Now it's my daughter...again
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Tax...my commiserations for all the pain your family is going through.
I'm amazed at how much some parents will take from their children before they say enough is enough. I think society sets the scene that a parent should always be there for their child. But the operative word is child.
Your daughter is not a child, she's making life choices as an adult and should be seeing the consequences. Allowing this drama to continue in your house is not helping her or you.
Neferkamichawl puts it all much more eloquently than me, but it's there. I read from his post no matter how much respect he had for his mother not to bring that into his mothers house, he still went down a certain path.
You have a life to live. Don't make this life of drama be YOUR drug of choice.
Hugs.
I'm amazed at how much some parents will take from their children before they say enough is enough. I think society sets the scene that a parent should always be there for their child. But the operative word is child.
Your daughter is not a child, she's making life choices as an adult and should be seeing the consequences. Allowing this drama to continue in your house is not helping her or you.
Neferkamichawl puts it all much more eloquently than me, but it's there. I read from his post no matter how much respect he had for his mother not to bring that into his mothers house, he still went down a certain path.
You have a life to live. Don't make this life of drama be YOUR drug of choice.
Hugs.
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: East Coast of Florida
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Hi, Txhelp. I always read posts like yours with a lot of interest as I have a similar problem. I have just posted an update on my own daughter. I am feeling guilt over making my daughter leave again so am particularly interested in situations where the addict is living in the family home. I can't seem to manage it and don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad one. Either way, I empathize with you immensely and hope that you will be OK. I'm sorry you're going through all of this.
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Join Date: Nov 2011
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Txhelp, I know. No matter what else I was feeling when I deposited my daughter at the rehab, the feeling of relief was topmost. Feel guilty about that. I am and have always been willing and able to do whatever hard work was required in regards to my kids, but this is harder because this is nothing I can do.
Croissant makes the point that our children are making choices as adults. I think part of the conflict I have is that especially this time around with my own daughter, who is now 24 years old, it is very clear that her emotional/psychological age seems to be frozen around the time she herself has stated that she started using which is 14. She didn't seem to be making any of her decisions from an adult standpoint.
Take care of yourself; will be thinking of you and your family.
Croissant makes the point that our children are making choices as adults. I think part of the conflict I have is that especially this time around with my own daughter, who is now 24 years old, it is very clear that her emotional/psychological age seems to be frozen around the time she herself has stated that she started using which is 14. She didn't seem to be making any of her decisions from an adult standpoint.
Take care of yourself; will be thinking of you and your family.
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Sometimes people don't grow up until they are forced to. I am so sorry for what you are all going through. Just wanted to let you know I am reading and I support you!
Originally Posted by Newimage 
Txhelp, I know. No matter what else I was feeling when I deposited my daughter at the rehab, the feeling of relief was topmost. Feel guilty about that. I am and have always been willing and able to do whatever hard work was required in regards to my kids, but this is harder because this is nothing I can do.
Croissant makes the point that our children are making choices as adults. I think part of the conflict I have is that especially this time around with my own daughter, who is now 24 years old, it is very clear that her emotional/psychological age seems to be frozen around the time she herself has stated that she started using which is 14. She didn't seem to be making any of her decisions from an adult standpoint.
Take care of yourself; will be thinking of you and your family.
Croissant makes the point that our children are making choices as adults. I think part of the conflict I have is that especially this time around with my own daughter, who is now 24 years old, it is very clear that her emotional/psychological age seems to be frozen around the time she herself has stated that she started using which is 14. She didn't seem to be making any of her decisions from an adult standpoint.
Take care of yourself; will be thinking of you and your family.
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