I’m so upset with my husbands drinking
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Originally Posted by Jk4 
And at 44 years old it’s a hard choice to make. [/left]
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Does anyone else deal with their spouse always having an ailment. It’s either a headache, his ankle hurts, his sinuses, his throat. So many times we have plans he complains about something and acts as if I’m insensitive for making him go when he isn’t feeling well.
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Originally Posted by Jk4
Does anyone else deal with their spouse always having an ailment. It’s either a headache, his ankle hurts, his sinuses, his throat. So many times we have plans he complains about something and acts as if I’m insensitive for making him go when he isn’t feeling well.
So what about you? How do you feel about his behaviors? What do you think would be the best thing for YOU to do?
Do you see where looking for his hidden bottles is not constructive in helping the situation? Can you see where his alcoholism is affecting you?
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I can relate..
Hi I have not posted on this forum for a while but regularly read the threads and posts. I could have written your post myself it’s so familiar. I’m 45. Nothing’s changed since I wrote my first post (I think if you click on my name you see my old posts?) I’m still with AH. His drinking hasn’t changed. In fact it’s probably worse. The big difference now is I don’t monitor him. I’m doing more for myself and not relying on him or trusting him with anything anymore. It doesn’t mean I’m staying forever, I’m choosing to stay for now because it suits me not to have to uproot my family right now. But I’ve accepted this is him for the rest of his life and that’s his choice. It doesn’t have to be mine. I have stopped trying to change him. He continues to be an embarrassment to himself and I still see the look on people’s faces when he turns up looking like a tramp, unshaven, scruffy bad breath and a trembling face, but I no longer see that as a reflection on me and I don’t try to prevent him doing that.
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Originally Posted by Jk4
Does anyone else deal with their spouse always having an ailment. It’s either a headache, his ankle hurts, his sinuses, his throat. So many times we have plans he complains about something and acts as if I’m insensitive for making him go when he isn’t feeling well.
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Jk4- I don’t know what it’s called, nor if it even matters, but my husband’s tolerance went from a handle of vodka a day to one drink making him blackout drooling drunk in a matter of months. It’s real, it happens- stop looking for evidence of him drinking more because it’ll drive you crazy. Hes at the point where one beer is too much. Like others have suggested, start focusing on how you’ll handle being around him when he’s had one drink and what will make you happy.
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