One Year & Over Part 38
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado
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Dee! 
Mags,
I was one of the unashamed and drinking beer was my trademark. In my military career we tended to drink at "bonding" events like formal dining functions and others. I used to do a OMG I got drunk last night only a couple to three times a year. I had no tolerance. When I quit, I was rarely drunk, but my tolerance took me outrageous amounts just to keep a mild buzz on. It was also self-medication for my back and neck pains. I have since dealt with it in other ways that are not intoxicants. My Doc at first prescribed 15 mg of Flexeril twice a day which got rid of the pain, but was just too much! It zoned me out like I was standing next to myself watching me. I asked for a new scrip with the lowest dose of 5 mg. I can't feel it at all, no dissociation, no senses changed, just pain from spasms gone. Our group is pretty lucky actually because we are not addicted to pain pills which are eventually stopped and those folks, good citizens all, but seeking relief from life and pain as we did in alcohol, are now denied and shooting up heroin!
FBL,
Happy Bday to your Mom!
I know yours and RZs are tripped and I see quite a few others like Carlos and Our resident V feline who've cracked the code too. If my life sucks enough to make me want to drink, I can't change a thing drinking. If sober, and I decide not to change anything or procrastinate and let helplessness drive me back to drink as some say, I see clearly where I won't in that scenario, not can't, won't. So Rather than run from my disappointment in myself I can just accept it or fix it. Alcohol can't, sobriety won't.
Your tarbender ( bartender) saw something in you. They see a lot, and can see the descent into hell some choose, while others are fine and oblivious to the dying behind the braggadocio.
Hi Toots!
Morning Wolf!
Hey Sassy! Happy backatcha'!
RZ,
Me too! Have fun tonight you'll have to tell us tomorrow or late how it went.
SG,
Thanks, well put and I agree with your refusal to go intervene with a stranger. You are exactly right, to me. I would have stared down a do-gooder whose misplaced concern was not asked for. Everyone has to decide first. When I was counseling I had to decline some folks as clients at our well health clinic on campus because their friends were dragging them in essentially against their will. We can only help 1/3 of the clients that come in because that is how many are willing to do whatever it takes. I hope your friend's friend gets back to his sobriety. How a drunk could preach to me is a mystery, and a perfect example of why we can't make our life better drinking.
Just got to the rest and see we have a consensus!
Mags,
I was one of the unashamed and drinking beer was my trademark. In my military career we tended to drink at "bonding" events like formal dining functions and others. I used to do a OMG I got drunk last night only a couple to three times a year. I had no tolerance. When I quit, I was rarely drunk, but my tolerance took me outrageous amounts just to keep a mild buzz on. It was also self-medication for my back and neck pains. I have since dealt with it in other ways that are not intoxicants. My Doc at first prescribed 15 mg of Flexeril twice a day which got rid of the pain, but was just too much! It zoned me out like I was standing next to myself watching me. I asked for a new scrip with the lowest dose of 5 mg. I can't feel it at all, no dissociation, no senses changed, just pain from spasms gone. Our group is pretty lucky actually because we are not addicted to pain pills which are eventually stopped and those folks, good citizens all, but seeking relief from life and pain as we did in alcohol, are now denied and shooting up heroin!
FBL,
Happy Bday to your Mom!
I know yours and RZs are tripped and I see quite a few others like Carlos and Our resident V feline who've cracked the code too. If my life sucks enough to make me want to drink, I can't change a thing drinking. If sober, and I decide not to change anything or procrastinate and let helplessness drive me back to drink as some say, I see clearly where I won't in that scenario, not can't, won't. So Rather than run from my disappointment in myself I can just accept it or fix it. Alcohol can't, sobriety won't.
Your tarbender ( bartender) saw something in you. They see a lot, and can see the descent into hell some choose, while others are fine and oblivious to the dying behind the braggadocio.
Hi Toots!
Morning Wolf!
Hey Sassy! Happy backatcha'!
RZ,
Me too! Have fun tonight you'll have to tell us tomorrow or late how it went.
SG,
Thanks, well put and I agree with your refusal to go intervene with a stranger. You are exactly right, to me. I would have stared down a do-gooder whose misplaced concern was not asked for. Everyone has to decide first. When I was counseling I had to decline some folks as clients at our well health clinic on campus because their friends were dragging them in essentially against their will. We can only help 1/3 of the clients that come in because that is how many are willing to do whatever it takes. I hope your friend's friend gets back to his sobriety. How a drunk could preach to me is a mystery, and a perfect example of why we can't make our life better drinking.
Just got to the rest and see we have a consensus!
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Spain
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Weird day. My father in law passed away a year ago and we've made the five hour trip up to my wife's home town to remember him and accompany the family. When he died I was just a month sober. It was a big thing for me to get through that without a drink because my father in law was an important figure in my life. In many ways, at least in business, he was like a mentor for me.
Today I feel pretty disengaged and tired. There's a lot of drinking going on in a light but constant fashion. I don't feel like drinking but I am accutely aware of my lack of ability to be social in these kinds of occasions. I don't know why I just can't get over the whole thing about needing a few drinks to loosen up. It seems that whenever it gets above 5 or 6 people I want to disappear. I can't seem to make any social inroads. Back in the day I was always very social. It occurs to me that I don't really know that much about sober me but I am surprised to find I am shy and retiring. I worry about appearing rude and I don't think I deal with it very well.
Oh well. Maybe it's just a difficult day. Anyway...should get back to it...
Today I feel pretty disengaged and tired. There's a lot of drinking going on in a light but constant fashion. I don't feel like drinking but I am accutely aware of my lack of ability to be social in these kinds of occasions. I don't know why I just can't get over the whole thing about needing a few drinks to loosen up. It seems that whenever it gets above 5 or 6 people I want to disappear. I can't seem to make any social inroads. Back in the day I was always very social. It occurs to me that I don't really know that much about sober me but I am surprised to find I am shy and retiring. I worry about appearing rude and I don't think I deal with it very well.
Oh well. Maybe it's just a difficult day. Anyway...should get back to it...
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: US East Coast
Posts: 14,290
Sorry you are having a rough patch, Amp. You have gone through so many changes in the past year. Is that perhaps tiring at times?
I'm only now beginning to feel less uncomfortable about being around people drinking. For me it has been a reminder of how I used to deal with so many things - by drinking too much - and not having that crutch can leave me feeling a bit lost now and then. It is definitely getting better now and I'm a little under 2 1/2 months short of 2 years.
Nice that your FIL was such a positive force in your life.
I'm only now beginning to feel less uncomfortable about being around people drinking. For me it has been a reminder of how I used to deal with so many things - by drinking too much - and not having that crutch can leave me feeling a bit lost now and then. It is definitely getting better now and I'm a little under 2 1/2 months short of 2 years.
Nice that your FIL was such a positive force in your life.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
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(((amp))) ♥
Sorry to be a bit absent. Still fighting with a graphics program that doesn't want to work anymore, driver updates didn't help...I am close to flying either Sass or Itchy here...
Love to all of you. ♥
EDIT: Belated Happy Birthday to your beautiful mum FBL, and I also think you did the right thing Star. As compassionate and epmpathetic as all of us are, we also know how to be calm and wait. He wasn't driving. He has to make his own decision. And even though you don't know him, I know you will be there for him if he decides that he would like some help.
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Sorry to be a bit absent. Still fighting with a graphics program that doesn't want to work anymore, driver updates didn't help...I am close to flying either Sass or Itchy here...
Love to all of you. ♥
EDIT: Belated Happy Birthday to your beautiful mum FBL, and I also think you did the right thing Star. As compassionate and epmpathetic as all of us are, we also know how to be calm and wait. He wasn't driving. He has to make his own decision. And even though you don't know him, I know you will be there for him if he decides that he would like some help.
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I think you did the right thing too SG 
Amp, I'm sorry. I can be around people drinking now but like you bigger gatherings still leave me uneasy. I think in my case they always did, but it's a bit of a readjustment.
With a funeral and the aftermath of that I pretty much just played host, made sure people were ok, had enough food etc. If someone wanted to talk I stopped and talked.
I kinda fly under the radar that way
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Amp, I'm sorry. I can be around people drinking now but like you bigger gatherings still leave me uneasy. I think in my case they always did, but it's a bit of a readjustment.
With a funeral and the aftermath of that I pretty much just played host, made sure people were ok, had enough food etc. If someone wanted to talk I stopped and talked.
I kinda fly under the radar that way
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Midwest, USA
Posts: 2,054
Hi, overs-
Thank you Saskia and itch for the amazing responses!! I'm humbled, truly and am still digesting. Also finger pecking on my iPad since I'm without my laptop this weekend. Decided to travel light and wish I'd packed it now. So forgive me, I'll respond tomorrow eve when I return to suburbia.
Took a boat ride this afternoon with the fam, and spent a good portion of time working on a small flower garden I have here. I think I'm going to make a small sign on a stake..."Serenity Now!"
Hope all is well in Overland!
Thank you Saskia and itch for the amazing responses!!
I'm humbled, truly and am still digesting. Also finger pecking on my iPad since I'm without my laptop this weekend. Decided to travel light and wish I'd packed it now. So forgive me, I'll respond tomorrow eve when I return to suburbia. Took a boat ride this afternoon with the fam, and spent a good portion of time working on a small flower garden I have here. I think I'm going to make a small sign on a stake..."Serenity Now!"
Hope all is well in Overland!
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Pa
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Just glanced at my phone and saw that I hit 400 days today! I was never a huge day counter following the RR approach but it's fun to see the number slowly get larger. So much has changed for me in such a small amount of time.
Amp, three days until your 400!
Amp, three days until your 400!
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
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Morning overs sunny Sunday here. We may be going to a garden centre in Whisby near Lincoln later.
Congratulations on 400 days Star, great achievement.
Went out last night to a birthday do and was round a few people drinking. Wasn't a problem at all, but I do remember a time in my earlier sobriety that I wouldn't have trusted myself near alcohol. Blues brothers were on, (not the original or course) , but I've never ever watched the blues brothers film! Great, happy music, loved it.
Morning Wolfie !
Congratulations on 400 days Star, great achievement.
Went out last night to a birthday do and was round a few people drinking. Wasn't a problem at all, but I do remember a time in my earlier sobriety that I wouldn't have trusted myself near alcohol. Blues brothers were on, (not the original or course) , but I've never ever watched the blues brothers film! Great, happy music, loved it.
Morning Wolfie !
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Join Date: May 2012
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Good morning, Overs!
SG and Amp, congrats on 400 days - nice round numbers are good :-)
FBL, I see that you have exactly 1 month until you reach 7 years
Life is good here on the ocean. I got a little bit sunburned yesterday sitting on the patio watching the waves.
SG and Amp, congrats on 400 days - nice round numbers are good :-)
FBL, I see that you have exactly 1 month until you reach 7 years
Life is good here on the ocean. I got a little bit sunburned yesterday sitting on the patio watching the waves.
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 13,868
Morning, Wolfy!
Thanks, V! We've missed you 'round here.
Congrats on 400 days, Star!
Zip, how'd the rockin' reunion go?
Another day of perfect weather (sunny and 75F)...this morning's nature walk should be a good'un
Have a Super Sunday, all!
Thanks, V! We've missed you 'round here.
Congrats on 400 days, Star!
Zip, how'd the rockin' reunion go?
Another day of perfect weather (sunny and 75F)...this morning's nature walk should be a good'un
Have a Super Sunday, all!
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