Update: 5 Years Later

Old 07-06-2016, 02:59 PM
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Update: 5 Years Later

Hi Everyone--

I used this forum a lot when I was dealing with my now XAW.

I am glad I got divorced. Really glad. Even though I was giving up a 15 year marriage and ton of money.

I am friends with XAW, I am friendly with her and see her about once every 2 months. I help her with certain aspects of her finances, but overall she is independent.

Unfortunately she has been unable to stay sober. The recurrent life-threatening situations and accidents have continued, and she has relapsed again and again, going back to the vodka bottle each time for another 6-12 month stretch ending in the hospital.

Most recently, she spent a long stretch in the hospital with liver issues, yellow skin, and yellow eyes. So she is sober now and I feel very sorry for her.

This is a 48 year old woman with liver failure. Her abdomen fills up with a liquid called ascites, continuously, and she has to be "tapped" 2 times per week. She is essentially a disabled person at this point.

I will always love her dearly and she is a sweet person. But I'm glad I got divorced. It was hard, but I don't think I could have done anything to change this dreadful situation and I am grateful for boundaries and the opportunity to live my own life.

Much love and blessings to all of you here, I don't visit often but I certainly do appreciate the community.
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Old 07-06-2016, 03:05 PM
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Hi. And I would just like to say thank you for following up with an update since people come and go and experiences differ so. God bless.
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Old 07-06-2016, 03:19 PM
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Bless you for the strength to do the right thing for yourself....

And, thanks so much for taking the time for this update!!

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Old 07-06-2016, 10:24 PM
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Thank you for sharing your update. An awful disease for the sufferer but those of us around it have to save ourselves or we will be pulled down too.
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Old 07-07-2016, 04:55 AM
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Glad you are doing well, and thanks for the update. There is a calm in your writing that is refreshing, and gives hope.

God Bless you.

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Old 07-07-2016, 08:52 AM
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Glad you are out, happy and healthy. Prayers for your X. It is so sad.
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