One Year and Under Club Part 40
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Gilmer - Thanks! I sure hope you'll still be around with your thoughtful posts when you graduate to the overs this weekend!! 
It looks like everyone is getting on well with their various methods of achieving the goal of not drinking.
BoozeFree - I know what you mean about those fleeting thoughts of drinking, almost out if habit, because drinking was how you formerly handled that particular stressor. I had lots of triggers (lol), but two of my potent triggers were snowfall and youth hockey drama. When I stopped drinking in February, it snowed every week, and the youth hockey season was in full force. I fought the urge to use a lot.
This week, while I've been under intense pressure preparing for an exam which I need to pass in order to keep my job. My marriage is kind of a mess.... I haven't had time to participate in AA or SR.... There is a resurgence of significant drama on one of my sons' teams.... Then today I woke up and saw snow on the ground.... I remembered that I used to drink in these situations, but the action of drinking didn't cross my mind.
Instead I used the tools I've accumulated in these last 8 months: I reached out to my friends. I accepted that I'm under pressure. I made realistic plans and expected realistic outcomes. I felt gratitude for the good stuff in my life.
I am extremely grateful to an all-encompassing recovery of mind, body, and spirit that is allowing me to not just function in a difficult time, but flourish. And I'm grateful to all the folks I share it with.
It looks like everyone is getting on well with their various methods of achieving the goal of not drinking.
BoozeFree - I know what you mean about those fleeting thoughts of drinking, almost out if habit, because drinking was how you formerly handled that particular stressor. I had lots of triggers (lol), but two of my potent triggers were snowfall and youth hockey drama. When I stopped drinking in February, it snowed every week, and the youth hockey season was in full force. I fought the urge to use a lot.
This week, while I've been under intense pressure preparing for an exam which I need to pass in order to keep my job. My marriage is kind of a mess.... I haven't had time to participate in AA or SR.... There is a resurgence of significant drama on one of my sons' teams.... Then today I woke up and saw snow on the ground.... I remembered that I used to drink in these situations, but the action of drinking didn't cross my mind.
Instead I used the tools I've accumulated in these last 8 months: I reached out to my friends. I accepted that I'm under pressure. I made realistic plans and expected realistic outcomes. I felt gratitude for the good stuff in my life.
I am extremely grateful to an all-encompassing recovery of mind, body, and spirit that is allowing me to not just function in a difficult time, but flourish. And I'm grateful to all the folks I share it with.
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Join Date: May 2012
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Gilmer, you've been a mainstay in my life for a good while now! I definitely hope we'll see you here regularly :-)
Glee, you sound well-grounded in spite of the stressors you are now facing. (((Hugs)))!
I've been a little (sometimes a lot) stressed as I work on two tracks at once: moving further north or staying here. The only potential catch at this point is the medical side of things. I passed the cognitive test yesterday. The bad news is that my PCP insists on keeping a particularly nasty diagnosis (heart problem) in my medical record. Although that won't directly keep me out, it could mean a potentially very big financial hit. The sad part is that it occurred almost 20 years ago and, what was rather unusual, it got better on its own within 2 years. So there has been no sign either in day-to-day living or in regular tests - for a long time - that it is coming back. So it should be a "historical" diagnosis but my PCP is coding it as a current diagnosis. Grrrrrr!
So I am needing to be extra vigilant about not drinking. The thoughts are there when I feel so stressed. I think I will be ok but it is hard right now. I just have to keep reminding myself that alcohol will only make everything worse and I would feel just awful if i didn't stay sober!
Thanks for giving me a safe place to vent.
Glee, you sound well-grounded in spite of the stressors you are now facing. (((Hugs)))!
I've been a little (sometimes a lot) stressed as I work on two tracks at once: moving further north or staying here. The only potential catch at this point is the medical side of things. I passed the cognitive test yesterday. The bad news is that my PCP insists on keeping a particularly nasty diagnosis (heart problem) in my medical record. Although that won't directly keep me out, it could mean a potentially very big financial hit. The sad part is that it occurred almost 20 years ago and, what was rather unusual, it got better on its own within 2 years. So there has been no sign either in day-to-day living or in regular tests - for a long time - that it is coming back. So it should be a "historical" diagnosis but my PCP is coding it as a current diagnosis. Grrrrrr!
So I am needing to be extra vigilant about not drinking. The thoughts are there when I feel so stressed. I think I will be ok but it is hard right now. I just have to keep reminding myself that alcohol will only make everything worse and I would feel just awful if i didn't stay sober!
Thanks for giving me a safe place to vent.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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I am going to have a light womp day as much as possible. Supposed to snow tonight and tomorrow, so I will have to see that the snow removal crew is out at the buildings under my care.
Going to cook some cabbage today. I love cabbage..
Going to cook some cabbage today. I love cabbage..
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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My favorite cabbage dish is Moo Shi Pork!
Sure, I'll still be around! Keep in mind that I won't officially have one year sober till Sunday--I could still blow it!
(I certainly hope not--I can't envision it, but I don't want to be too cocky!).
Sure, I'll still be around! Keep in mind that I won't officially have one year sober till Sunday--I could still blow it!
(I certainly hope not--I can't envision it, but I don't want to be too cocky!).
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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If I can do it, Gilmer, you can too!
I am simply going to cook some cabbage with tomatoes and onion. But I love the stuff about anyway you do it.
Love to cut out the fleshy heart and eat with a shake of salt too.
I am simply going to cook some cabbage with tomatoes and onion. But I love the stuff about anyway you do it.
Love to cut out the fleshy heart and eat with a shake of salt too.
after my recent performance...
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Drake-ula, I love the heart too!! And out of cauli mmmmmmm!
Trachy!
Gilmer can't wait til your a Vintage Undie too!
Glandon, Scoot, I only began my journey in recovery by making myself accountable to my husband, hiding, lying, relapsing were no longer options. It's not as if I quit for anyone but me, but having someone in 'real life' knowing everything and aware of my journey makes all the difference.
I hit 20 months today, and sent hubby a text thanking him for his love and support and his belief in me.
Gleefan, I am crossing everything for your exam x
BeFree, 'she that shall not be named ' ( the skank) was an old trigger, which is why AV momentarily woke up and had a look around. Fortunately, now aways you have way more going on with your life than some sad baggage! Womp womp sweetie!
Hugs my favourite clean Undies!! X
Trachy! Gilmer can't wait til your a Vintage Undie too!
Glandon, Scoot, I only began my journey in recovery by making myself accountable to my husband, hiding, lying, relapsing were no longer options. It's not as if I quit for anyone but me, but having someone in 'real life' knowing everything and aware of my journey makes all the difference.
I hit 20 months today, and sent hubby a text thanking him for his love and support and his belief in me.
Gleefan, I am crossing everything for your exam x
BeFree, 'she that shall not be named ' ( the skank) was an old trigger, which is why AV momentarily woke up and had a look around. Fortunately, now aways you have way more going on with your life than some sad baggage! Womp womp sweetie!
Hugs my favourite clean Undies!! X
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Sorry no time to catch up on posts right now I just wanted to wish you all a blessed sober happy weekend!! Going to rake the leaves in the front yard with my daughter (she loves to jump in the pile of leaves before we load them into the bin) then have some home made tomato soup on this cool evening.
Love and hugs to you all, Chris
Love and hugs to you all, Chris
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