Calling all alcoholic decoders!
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Calling all alcoholic decoders!
Y'all that know my story with my ex....I got a lovely gem tonight that I thought I would pass on and get your take on...my ex sent me a message out of the blue stating "it's your heart to blame".
Hmmm, it's my hearts fault he hasn't seen his own flesh and blood? It's my hearts fault he continues to drink and blame me? Hmmm, I smell projection and a load of BS. (Yes-I know I'm not to blame and that he's full of s**t and just gurgling alcoholic mumbo jumbo that doesn't make sense at all-it's what he's done for years). I read his message and asked my friend to pray for him. So we did bc I truly always have wanted the best for him.
Y'all that know my story, thoughts?
Hmmm, it's my hearts fault he hasn't seen his own flesh and blood? It's my hearts fault he continues to drink and blame me? Hmmm, I smell projection and a load of BS. (Yes-I know I'm not to blame and that he's full of s**t and just gurgling alcoholic mumbo jumbo that doesn't make sense at all-it's what he's done for years). I read his message and asked my friend to pray for him. So we did bc I truly always have wanted the best for him.
Y'all that know my story, thoughts?
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I wouldn't pay it any mind. He's blame-shifting, finding reasons to pin his current situation on anything but himself. And he likely believes what he's writing without realizing what he's doing.
My decoder is strong, but I'm drawing a blank on this one otherwise. Then again, my decoder is more geared towards detecting levels of inebriation and translating the intent. Examples:
"Hi."
"Hi."
"Hi."
"Hi."
"Hi."
That one means "I've had a little too much to drink and I'm thinking about you."
"Puidj ne uo." = "Pick me up. I am very drunk and want to go home."
My decoder is strong, but I'm drawing a blank on this one otherwise. Then again, my decoder is more geared towards detecting levels of inebriation and translating the intent. Examples:
"Hi."
"Hi."
"Hi."
"Hi."
"Hi."
That one means "I've had a little too much to drink and I'm thinking about you."
"Puidj ne uo." = "Pick me up. I am very drunk and want to go home."
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^ he has no self awareness at all. No introspection. Whatever his current situation is, it's not my fault and really, who cares. He's doing what an alcoholic does-that's all I know or need to know. Nah, he doesn't get any of my attention or heart or anything anymore-he used it and abused it.
Btw-love your pick me up translation I've been on the receiving ends if texts and messages that looked something like that :/
Btw-love your pick me up translation I've been on the receiving ends if texts and messages that looked something like that :/
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^ he needs the hugs, not me. I am good (but thank you-I'll always take extra hugs!!)
Yes, agreed with all translations above-pretty much everything he's said or messaged over the last couple of years can be translated to "I'm drunk, nothing is ever my fault".
Anyway, moving on...hope y'all have a fabulous Tuesday!
Yes, agreed with all translations above-pretty much everything he's said or messaged over the last couple of years can be translated to "I'm drunk, nothing is ever my fault".
Anyway, moving on...hope y'all have a fabulous Tuesday!
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I consulted my Man Guide. bekindalways above has it right- in the chapter on emotionalism ie feeling sorry for myself; trying to reach out to the only emotional contact I have, while being unconscious of the harm I've done to her.
"Y'all that know my story, thoughts?"
im very glad i never had one of tbese fancyschmancy textin machines where my drunken, denialin, rationalizin, insanity could be kept to remind me later on.
im very glad i never had one of tbese fancyschmancy textin machines where my drunken, denialin, rationalizin, insanity could be kept to remind me later on.
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So if the mortal enemy of addiction is accountability, what is the mortal enemy of codependency?
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