lifegoeson

so i kicked my boyfriend out last night for lien to me about where he was and who he was with. now he wants to take our daughter for a few hours what should i do?

13longyears

No!

lifegoeson

he wont take no for a answer

lifegoeson

he keeps asking and im like we will see. i have things to do... in the state i live in idk about every other state but posetion is 9/10ths of the law so he cant jus take her from me if she is with me

13longyears

Is he using? What is he lying about? I personally would call the police if he insists.

lifegoeson

yes from what i have read he is using. and he has been hanging around his brother that just got out of jail and was in a half way house which is now selling. and has alot of trouble with people from what i understand. and he was over there for dinner last night with the brother and the girlfriend. and lied to me and told me he was with one of our friends. and came home with stuff and he spillied that he was with the brother.

13longyears

Why would you ever let your child be alone with him in this condition? Have you thought about calling the police?

lifegoeson

i wouldnt thats my problem.. i dont want her to be with him. no but if it comes down to it will have to. to atleast keep her safe cause we have no court order

13longyears

You don't need a court order to try and protect your child. If you insist on talking to him tell him your not comfortable with him taking the baby right now. If that doesn't work call the police and explain the situation, then work on getting a court order stat. But don't let him take your child.

cc88

Someone doesnt have to take no for an answer for it to be a final answer. "NO -*click*" is a perfectly reasonable way to answer these phone calls. If he shows up, dont wait for him to come inside. Call the cops. Better you call them and they not be completely needed than really need them and you didnt think the situation would have merited calling them. this is YOUR BABY'S SAFETY.

lifegoeson

ok got it. i spoke to my attornys office today and their already starting the paperwork for me.

KelleyF

Why do you think he wants to take the baby?
Is this something that he normally does? If so, where does he take her?

lifegoeson

he texted me today and ask if he can take her out. he use to live with me until last night when i kicked him out. and no he never spends time with her. the only time he asks to take her somewhere is when we break up. then he wants to be a daddy. i have no idea where he takes her he is a liar i can never trust him

PaperDolls

It sounds to me like he's harassing you. I'd call the police.

KelleyF

Hes trying to use baby as a pawn; thats really low.

Your doing the right thing ! Stay Strong ~

lifegoeson

thank you im trying. its so hard but im doing it.

YearForMe

If he calls again....

Tell him....

No...you are not taking the baby
No...you are not coming over here....and if you do...I will call the police.
If he threatens you...then file a restraining order against him.

Be prepared to follow thru with every single bit of it. Most people that are using DO NOT want to deal with the police.

lifegoeson

i have called the cops on him before to remove him from my house... it doesnt phase him at all..he is so manipulative its crazy. i will def. call them if he comes here. i cant trust him with her like i know he loves her but drugs over powers love and care from what i see.

bluebelle

I'm glad you contacted a lawyer. The most important thing is that you and your child are safe.

EnglishGarden

Unfortunately it is very common for addicts to try to dominate and control their ex-spouses through power struggles concerning the children.

Some addicts get high off the power they feel when they frighten the spouse about the children. It puffs up the addict and addicts love that feeling.

Please get something legal in place with the lawyer as soon as possible and do not let ANYONE HIGH ON DRUGS to take your daughter even for a few hours.

If you have to go away with your child until a legal protection is in place, please do that.

Do not give that man your baby. If he comes for her, and you know he's on the way, LEAVE. And if he shows up without notice, call 911.

Drug addicts usually hate it when the cops show up.

So sorry you feel so alone. My heart goes out to you.