Am I Being Naive?
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Originally Posted by brightdaysahead 
Whether or not he poured the alcohol? Unfortunately, that mystery will not be solved. So, I stuck with the facts (liquor receipts). He shouldn't have been in the liquor store at all, and he knows that. So, whether I should believe him or not? Well - I don't have that answer. Certainly, trust has been somewhat compromised. And, that falls squarely on his shoulders. He knows that too. Beyond that, my thoughts have turned to SR, Al-Anon and be supportive to my husband during this difficult trial in his life.
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Originally Posted by brightdaysahead
Well - I am attempting to reference a quote from Hopeful4. Hopefully, I've mastered quoting another's post. I apologize in advance if it didn't work. Whether or not he poured the alcohol? Unfortunately, that mystery will not be solved. So, I stuck with the facts (liquor receipts). He shouldn't have been in the liquor store at all, and he knows that. So, whether I should believe him or not? Well - I don't have that answer. Certainly, trust has been somewhat compromised. And, that falls squarely on his shoulders. He knows that too. Beyond that, my thoughts have turned to SR, Al-Anon and be supportive to my husband during this difficult trial in his life.
You will at some point learn about detachment. The sooner you stop worrying if he drinks, or lies or etc., the sooner your life will get back into focus. You aren't doing any of these, so they should not be in control of your time. Alcoholism is a very destructive disease. It will make you almost as sick as him in many ways. It will take all the energy from you, you want to give it.
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Originally Posted by Hangnbyathread
Please don't take this as being mean. Yes you are correct about the receipts. He should have never been in there. And hearing him say he poured them out is to the normal mind ridiculous sounding and you know it. You need to learn early on, they will lie about whatever you pry into.
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Originally Posted by brightdaysahead
Point well taken. That's the unfortunate part with this...dishonesty. I would have NEVER thought my husband would have been dishonest. NEVER. But, there you go - little did I know. I still believe in him though. That might be my own downfall. Time will tell. But, in the meantime, I wholeheartedly agree with you - I need to learn detachment...like NOW. I don't want to board this emotional rollercoaster ride.
They can be sorry all the wanted. You can't put the bullet back in once it leaves the barrel.
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