One Year & Over Part 47
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: US East Coast
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Wolfie, apologies not accepted! I'm glad that you feel you can come here for support. Aging parent(s) are a challenging role reversal. It sounds like you and your dad have a good relationship. This is something most of us experience at some point but that doesn't make it easier. 
IP, I don't have any advice for you except that you need to do whatever you feel comfortable with. In any event, I hope this situation will resolve sooner rather than later. It's a rotten deal.
IP, I don't have any advice for you except that you need to do whatever you feel comfortable with. In any event, I hope this situation will resolve sooner rather than later. It's a rotten deal.
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,700
Morning overs
Inpar, I hope it is soon resolved too, it's very wearing being in a job you don't want to be. With your talent and know how I'm sure you'll find a fulfilling job with a good boss!
I went to docs yesterday and I'm back on anti biotics, different ones this time, Clarithromycin.. And back on prednisolone. Heyho. Hopefully they'll pull me back on the road to recovery.
Have a terrific Ly , tiptop, ticketeboo Tuesday overs
Inpar, I hope it is soon resolved too, it's very wearing being in a job you don't want to be. With your talent and know how I'm sure you'll find a fulfilling job with a good boss!
I went to docs yesterday and I'm back on anti biotics, different ones this time, Clarithromycin.. And back on prednisolone. Heyho. Hopefully they'll pull me back on the road to recovery.
Have a terrific Ly , tiptop, ticketeboo Tuesday overs
♥
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado
Posts: 7,583
Guys,
Quick flyby. I am heartened when I see another son or daughter getting sober before their parents lives are spent. Those who said to take the time with your parents while you can are right. No parent should ever have to bury a child. But every child will bury their parents. Whether we or they spent our lives to the satisfaction of each, is really the final judgment, and we each alone make the judgment.
My wife was there for her parent's last breaths. I supported that for nearly two years because my folks are all gone save an aunt. I could not be there for any of mine as military duty kept me away, and they all had sudden accidents with no time to rush to their sides.
My folks knew that I loved them dearly because in life I was there for them. Our roles reversed before I hit my teens. I showed them and told them, they knew they were forever in my heart, here or after.
There are few things we can't do over, or make up. While they still have the currency, make sure they spend some of their time, with your visits and calls.
And part of being a father and mother is making sure they let us spend some time with them, enough until we're spent too.
IP,
Keep to your path. Wherever it is.
Will be the 80s here this week!
Wolf,
Don't think so little of us that you'd actually entertain for a moment that you were an imposition.
Glee awesome!
Sassy,
You got it. I think fear is a motivator to drink. In fact it's what powers an alcoholic. Until we wise up to real power, being at cause not effect.
My doc played “Space Invaders” in my eye with a laser again lasing all the “Floatie Aliens,” and it went well again. This time we will wait two weeks and decide what’s next.
Will catch up better next time.
Quick flyby. I am heartened when I see another son or daughter getting sober before their parents lives are spent. Those who said to take the time with your parents while you can are right. No parent should ever have to bury a child. But every child will bury their parents. Whether we or they spent our lives to the satisfaction of each, is really the final judgment, and we each alone make the judgment.
My wife was there for her parent's last breaths. I supported that for nearly two years because my folks are all gone save an aunt. I could not be there for any of mine as military duty kept me away, and they all had sudden accidents with no time to rush to their sides.
My folks knew that I loved them dearly because in life I was there for them. Our roles reversed before I hit my teens. I showed them and told them, they knew they were forever in my heart, here or after.
There are few things we can't do over, or make up. While they still have the currency, make sure they spend some of their time, with your visits and calls.
And part of being a father and mother is making sure they let us spend some time with them, enough until we're spent too.
IP,
Keep to your path. Wherever it is.
Will be the 80s here this week!
Wolf,
Don't think so little of us that you'd actually entertain for a moment that you were an imposition.
Glee awesome!
Sassy,
You got it. I think fear is a motivator to drink. In fact it's what powers an alcoholic. Until we wise up to real power, being at cause not effect.
My doc played “Space Invaders” in my eye with a laser again lasing all the “Floatie Aliens,” and it went well again. This time we will wait two weeks and decide what’s next.
Will catch up better next time.
Do your best
Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 67,047
Here is some serendipity for this Tuesday morning
Me & my dad talk by text in the early morning and he referenced one flew over the cuckoo's nest I mentioned the big chief and 5 minutes after that I sent my dad the two wolves story I wasn't planning it & Its the first time he's heard it, he likes native Indian history & thier parables so it just felt right
Thanks Itch
Me & my dad talk by text in the early morning and he referenced one flew over the cuckoo's nest I mentioned the big chief and 5 minutes after that I sent my dad the two wolves story I wasn't planning it & Its the first time he's heard it, he likes native Indian history & thier parables so it just felt right
Thanks Itch
non-drinker
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,848
That's awesome, Wolfie! As most of you know, I lost my Dad a little over two years ago. Luckily, my Mom is still around. We're hundreds of miles apart, but I look forward to our phone calls and the occasional in-person visits. I try to make the most of our time left on this earth together. Never be afraid to express your love to them while you can.
Looks like a couple more days of shorts weather, then back to reality. Possible snow (!) this coming weekend.
Have a Terrific and/or Tolerable Tuesday, overs!
Looks like a couple more days of shorts weather, then back to reality. Possible snow (!) this coming weekend.
Have a Terrific and/or Tolerable Tuesday, overs!
Quit 4/17/15
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Pa
Posts: 15,189
You are being a fantastic son Wolfie. Indeed, it is odd as the roles are reversing and now we are the ones looking after our parents. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Inpar, just as Glee said, you will have to do the math and weigh out the pros and cons. At least now you can do this with a sober brain. I always searched for solutions by getting drunk. Alcohol never provided me clarity.
Have a great day all!
Inpar, just as Glee said, you will have to do the math and weigh out the pros and cons. At least now you can do this with a sober brain. I always searched for solutions by getting drunk. Alcohol never provided me clarity.
Have a great day all!
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 2,707
Itchy, because of you I just texted my dad, who was trying to talk to me on Sunday before he went on a trip, but I was so busy and preoccupied that I forgot to call him back a couple times. 
He's got his lovely, vivacious wife with him and he's gone to Vegas so I'm not TOO worried, 
but still.
Work was slightly better yesterday, but it's still chaotic. Yesterday my boss said that if she got another show offer right now, she would take it. How's that for morale, ha!
I would be glad if she did, though, really.
SW, come on, what do you think we're here for? This is the one place I can come and just vent, and feel so supported by people who don't have any agenda. I trust the advice of people on here more than I do people in my real life, and that's the truth.
Don't ever feel that you're putting us out.
Speaking of advice, Glee, thank you. The last thing you said about what is okay for other people may not be right for me, basically blew my mind. It's so true. It just sums it up so perfectly. I will think of that a lot in my life because that's what I do, (have done), live to please others.
I've been reading this book, The Universe Has Your Back, by Gabrielle Bernstein. It's great, I recommend it!
Have a lovely Tuesday.
He's got his lovely, vivacious wife with him and he's gone to Vegas so I'm not TOO worried, but still. Work was slightly better yesterday, but it's still chaotic. Yesterday my boss said that if she got another show offer right now, she would take it. How's that for morale, ha!
I would be glad if she did, though, really.
SW, come on, what do you think we're here for? This is the one place I can come and just vent, and feel so supported by people who don't have any agenda. I trust the advice of people on here more than I do people in my real life, and that's the truth.
Don't ever feel that you're putting us out.
Speaking of advice, Glee, thank you. The last thing you said about what is okay for other people may not be right for me, basically blew my mind. It's so true. It just sums it up so perfectly. I will think of that a lot in my life because that's what I do, (have done), live to please others.
I've been reading this book, The Universe Has Your Back, by Gabrielle Bernstein. It's great, I recommend it!
Have a lovely Tuesday.
Sober date 5/1/13
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Staffordshire UK
Posts: 3,547
Good afternoon Overs.
Spring is a' springing, Hazel catkins are out, tree buds are breaking, the Buzzards are circling and the Skylarks are singing. It's great to be alive and sober.
Wolfie best wishes to you, your Dad and family.
InPar I'm sending you some calm, I hope it helps you find your way.
Spring hugs and best wishes to all.
Spring is a' springing, Hazel catkins are out, tree buds are breaking, the Buzzards are circling and the Skylarks are singing. It's great to be alive and sober.
Wolfie best wishes to you, your Dad and family.
InPar I'm sending you some calm, I hope it helps you find your way.
Spring hugs and best wishes to all.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Originally Posted by Treerat66 
Spring is a' springing, Hazel catkins are out, tree buds are breaking, the Buzzards are circling and the Skylarks are singing. It's great to be alive and sober.
IP - Glad I could be of some help. I think you hit on something about people here having no agenda other than to listen and relate to each other. It's amazing, isn't it? I feel the same way.
Suze - I "see" the sparkles in your eyes that Saskia referred to, too.
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Congrats FBL!!!!! I agree precisely. 
Tree, did you mean the witch hazel (hamamalis) flowers that are blooming? Cause I noticed them here too, yesterday. It's my favourite tree.
Or maybe you meant hazelnut? If so I'll watch out for those too cause there are lots of them here, they're all over the city, big ones. They line the streets, they must have done a big planting of them fifty or so years ago.
Another day, another dollar. Whatever happens with this job I'm on now, I am realizing that I need to choose another path, because this office work is killing me. It struck me last night that while I'm super busy and productive at work, I don't really feel like I'm moving forward. Maybe that's just mental.
Anyhow, have a great day Overs.
Tree, did you mean the witch hazel (hamamalis) flowers that are blooming? Cause I noticed them here too, yesterday. It's my favourite tree.
Or maybe you meant hazelnut? If so I'll watch out for those too cause there are lots of them here, they're all over the city, big ones. They line the streets, they must have done a big planting of them fifty or so years ago.
Another day, another dollar. Whatever happens with this job I'm on now, I am realizing that I need to choose another path, because this office work is killing me. It struck me last night that while I'm super busy and productive at work, I don't really feel like I'm moving forward. Maybe that's just mental.
Anyhow, have a great day Overs.
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