Class of July 2013 Part 38
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relationships can take a little time to rebuild Wendy.
It felt like punishment to me, too, but I think people were a little gunshy and not entirely trusting of me until I proved I had changed for good and the only proof that works is time.
I can understand wanting to get Katie a gift. If you think it needs more than a text maybe a card with a scratch-it (or what ever you call them in SA) in it?
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It felt like punishment to me, too, but I think people were a little gunshy and not entirely trusting of me until I proved I had changed for good and the only proof that works is time.
I can understand wanting to get Katie a gift. If you think it needs more than a text maybe a card with a scratch-it (or what ever you call them in SA) in it?
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I went to a play the other day a place where you can bring in your alcoholic beverage and I was so tempted. I also get insanely jealous of couples together.
I don't know what more to do to feel better in sobriety. At a play meeting recently, everyone for some reason got talking about red wine, and I felt angry and lonely.
I don't know what more to do to feel better in sobriety. At a play meeting recently, everyone for some reason got talking about red wine, and I felt angry and lonely.
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Snooz, I think I've posted this before, but yep, I wanted all my relationships to be rosy too. Truth is, it's taken nearly two years to even get close to good relationships with my kids. Don't forget, we also didn't teach them very good conflict resolution skills when drinking, so we just have to focus on us and our recovery. Show we love and care for them, but not necessarily putting our hand up for punishment.
I said to my youngest about 2 years ago when she ranted at me...something like, I know I messed up badly, but I don't need to be punished for it forever and spoken to like xyz. I simply refused to be ranted to. I've had a few poo mothers days also. At the end of the day, we were not present when they needed us, it's only fair sometimes they don't feel the need to be present for us. Your focus is recovery love. resilience is your focus.xx
Leshar. Just hugs, and sorry it all feels overwhelming.xx
Gilmer, so sorry I dont directly acknowledge your posts a lot, I only just realised. I love them and your wisdom....you are so very wise.
I said to my youngest about 2 years ago when she ranted at me...something like, I know I messed up badly, but I don't need to be punished for it forever and spoken to like xyz. I simply refused to be ranted to. I've had a few poo mothers days also. At the end of the day, we were not present when they needed us, it's only fair sometimes they don't feel the need to be present for us. Your focus is recovery love. resilience is your focus.xx
Leshar. Just hugs, and sorry it all feels overwhelming.xx
Gilmer, so sorry I dont directly acknowledge your posts a lot, I only just realised. I love them and your wisdom....you are so very wise.
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And Crois ~ I love what you said to your youngest.
We shouldn't have to be endlessly punished.
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Gilmer is not the only wise one here.
And hello Gilmer love. ♥
(Goats go "maaaaaa"? Really?
I've actually never seen a goat in person.
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We shouldn't have to be endlessly punished.
♥Gilmer is not the only wise one here.
And hello Gilmer love.
♥(Goats go "maaaaaa"? Really?
I've actually never seen a goat in person.
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Snoozy, I would tend to acknowledge your daughters birthday regardless of her and your other children's lack of contact. I'm sure it must hurt a great deal, but you're the mum, the adult, the responsible one.
Dee, when I was feeling better, I did put up a profile and exchanged some messages with a widower. He invited me to call him but I just couldn't pick up the phone. He wrote that because I hadn't called him, I must not be interested, nor ready for a relationship. I wrote that I became overcame with nervousness every time I went to call him. He seemed kind and invited me to call even just to share our experience of losing a spouse. He's away till 13th. I will try and call, but I don't want a relationship because no one will ever be as good for me and to me as Larry, so what's the point? I got lonely and put the profile up but it's a silly idea and now that the depression has got its grip it seems futile.
Dee, when I was feeling better, I did put up a profile and exchanged some messages with a widower. He invited me to call him but I just couldn't pick up the phone. He wrote that because I hadn't called him, I must not be interested, nor ready for a relationship. I wrote that I became overcame with nervousness every time I went to call him. He seemed kind and invited me to call even just to share our experience of losing a spouse. He's away till 13th. I will try and call, but I don't want a relationship because no one will ever be as good for me and to me as Larry, so what's the point? I got lonely and put the profile up but it's a silly idea and now that the depression has got its grip it seems futile.
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Hi everyone!!
It's been a busy weekend. Took my oldest ice skating today ...just the 2 of us. We don't get much "alone" time so it was really nice Have a busy week coming up with her birthday on Thursday and party on Sat, but looking forward to doing it all sober and hangover free.
Hugs to all
It's been a busy weekend. Took my oldest ice skating today ...just the 2 of us. We don't get much "alone" time so it was really nice
Have a busy week coming up with her birthday on Thursday and party on Sat, but looking forward to doing it all sober and hangover free.Hugs to all
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I'm sorry Leshar - just seems like you're being torn by wanting not to be lonely but also not being able to consider having someone new in your life.
I wish I had some answers for you. Maybe it's a thing to leave to the side until you're feeling less depressed ?
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I wish I had some answers for you. Maybe it's a thing to leave to the side until you're feeling less depressed ?
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