Well, Valentines Day should be interesting
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Well, Valentines Day should be interesting
Living here in this house together and not wanting to be together.
Maybe we'll watch "The Breakup" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, lol.
Eh, I'm sure he'll be gone partying to drown his sorrows, so I'll be here watching it alone, ha.
Maybe we'll watch "The Breakup" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, lol.
Eh, I'm sure he'll be gone partying to drown his sorrows, so I'll be here watching it alone, ha.
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Well I understand we all do things in our own time and our own way.
I completely get that. My life was a self induced mixed up hell for a few years as well.
So ok, it is what it is.
I say let the fool do whatever he is going to do and you indulge YOU.
Enjoy a peaceful night and remember Valentine's day is a marketing ploy not a measure of how much you are worth as a person.
I completely get that. My life was a self induced mixed up hell for a few years as well.
So ok, it is what it is.
I say let the fool do whatever he is going to do and you indulge YOU.
Enjoy a peaceful night and remember Valentine's day is a marketing ploy not a measure of how much you are worth as a person.
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pink....it sounds like you are pretty much at acceptance that the relationship is at the spoiled melon stage.
I agree that valentines day is a manufactured holiday.
Try not to give it much thought.
Trust me...you will not be the only person, across America, alone in this....LOL!
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I agree that valentines day is a manufactured holiday.
Try not to give it much thought.
Trust me...you will not be the only person, across America, alone in this....LOL!
dandylion
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and, actually, not having a pain in the ass around increases your chance of making yourself happy - so treat yourself in some way ! Popcorn and a good movie, a healthy friend to come by maybe, fresh air , good music and candles - get creative.It doesn't have to cost much, if anything. This is your life and your responsibilty to yourself.
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Originally Posted by pinkpeony 
Living here in this house together and not wanting to be together.
Maybe we'll watch "The Breakup" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, lol.
Eh, I'm sure he'll be gone partying to drown his sorrows, so I'll be here watching it alone, ha.
Maybe we'll watch "The Breakup" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, lol.
Eh, I'm sure he'll be gone partying to drown his sorrows, so I'll be here watching it alone, ha.
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Originally Posted by MissFixit
Maybe encourage him to go see "Susan" and you can have a night free of him?
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It is easier to be alone without a partner than alone when we are still married so I'll send all of you that are in lonely marriages warm wishes - because that is the loneliest of all.
It is such a nonsense holiday. This day is where we all get to take our recovery tools out for spin.
We can treat ourselves to something special or not but it is largely a state of mind.
I'm going to practice finding joy in the moment. That is always such a challenge for me - I don't even know why but I'm sullen way to much of the time. I'm also going to practice loving myself - which is also a challenge. I spend a lot of time figuring out how to be a better mom, a better person, fix my flaws but I don't spend a lot of time thinking about loving me. It is something to pay attention to it especially when we don't have other people saying "I love you." to remind us we are lovable.
My wish for you tomorrow pink is that your husband gifts you with no drama, that you find some joy in your daily routine, some solitude, and that you can really love yourself. You are so worthy of that love.
It is such a nonsense holiday. This day is where we all get to take our recovery tools out for spin.
We can treat ourselves to something special or not but it is largely a state of mind. I'm going to practice finding joy in the moment. That is always such a challenge for me - I don't even know why but I'm sullen way to much of the time. I'm also going to practice loving myself - which is also a challenge. I spend a lot of time figuring out how to be a better mom, a better person, fix my flaws but I don't spend a lot of time thinking about loving me. It is something to pay attention to it especially when we don't have other people saying "I love you." to remind us we are lovable.
My wish for you tomorrow pink is that your husband gifts you with no drama, that you find some joy in your daily routine, some solitude, and that you can really love yourself. You are so worthy of that love.
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6 yrs ago I did the footwork I needed to
do in my recovery program and was blessed
with an outlet and reason to leave the
unhappiness, restlessness and discontent
I felt in my 25 yr. marriage.
During that marriage, I looked forward
to the weekends, holidays when my
husband would be away with our kids
on scout and band trips.
For years, I was the one in the family
that made sure all holidays and important
days were acknowledged as the way I
was brought up. Then over the yrs and
the marriage was losing its importants,
my spouse began to loose interest in
celebrating. He stole the joy of holidays
with the family away from me.
However, I continue to celebrate with
the kids and myself. Then it was just me.
I would wake up to the house to myself,
all clean and in order, make a noon AA
meeting, a jog at the park, pick me something
up comfy and pretty to sleep in. New sheets.
Something delicious to either cook for myself
or pick up to enjoy in front of a good movie
only I would enjoy and top it off with my favorite
ice cream.
All I had was me and my boy cats and peace
and quiet. It was heaven and a joy.
Today, well tomorrow, my now husband
and I will celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary
together remembering how we met and this
special day we rode to the JP on our Harley
to exchange vows. Then like we did that special
day, spending our honeymoon getting a new
tattoo, I will be getting a new one tomorrow.
It will be just as pretty and special just like
the others I have. This one will be a red heart
with two birds kissing. Traditional style tattoo.
I never in my wildest dreams ever imagine
ever being able to leave my unhappy marriage
6 yrs ago, then to have a new man in my life
like I have today.
It was thru Faith and a Program of Recovery
that I live by each day that has granted me
many wonderful blessings and gifts in my
life today.
I hope you find joy for urself today as well
as tomorrow because you are worth happiness.
Don't let anyone still your joy away.
do in my recovery program and was blessed
with an outlet and reason to leave the
unhappiness, restlessness and discontent
I felt in my 25 yr. marriage.
During that marriage, I looked forward
to the weekends, holidays when my
husband would be away with our kids
on scout and band trips.
For years, I was the one in the family
that made sure all holidays and important
days were acknowledged as the way I
was brought up. Then over the yrs and
the marriage was losing its importants,
my spouse began to loose interest in
celebrating. He stole the joy of holidays
with the family away from me.
However, I continue to celebrate with
the kids and myself. Then it was just me.
I would wake up to the house to myself,
all clean and in order, make a noon AA
meeting, a jog at the park, pick me something
up comfy and pretty to sleep in. New sheets.
Something delicious to either cook for myself
or pick up to enjoy in front of a good movie
only I would enjoy and top it off with my favorite
ice cream.
All I had was me and my boy cats and peace
and quiet. It was heaven and a joy.
Today, well tomorrow, my now husband
and I will celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary
together remembering how we met and this
special day we rode to the JP on our Harley
to exchange vows. Then like we did that special
day, spending our honeymoon getting a new
tattoo, I will be getting a new one tomorrow.
It will be just as pretty and special just like
the others I have. This one will be a red heart
with two birds kissing. Traditional style tattoo.
I never in my wildest dreams ever imagine
ever being able to leave my unhappy marriage
6 yrs ago, then to have a new man in my life
like I have today.
It was thru Faith and a Program of Recovery
that I live by each day that has granted me
many wonderful blessings and gifts in my
life today.
I hope you find joy for urself today as well
as tomorrow because you are worth happiness.
Don't let anyone still your joy away.
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Valentine's Day?
Who cares? One should be grateful to have someone they love the other 364 days out of the year, too. All that holiday is is extortion by florists and chocolatiers.
Who cares? One should be grateful to have someone they love the other 364 days out of the year, too. All that holiday is is extortion by florists and chocolatiers.
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Pink-
Here's my take on V-day--- it's a load of BS. I don't need a card, flowers, chocolates, and dates to know that I'm loved. I'd rather just have an abuse/alcohol free marriage and some good 'ol healthy communication. That would make me the happiest girl on the planet. Even if I was in a healthy relationship, I've just never cared for V-day. I think we should show each other that kind of love everyday. Big money maker in my opinion...but anyways...
Ok, having said that--- you know that you don't want this dude anyway, so even if you LOVE V-day--it doesn't apply to your situation anyway.
Right now, you are waiting for the right time to leave, so why are you even thinking that this day applies to you two? Just think of V-day's to come. Take a bath, make a cup of coca or something. I wouldn't put this man in the visions of "the day of love" thing. It doesn't apply to him.
Here's my take on V-day--- it's a load of BS. I don't need a card, flowers, chocolates, and dates to know that I'm loved. I'd rather just have an abuse/alcohol free marriage and some good 'ol healthy communication. That would make me the happiest girl on the planet. Even if I was in a healthy relationship, I've just never cared for V-day. I think we should show each other that kind of love everyday. Big money maker in my opinion...but anyways...
Ok, having said that--- you know that you don't want this dude anyway, so even if you LOVE V-day--it doesn't apply to your situation anyway.
Right now, you are waiting for the right time to leave, so why are you even thinking that this day applies to you two? Just think of V-day's to come. Take a bath, make a cup of coca or something. I wouldn't put this man in the visions of "the day of love" thing. It doesn't apply to him.
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For me today will be about...home Movies and popcorn with my beautiful children.
And I am going to treat myself to a home pedicure.
Just because I want too.
Today I will be kind to ME...because I am worth it.
Do something nice for yourself today...just because you can.
Take care Phiz
And I am going to treat myself to a home pedicure.
Just because I want too.
Today I will be kind to ME...because I am worth it.
Do something nice for yourself today...just because you can.
Take care Phiz
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