Class of October 2014 Part 7
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Well, I'm not good. No matter what I do for my dad, he still finds a way to be a horrible person. One evening only he couldn't get me...my stomach was really sick last night, and I went to bed. So he called my older sister and complained about me. So I woke up to a nasty text. I called him, told him this was not on. That he needed to treat me decently. He hung up on me. 3 times. I'm done.
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My dad is all out of Option Bs at this point...I am the only one here.
I once had a therapist who taught me that being angry (within reason) is healthy, as this means I am valuing myself. I don't deserve to be someone's doormat. And now that I have calmed down, it feels almost good to have stood up for myself.
And my sisters have both been nice to me (it's a long story from, but the three of us get along pretty well these days).
I think I really hurt my tummy with the sugar binge...I can't eat sugar, and I know this.
I am seriously allergic to it, and if I indulge, I pay the price. At least there is no hangover though, so all I need to do is not eat any more sugar. Easy.
So rant over. 
I once had a therapist who taught me that being angry (within reason) is healthy, as this means I am valuing myself. I don't deserve to be someone's doormat. And now that I have calmed down, it feels almost good to have stood up for myself.
And my sisters have both been nice to me (it's a long story from, but the three of us get along pretty well these days).
I think I really hurt my tummy with the sugar binge...I can't eat sugar, and I know this.
I am seriously allergic to it, and if I indulge, I pay the price. At least there is no hangover though, so all I need to do is not eat any more sugar. Easy.
So rant over.
02.27.15 :): ▽VII△VIII
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I'm sorry you have to go through this V. Your dad has a lot of people to care for him right now, but you have yourself to take care of. No doubt this is an emotional time for him, but that doesn't make him the center of the universe. Take care of yourself.
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won't they have to find a plan B when you're laid up?
what are your other sisters doing V?
Have you thought of Blue Care or something similar, just to take some of the pressure off?
D
what are your other sisters doing V?
Have you thought of Blue Care or something similar, just to take some of the pressure off?
D
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My dad is in the top nursing home in Melbourne. He has a million people to wait on him hand and foot. He is grumpy and mean and just sits in his chair like royalty demanding stuff. He doesn't need any extra care. He needs to be a decent human being so that people will want to be with him.
My sisters are away till next week. They will both be around when I am in hospital and afterwards. And they have both encouraged me to just let him stew in his own juices for the moment. Sounds OK to me...that's where the anger is good. I don't feel guilty that the miserable old guy is alone and upset. It's his choice.
Guess the rant wasn't quite over.
My sisters are away till next week. They will both be around when I am in hospital and afterwards. And they have both encouraged me to just let him stew in his own juices for the moment. Sounds OK to me...that's where the anger is good. I don't feel guilty that the miserable old guy is alone and upset. It's his choice.
Guess the rant wasn't quite over.
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You guys are awesome! Hey JL, so glad you are here with us again.
I believe in love too...I think we all do. It's a pretty powerful antidote to so much of the blech in the world.
Thinking of Sparkos, and tiredofme and hoping that they magically appear! ♥
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Hi guys, I hope everyone is well. I'm hanging in there, trying to figure things out, sober tonight by the skin of my teeth. Having a very hard time seeing how this is going to be sustainable long term, kinda panicking over that, but trying to just focus on today. Blowing up the newcomers board with my self-indulgent drama. Exhausted.
Anyway, otherwise it was a good day. Work was fine, had lunch with a friend (real spicy sushi, yum), texted with a sweet lady from my meetings so I can get to know her better. Been making some major progress in potty training my daughter, which is fantastic. So it's all good.
I hope you're feeling better V. Take care of yourself first and only give others what you have left over.
Love to all.
Anyway, otherwise it was a good day. Work was fine, had lunch with a friend (real spicy sushi, yum), texted with a sweet lady from my meetings so I can get to know her better. Been making some major progress in potty training my daughter, which is fantastic. So it's all good.
I hope you're feeling better V. Take care of yourself first and only give others what you have left over.
Love to all.
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