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Old 09-21-2010, 08:58 PM
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DH ran into BIL's old friend today....

I'm feeling pretty good these days. Though I pray for my BIL and SIL's recovery I am not being sucked into the vortex anymore. I am enjoying the peace this brings me

When my husband was picking up dinner he ran into one of my BIL's closest friends "Jon". Jon asked my DH about my BIL, my DH responded "idk, haven't seen him in months.". Jon has 80 days sober. Jon told my husband that he too no longer talks to BIL, because Jon believes that BIL would jeopardize jon's recovery.

I guess the reason I bring this here is because I feel that Jon validated our detachment in some weird way - it was comforting to know that another human being sees what we see. With denial running rampant in my husband's family the doubt sometimes creeps in. Anyway, thanks for letting me share.
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Old 09-22-2010, 06:27 AM
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That doubt is always there for me too. Did I do the right thing? Should I do ____? What if _______?

I have to really work at keeping those doubts from tugging me into despair.

I'll say a prayer for your BIL and SIL's recovery but I'll also mention you in that prayer to ask HP to wipe your doubts away and help you stay in that serene place.

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I guess the reason I bring this here is because I feel that Jon validated our detachment in some weird way - it was comforting to know that another human being sees what we see.
For me it isn't doubt, it's about solidarity. I know the steps I've taken are right because my ship has been righted. Sometimes I just feel so alone out on this vast ocean, even when sailing under a starry sky on calm waters. I need friendly ships passing in the night, to remind me I'm not really alone
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One of my kid's birthday parties is coming soon, and we have invited a very small, select group of people in order to keep active addicts away from our children.

I can't help but think that this chance meeting in the pizza parlor was God's way of touching me on the shoulder - to remind me that we are doing the right thing and we are not alone. Thanks everybody
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