Think AS Back In Jail
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: USA
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it's hard. we have made a firm stance - no more "get out of trouble" help. it doesn't solve a thing, especially when they are still active in addiction.
blessings, and i'm sorry you are having so much stress - k
blessings, and i'm sorry you are having so much stress - k
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Join Date: Jul 2006
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Wow, Di, I can only imagine what you are going thru. I thought for sure that Bio Dad called because he was working his steps like a good recovering addict, but if you think he is trying to scam social security money, there must be some way to stop him.
Not sure, but guessing an assault charge is better than a drug charge? Wouldn't he just get an automatic long sentence for another drug related charge? I know that you think he needs some psychological therapy, maybe now he will get it, courtesy of the state? Seems that's the only way our addicts can get therapy anymore is by getting arrested. A very sad state of affairs.
Lots of hugs, Barb
Not sure, but guessing an assault charge is better than a drug charge? Wouldn't he just get an automatic long sentence for another drug related charge? I know that you think he needs some psychological therapy, maybe now he will get it, courtesy of the state? Seems that's the only way our addicts can get therapy anymore is by getting arrested. A very sad state of affairs.
Lots of hugs, Barb
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Hey girl. getting on late (swamped at work. Swamped with work at home).
I haven't been to a meeting in 3 weeks. I was away for two weeks and this week has just been nutz. Next week they get me back.. LOL
I miss them. Between SR, co Dependent no More and Alanon, I have made more progress in the last 7 months than I did in the previous 50 years. Or that is how it feels.
I went for counseling and all sorts of things that just did not work. Then Steve left and hurt me like no man has ever hurt me.. and well, I had to do something with Recovery or jump off a bridge. I am scared of heights so revoery was the better option.
You were one of the first people to make me feel welcome back here at SR Rozied. You have NO idea how much that first PM meant to me.. just that someone cared about me as an individual. From here I went to meetings and to books and well, it gets better all the time.
I cannot tell you how good those meetings can be for you. They made a huge difference for me (as have you!).
I haven't been to a meeting in 3 weeks. I was away for two weeks and this week has just been nutz. Next week they get me back.. LOL
I miss them. Between SR, co Dependent no More and Alanon, I have made more progress in the last 7 months than I did in the previous 50 years. Or that is how it feels.
I went for counseling and all sorts of things that just did not work. Then Steve left and hurt me like no man has ever hurt me.. and well, I had to do something with Recovery or jump off a bridge. I am scared of heights so revoery was the better option.
You were one of the first people to make me feel welcome back here at SR Rozied. You have NO idea how much that first PM meant to me.. just that someone cared about me as an individual. From here I went to meetings and to books and well, it gets better all the time.
I cannot tell you how good those meetings can be for you. They made a huge difference for me (as have you!).
rozied
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
Posts: 1,292
Hi Parent, Barb, Dollydo, and Elana, Thanx again for your input.
Barb, My ex is NOT scamming SS. Federal Law I believe is if you were married total 10 yrs the ex can collect under your name. This would NOT cost me any money, the money comes from SS. There is noway my ex can hurt me. If SS lets him collect under my name there is nothing I can do about it & as long as he isn't hurting me I don't really care what he does or doesn't do. I haven't seen or talked to this person for like 30 yrs. He is a stranger to me as far as knowing him. I know what he was like a long time ago & that was enough.
As fas as AS goes he has never had a drug charge as far as I know. All his charges have been for Retail Theft, Parole Violations & 1 Escape Charge for walking away from work release. He has never been arrested for drugs. Lots of hugs Barb to you too.
Parent, I am not going to lift a finger to help my AS. I might have to help my dad get bk the car he paid for. I don't know if I should even do that or if its even doable. The car is now in some strangers name & this person is now in jail too. My dad says the Title is in the car. Will the impound give the car to us if the owner signs a release? That is what AS said to do to get the car back. My dad bought the car & has paid alot for all the repairs. AS told my dad if he was ever sent bk to jail the car would go bk to my dad. My dad was calling the impound to see what they had to say.
Dollydo, Thanks, I will stay strong as far as AS goes. There is no way I can help a 40 yr old man, he is doing things that are so out of control, I can't even believe it all. He is on his own. I cannot afford to get involved financially or emotionally. I am so far not having a problem with that. My problem is my poor dad. He bought this car & paid all the repair money plus my dad wants this car. It is an Escort with a hatchback, the kind of car my dad wants. That is how AS got him to buy it.
Love,
Diane
Barb, My ex is NOT scamming SS. Federal Law I believe is if you were married total 10 yrs the ex can collect under your name. This would NOT cost me any money, the money comes from SS. There is noway my ex can hurt me. If SS lets him collect under my name there is nothing I can do about it & as long as he isn't hurting me I don't really care what he does or doesn't do. I haven't seen or talked to this person for like 30 yrs. He is a stranger to me as far as knowing him. I know what he was like a long time ago & that was enough.
As fas as AS goes he has never had a drug charge as far as I know. All his charges have been for Retail Theft, Parole Violations & 1 Escape Charge for walking away from work release. He has never been arrested for drugs. Lots of hugs Barb to you too.
Parent, I am not going to lift a finger to help my AS. I might have to help my dad get bk the car he paid for. I don't know if I should even do that or if its even doable. The car is now in some strangers name & this person is now in jail too. My dad says the Title is in the car. Will the impound give the car to us if the owner signs a release? That is what AS said to do to get the car back. My dad bought the car & has paid alot for all the repairs. AS told my dad if he was ever sent bk to jail the car would go bk to my dad. My dad was calling the impound to see what they had to say.
Dollydo, Thanks, I will stay strong as far as AS goes. There is no way I can help a 40 yr old man, he is doing things that are so out of control, I can't even believe it all. He is on his own. I cannot afford to get involved financially or emotionally. I am so far not having a problem with that. My problem is my poor dad. He bought this car & paid all the repair money plus my dad wants this car. It is an Escort with a hatchback, the kind of car my dad wants. That is how AS got him to buy it.
Love,
Diane
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