeling for months, he thinks 'there's a narcissist. I'm going to avoid him/her from now on' and he moves on with his life..... no anger, no resentment, no issues.

I wish I could be more like him but this is who I am. And the world needs empaths just as much as it needs grounded people. The world needs everyone .... probably even narcissists. And if this post helps one person recognise they are maybe an empath, it will be worth posting. Because once you recognise you are an empath, you can start to learn how to keep yourself happy and safe.

Sorry if none of this makes sense. I've had a lot of sea air and I'm not used to it! Love to everyone and 24 more for me please xxxxx

Originally Posted by joandmelandhan

I had quite a wonderful experience this morning I just wanted to share with you all. Wonderful tinged with sadness. I know I'm odd but humour me.....
For the first time in many years I actually had a warm loving conversation with a real life person. A person who loves me more than I ever really knew. I talked about my alcoholism, you guys, life and just about everything. We shared things and it was wonderful. It was with my ex mother-in-law. She is such a lovely person and I am truly grateful to have her in my life. When I spoke about recent events and how low I've been she just cried and said "I want you to know I'd be there like a shot if you called me. Please call me next time you are struggling".
This is my ex husbands mother!
I was within a whisker of losing my daughters to his family. So close it sickens me to remember those bad days. Yet this person who has no obligation to befriend me at all loves me as if I were her own. The sadness comes as I could no way speak to my own mother like that. No way.
Isn't life a strange old thing sometimes?

Originally Posted by Goat

Thank you so much my darling... My cloud has the best silver lining ever